Well I learned somthing about a great many people on this site. Namely that an hit of being proud of a tallent or accomplishment even when they come from hard work and determination and despite the obsticals of ADD is wrong. That doing so begs for others to make fun of you, behind your back and with the wit of an eight year old child. There should be a disclaimer on this site that makes it known that having ADD and fiting in is all about putting people down, talking behind anyone precived as being proud, and posting the same wo is me posts is what is expected and required to fit in. Dreams and tallents are only egotistical rants, how could they be anything else? Misery loves company and posts should be limited to wondering or even better complaining that your job is terrible because your boss expects things of you. Imagine someone running a buissness not catering to the fact that you wont put in the effort reqired to do your job. Posts about your ADD must be about failure and how others just dont understand. I always wondered where all the stigmatizm of having ADD came from. Now I know, it is self induced by those who have add because many of you seem to belive that complaining and striving twords being average is what you need to do so as not to be made fun of even amung those who have the same difficulty with ADD that we all do. Showing pride or even sugjesting that you like and are proud that you have made strides and have accomplished somthing brings with it a gaurntee that you will be talked about is a dozen posts trying to paint you egotistical and some that insinuate that you dont have ADD becuse you think indepedintly, strive to be great at something, and see the challege of your life as something that can make you strong and self accualized. I wish that i did not have ADD because that means that not only is there a stigma put on you by society but also by those who have ADD themselves. This is not addressed to all of you but those who I am speaking of wiil shurly show themselves and prove me right in there replies, directly or indirectly to this post. I am saddened that i will be proved right. Dreams, independent thought, and sucess should be a part of all ADDer's lives but that takes hard work and determination and it is much easier to complain, ridicule, and have no hope of being someone better. Oh, my favorite posts where the ones about my bad spelling, sorry that i dont use spell check before i post and that i am bad at spelling, you found my weekness so it must be pointed out. Anything you can use as amo is fair game because I make you feel inferior when if you had any sence of reality you would have realised that i was trying to get people to realize that dreams are possible when combined with hard work. But that seems to be such a forign concept that it was taken as me calling you stupid. I never put down anyone here and have been put down non-stop for the past three days. Maybe if you put that energy into cultivating somthing that you could feel good about you wouldnt feel quite so bad about being who you are. You taught me that being average and following the herd is all that you are capable of, any wonder that you feel stigmatized. Sorry but my life has its ups and downs but i am successfull at something through nothing but my own hard work and determination to become something more than average. Im ready for your angry posts now because much like an eight year old that is what makes you feel good, by your posts it seems to be working out for you, because the world is against you or maybe it just dosent cater to you enough but then something might be expected of you and being so scarred to fail you never take the time to dream let alone try to make them real. Im done appoligizing, if you want to be a misarable, spitfull falure in life and blame it on ADD then go for it, I am proud of who i have become sorry that you wont ever know how good it feels to overcome and be someone you can be proud of.
If the above dosent pertain to you, and you know who you are I hope that we can make this site a place to share our highs and lows. Talk about anything and prove to people that ADD is not the cause of their unhappiness. Ignorance and fear of being different are.
Pith

I have no clue what you're talking about.

Everyone here has more than "paid their dues" to be here.

As far as I'm concerned, you're cool.

I also hope that you feel better.

take care
mctavish23 (Robert)

I know you dont know what i mean because you are not one of the group that i am talking about. I respect you and always find your posts to be intelligent and insitfull.
Pith

I get you Pith.....
It must have felt terrible to feel ridiculed like that.
Yes,this forum is for everybody.Happy,sad,depressed,anxious or anything in between.
Im glad you had the balls to say what you wanted and hope you feel justified.
I came to a conclusion a long,long time ago........

Everyone else is just as much a tortured soul as me,if not more.Especially if they take the time and effort to take aim at my imperfections(which is nothing)LOL!!!!!!Sorry,had too.

When I turned 17 I shaved my head and stuck my thumb to the wind because of these people who found lots of joy in engaging battle with me.

Not to get off on a tangent but I wouldnt sweat it,your fine.
We all put our pants on the same,we all have problems and for sure alot cant spell for our lives!!!!!

Like 23,I dont really know what your talkin' bout but I hope no one makes you feel like that again..........
But if they do anytime,anywhere,just picture them picking there nose or something!!!!!!!!LOL!!!!!Sorry,Im just a red neck,I have my limits!LOL!!!!!

Pith,

I'm really concerned you are talking about me. If I offended you, I am deeply sorrow. I was scared to death to comment on that thread you started. I felt sure I would get ridiculed for my unpopular views even though I feel they are well thought. I've kind of held my breath and said to myself: "Self you are what you are." Then did it.

So if it is me about whom you speak, I apologize for offending you. But not for my views.

I learned a lesson too. Don't read into posts more than is there.

I recently got a written diagnostic report from a psychologist documenting my ADHD diagnosis. This affliction has troubled me for 53 years. It is only recently that I feel the way you do at 30-. I truly like myself. If other people don't, they have the problem, not me.

Again, my apologies.

How can we help each other?

Bob

PS Please respond ASPA. I see you are on-line. I got to go out and would love to hear from you beforehand.

I'm not sure what you were referring to either, but it's obvious that you were/are very upset. If you have a specific thread or post to point out to illustrate for me/other moderators where this is happening, by all means contact us via private message. Or, if you go to the forum guidelines there is a way to report particular types of posts not in compliance with the guidelines, too.

I work with students every day who have a wide variety of learning needs. The damage to their self esteem from even minimal taunting is heartbreaking. Misspelled words do not have anything to do with an individual's level of intelligence, in my humble opinion.

Take a deep, cleansing breath, okay? Think of all you have accomplished, and all you are continuing to work on. We're all works in progress, from our first breath to our last.

I just want this forum to become more about how people deal with ADD and how they do it. I think that if everyone spent more time helping others instead of putting down people that we would all be better off. I belive that everyone of us have a gift and that to not use it and share it is tragic and makes everyone with ADD look bad. We are not idiots and we need to start to believe in ourselves before we can expect anyone else to.
Pith

Pith,

I'm new here & was recently diagnosed with ADD...I've been lurking about mostly & haven't posted much.....I'm not sure what you are referring to but I admire you for standing up for yourself & speaking what's on your mind.....I've never been able to do that....I've spent a good part of the last 30yrs either high on drugs or numbed out on antidepressants.....I have been just waking up & going through the motions rather than living life......you have a spark in yourself & a vitality in what you write....I don't know how to make goals & I'm not sure what dreams are anymore.....I love to read & used to write in high school [maaaaany yrs ago]...........you have a gift & you know it.......you believe in yourself.......
those are things that I believe I knew at one time & want to know again......

Good luck,

Nick

This may seem simplistic, but the IGNORE button can work wonders.

take care

Thanks, that makes this good for me. I just want everyone to be what they want to be and slowly try to reach for your inner truth. I will be in the chat room in a minute for anyone who wants to yell at me, ask me something, or sugjest how i can be more helpfull and less of a pain.