I am a man with ADHD. I wonder how many ADD/ADHD men feel like we display a flat affect (Poker face) yet we can be intensely happy or angry in a heart beat especially when something is percieved as a great opportunity or achievement or illogical, unfair or negative. I feel a more intouch with emotion when my meds are wearing off or I happen to skip a dose... What is your experience?

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Gender Memories and Emotion

hope this helps a bit, in addition to any more informed responses

I don't show a "poker face"! people KNOW when I'm angry..I get some strange/odd faces sometimes, especially when I'm upset...when I'm disapointed, frustrated or upset, you will know...I have a temper problem....this is one of my biggest issues is associated with ADD...I can get intensively MAD when I play sports(golf). Just come out and play with me sometimes..)

I try but it's an immediate failure every time. If I'm hurt, it shows. Only thing is, it tends to illicit the opposite effect of what I'm trying to convey. People will think it's funny or no big deal.
I definitely know that it's a huge factor when the med effects are worn off. My tolerance for people goes down by an immeasurable factor. Being more 'in-touch' with emotion is not a good thing for me because it's generally what leads to me missing or incorrectly perceiving social clues from others. That leads to more frustration and others having a poor opinion of me.

While the Adderal is in full force, I'm so hyperfocused that my friends question whether I'm OCD. It has reduced my sex drive as well which suprised me being that it is a stimulant. I also think I have a flat affect but that could also be due to the combination of meds I take.

Lord Know I have that poker face. Half the people i know think I am cold and hard but find out latter that is just a mask. I dont think is the ADD that does it i think most men have that ability.

Funny this thread would come up. A lot of my friends would call me "Mr. Mystery", because they couldn't figure me out. :confused:

sometimes I can be extremely emotional

and sometimes super unemotional , is a ****ty problem.

I hope you don’t’ mind my interjecting here. I know it’s a thread for men, but I have a question for men who actually admit to feeling emotion.

My son’s father is a very emotional person. It took me awhile to figure that out because the only emotion he ever allows to show is anger. After dealing with him all these years, I have come to know what emotions lie beneath the bravado.

My question is, how do I prevent my son from taking after him in that way. He (my son) is very sensitive like both of his parents. Since he looks to Daddy as a role model, is he going to hide his real emotions the same way? Is there something I can do to keep that from happening?

My question is, how do I prevent my son from taking after him in that way. He (my son) is very sensitive like both of his parents. Since he looks to Daddy as a role model, is he going to hide his real emotions the same way? Is there something I can do to keep that from happening?
No problem with posting in this area. :D

Your son is his own person. Wouldn't it be nice to have everyone do the things we want them to do. This is just not possible.

The only thing you can do is explain to your son that it is OK to be angry, sad, happy or discouraged. "Show" him these things too. When you are experiencing an emotion, share it with him and explain why you are experiencing this emotion. If the emotion is anger and directed towards him, re-enforce that you still love him regardless.

It will be up to him to make the decision on how to react to emotions. Just because he doesn't "show" an emotion, doesn't mean he's not "feeling" an emotion. If he doesn't "feel" emotions, then there are other deeper problems that should be addressed.

Long story short, be an "emotional" role model for your son. ;)

Aloha,

This post on your son caught my eye. Let me share a child is not necessarily like his father. Show him other family role models, and enrol him or her in activities where he sees coaches, sinsei (Martial Arts) or others showing Happiness, interest, passion for a sport, art or other such as patience. He or she will add that to their examples and information draw their own level of expression. I know I have two sons who's personalities are somewhat like mine yet very different and even teach me a thing or two... Enjoy raising your child.... Emotions are part of life.

Kaikona

I'm a woman with ADHD etc and I can relate to this too but I have no idea why this happens...I feel I'm more "normal" when I'm on dexamphetamines and I intend to ask my doc to put me back on them..lolI am a man with ADHD. I wonder how many ADD/ADHD men feel like we display a flat affect (Poker face) yet we can be intensely happy or angry in a heart beat especially when something is percieved as a great opportunity or achievement or illogical, unfair or negative. I feel a more intouch with emotion when my meds are wearing off or I happen to skip a dose... What is your experience?