We have been married for 20 years now after a few near splits but ckily it never happened and a few dodgy patches but now I have my DX and have started ritalin our relationship is now much more even and I won't put up h so much and hubbie also finds he is now much more respectful than he wa and he now realises that prehaps he wasn't as he should have been towas me we had just got into a bad cycle d much of it now I can see clearly we can't blame all on my ADD but t was certainly the route of many of our problems
SO I am now celebratinmg the fact we made it to 20 years and survived and now have a much improved lationship with each other.
Thanks for listening just flet I wanted to tell someone.
07-10-02, 11:20 PM
I drive my husband crazy....Right now I'm off my Ritalin...
18 years here
I understand what your saying
my wife has put up with me and my ADD for 18 years but the last year has been much smother
06-03-03, 12:05 AM
Congrats Fiona, Paula and Garry....for hanging in there...for sticking with it....for showing that marriage vows mean something...with 50% of all marriages ending in divorce, you guys should be commended......:)
06-03-03, 11:29 AM
I needed that today.....
06-03-03, 03:37 PM
Okay Paula.....then here's a hug........:)
and have a great day....
Praise God and pass the mayo...I've been married 9 years and just found out that not only does my huband have add, my 8 yr old daughter has adhd and I too have been diagnosed with adhd, and I'm 43 years old. Now that I look back at my school years and even my marriage, we were totally in limbo! I am taking aderral and it has made the biggest difference in my life!
10-10-04, 10:09 PM
wow kathi! that is quite a handful, but at least everyone in the whole family can relate right? lol
i've been w/ my husband for about 12 yrs (febuary will be the technical) i met him in highschool and i've been married for four. we were content to just be boyfriend and g/f..then i thought..how ridiculous to call ourselves that when we really are far more committed to each other?
the one things i've noticed in here about relationship talk is this:
almost every post i've read refers to the nonadhd partner as they who 'put up' with us..don't we have to put up with THEM also?
i am very grateful for my husband- he's a wonderful man. he has his flaws too though as we all find out in a long term relationship. i guess the difference btwn ppl that are committed or not..would be that the committed don't leave after a bump in the road and stick it out. thats what our marriage vows were talking about. it took me awhile to realize this as i was only 18 when we moved in together (i'm currently 29)
back then i thought that he was brilliantly perfect and if never had any problems. when we started having 'problems' i thought maybe i should leave? but it worked out for the better. painfully but better.
if you can get to 'much better' after tough times with your loved one that is the whole point i think.