My goal is to write something that touches alot of people.
My greatest fear is that no one will ever understand me.

My goal is to be okay. Content. At peace with myself.
My greatest fear is death.

My goal is to be understood.
My biggest fear is to be understood.

Eric

My goal...to be a good person and live a humble yet fulfilling ,simple life.To raise my girls to become intelligent,independant,kind women.

My biggest fear?To be honest,I dont really have one......
Im just living.Taking it all in.Rolling with the flow.......

My goal is to finally accomplish one of my plans.
My fear is to never get any of them done.

Ultimate goal is to raise mentally (somewhat) health kids, hey I'm a Mom :D

My biggest fear ? I'll drive a school bus till I die :o

My goal in life is to do what I've been doing finding joy and being happy.:)

My greatest fear is to lose my mind in old age.:(

my biggest fear is dying alone and my goal is to do something good for the poeple .

My ultimate goal in life is "serenity", for myself and my child.

My biggest fear is that there is no turning around the direction this country has been heading for the past several years....

Goal to one day see myself as other see me.
Fear not living to see my children grown because one day I fear thatI'll get so tired of this world and do a final call.

Thanks for your honest and personal answers. I just asked because, I happens to everyone i think, I have been caught in an Existentialist sate of mide latly and it helps me to hear what others want in life and i am happy that people on this site are able to find meaning in life. Just another thing, do you guys think that having ADD and the struggles that come along with it make us more grounded and realistic in our lives than those who dont have to deal with their mids being an everyday part of their lives (in the sence that they dosent occure to them to think about why they do things the way they do) where as most of us have to try really hard to focus and attempt to sort out our thoughts on a daily basis? Thanks again for being open, it gives me hope that life is meaninfull because we all have things to live for.

What is the point in being Enigmatic.....when someone asks such a question....
Alright...I'll bite...hard....
You want to know what my ultimate goal is...
Nada with 'work/school' goals...
They're just fillers for me...
I actually have romantic goals...
Gee..Blow me down...huh?
I want...need...more than anything in this universe.....
Someone that entirely 'gets' me
Mind...body..soul......
No matter the mask....
It's still 'A Me'
I need to belong with someone who belongs with me.
Just remember before y'all start squacking...
I am Southern..
It doesn't mean I'm weak....
It just means I know what I really, really, really, want....and it also means that...
there are 'very few people' who believe the same
Moi

I like this thread and the posts people have made.

My goal is to find a wonderful woman to live together with who I can share stuff with and who will understand me, and vice versa. Also I want to be able to have money enough not to worry and only living happy life.
Biggest fear is being rejected and alone.

My goal - Find lasting happiness
My biggest fear - One of my kids dying

Hi Pith. My goals and fears have changed so many times through my life as I have matured.
At the risk of sounding like a Miss America contestant, I am going to try express this.

My greatest fear is THE phone call.
Quite frankly, it keeps me from answering the phone on most days. If I know you and love you, I know how precious and valuable you are. To know someone has suffered and not left me peacefully....that's it. The worst.


My greatest goals. To leave a statement behind...leave a piece of me that will hang around for a very, very long time.

I want to leave my family and friends secure in knowing that they were cared for and loved by me .....that there is no doubt in their minds that they are valued.

To help bring forth a positive change in someone's life. To be remembered as a genuine spirit, knowing that others enjoyed and received my presence and valued me for me alone..not because of some good deed or measurement of worth.

Adorn someone's wall...adorn someone's spirit.
Adorn someone's coffee table or child's shelf....adorn someone's thoughts and ideas.

I chase this goal through creating, writing, teaching and loving.

I know myself and my inner value, and I want the human, earthly connection that says..."Yeah, you matter and I am so happy you are here".

~gourmet~

To contribute to your question about individuals with ADD...I only know my deal.

I do have AD/HD. I've been told before that I am grounded....but I'll tell you. I am never afraid to visit the clouds. I float and explore every single day and refuse to accept one permanent set of rules that say..."this is your truth".

I'm not afraid of "dress up and pretend" and I reserve the right to change my mind as I see fit. But the foundation is there. Is that what they call the ground?

If it is, then my pinky toe is always securely touching base. ;)

~gourmet~

I think my greatest goal is to be a healthy successful happy women,,,,,, so far I have 1/4 lol,,, I am all women lol

My biggest fear is anything happening where my kids and I are not together whether it is death on either side or seperation,,,, it scares me so badly to think of not being with my kids.

My goal is too lose the rest of my weight and live a happy life with my children.

My fear is too have a slow death,im not afraid too die just dont want to go slowly.

I want to be happy. My fear is not to be. I'm so tired of the pain and fortunately that mostly seems to be behind me.
Cheers! Ian.

Actually Pith...my goal is to hear "well done good and faithful servant". My fear is that I'll be too busy looking around heaven to acknowledge receipt of such compliment!

Eric

Actually Pith...my goal is to hear "well done good and faithful servant". My fear is that I'll be too busy looking around heaven to acknowledge receipt of such compliment!

Eric
I dont get it. What are you trying to say.

My goal> Continue to have an open mind, grow, change, and help others along the way.

My fear> failing at all the above

My greatest goal in life is to lead a long and fulfilling life with challenges, successes and failures along the way.

My greatest fear is that I wont do all I can or be all I can be in my lifetime.

Actually Pith...my goal is to hear "well done good and faithful servant". My fear is that I'll be too busy looking around heaven to acknowledge receipt of such compliment!

Eric
Good one, Eric !
Nova

My goal:
To have the courage to open my heart and receive all of the gifts this world has to offer.
My fear:
I will lose my son or my husband before this happens

I dont get it. What are you trying to say. Well pith...it goes to my faith. We're told that when we die, as believers, we'll hear "well done good and faithful servant" which is the goal of every christian. I, being the smart-**** I am, played off on the ADHD aspect by saying I'd probably be so distracted by all that glitters as to not hear it.

Just being funny...

But really....a good set of questions to get one's mind thinking!

Eric

Well pith...it goes to my faith. We're told that when we die, as believers, we'll hear "well done good and faithful servant" which is the goal of every christian. I, being the smart-**** I am, played off on the ADHD aspect by saying I'd probably be so distracted by all that glitters as to not hear it.

Just being funny...

But really....a good set of questions to get one's mind thinking!

Eric
Eric,

You have a good sense of humor. More importantly you are a man of conviction and courage. That impresses me far more than you being a professional pilot which I fully appreciated takes a lot of brain power and hard work.

Look everyone, I am NOT INTERESTED IN A DEBATE. Just MHO: moral fiber has far more to do with coping with ADHD than therapy - med or otherwise.

Please do not flame me. I am very sensitive.

Bob

Thank you for recognizing his courage and conviction. Unfortunitly it took me being a jerk to see it and his ability to forgive for me to belive it. And you are the better person for it. Thank you for teaching me something about the fact that i am to quick to jude others. ALL the best.
Pith

Adorn someone's wall...adorn someone's spirit.
Adorn someone's coffee table or child's shelf....adorn someone's thoughts and ideas. I couldn't think what to write without sounding pedestrian. Thanks to Gourmet, I'll just second her emotion. :cool:

greatest goal: to make a real difference in the life of at least one person

greatest fear: seeing fear/panic/anguish in my children's eyes and being unable to help
them

Ouch ms_sunshine...

Nothing hurts more than seeing your child in pain/panic/fear and knowing you can't do a thing about it. Knowing it's a part of life and they have to face it on their own. Knowing all you can do is stand with them and wish you could take the pain/panic/fear. Knowing you'd be doing them a disservice if you did. Knowing all you can do is pray...

Eric

What an excellant thread pith!!!!

Lostdog, I am sure that the Lord knows our weakness for sparkly shiney things. I fully expect a huge sparkling sign to welcome me when I reach the gates of heaven. *wink, wink* so there will be no doubt in my mind that I have served my purpose well.

I want to be a nurse. Nothing more, nothing less will do.
I'm afraid of my children's tears.

my biggest fear in life is that i'll forever feel like that kid (from the awful joke) whose parents tell him to stop running around or they'll nail his other foot to the floor. i've been raising my kids and staying put. makes me feel totally claustrophobic. i need to move. i used to be a traveller working outside my country of origin and want to get on the move again. it's awful feeling like a caddisfly larvae carrying all sorts of garbage on my back.


my ultimate goal in life is to experience the world. i have way way too much curiosity to satisfy. i need to challenge myself in ways i'm not doing now. i need change. it's the ADHD in me.

You know, I recently realized that I'm not really afraid of anything. I don't mean that I'm fearless or don't worry about things. I have goals, but I figure life comes along and I will either reach them, or realize that it was really something else that I was looking for, but the journey, even if the destination is different, most definitely won't have been a waste of time.

The ol' black depression cloud has been hovering lately, and my goal is--literally--to re-learn how to take better care of myself.

Sometimes it's easier to do things for others than to do them for myself, so keep reminding myself that I can't help others if I don't take care of myself. It's like when flight crews instruct adults to put their own oxygen masks on before helping children with theirs. Goes against instinct, but is ultimately the right thing to do.

Sorry to ramble. Everyone's posts got me to thinkin'.

Anyway, excellent thread idea and posts!

Ericmeister :)
When I was 19, I nearly died in a car accident. I had last rites. My parents received the 2 am phone call all parents dread. They thought, upon arrival at the hospital, that I had died. I could hear them screaming. They were ushered into the trauma room prior to my surgery, and saw me grey and near death, covered in my own blood on a gurney. I saw a look on their faces that I NEVER want to see there again, let alone experience firsthand. The picture I reflected for them in my own eyes--that's the type of pain/fear/anguish I never want to see on the faces of my children. My parents were completely helpless. That one moment in time forever aged them. And it was nothing compared to the people we knew who did lose their kids.
I'm not talking about letting kids fall to learn from their mistakes. I may not like that either, but I understand the necessity of it. I've learned to have faith and trust, and step back while they make their own ways. I do appreciate your commitment to your faith. I just wanted to express that I meant something different. For me, faith would enter into things differently...but it would enter in :)

Wow sunshine...words escape me right now. I think I would be devastated were either of my children or my wife were to die. I honestly think it would take a lot of long, drawn out therapy to put me right again...

Thanks for the clarification...

Eric

"To vanguish my enemies before me and take all their possesions and women..."

Wait that was Conan.:)

mctavish...

I thought it should be...

THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!!!

LOL!!

Eric

Ericmeister :)
When I was 19, I nearly died in a car accident. I had last rites. My parents received the 2 am phone call all parents dread. They thought, upon arrival at the hospital, that I had died. I could hear them screaming. They were ushered into the trauma room prior to my surgery, and saw me grey and near death, covered in my own blood on a gurney. I saw a look on their faces that I NEVER want to see there again, let alone experience firsthand. The picture I reflected for them in my own eyes--that's the type of pain/fear/anguish I never want to see on the faces of my children. My parents were completely helpless. That one moment in time forever aged them. And it was nothing compared to the people we knew who did lose their kids.
I'm not talking about letting kids fall to learn from their mistakes. I may not like that either, but I understand the necessity of it. I've learned to have faith and trust, and step back while they make their own ways. I do appreciate your commitment to your faith. I just wanted to express that I meant something different. For me, faith would enter into things differently...but it would enter in :)
ms_sunshine,

A pretty religious person that lived roughly 2000 years ago said: "Persons in health do not need a physician, but the ailing do."

Can things go wrong with our brains that call for a physician? - you can bet your lifesavers.

The two are not incompatible (faith<>therapy). Not to seek therapy for mental trauma is unwise. I congradulated Lostdog not because I happen to necessarily agree with him but becuase he had to courage to express a minority opinion. That takes well, I am sure you know the crude term for it.

I went through therapy for ADHD. I take Adderal XR to control its symptoms. I do not apologize for either. I am truly sick in the head.

Incidently, these boards are my therapy. I find emotional support just reading so many posts from others that perfectly describe me not to mention rock-solid practical advice that works.

Pith,

Great thread man.

To avoid a philosophical/religious thread (I happen to agree that neither has its place here because of so many divergent views) may I list my short term goals:

1. To stop being a cry baby. This is a new goal spawned by CNN news about the Kashmir quake.

2. Biggest fear? Hurting people with my ADHD mouth. I do it pretty regularly.

Bob

My goal is to discover and fulfill my purpose.
My biggest fear is never discovering my purpose.

My goal is to be a success at whatever i do.

My biggest fear is of being forgotten..

My Ultimate goal is getting my company off the ground.

My biggest fear is having my Jockey T-Shirts mixed with my Fruit of The Loom T-Shirts.
God help whoever makes this mistake in my castle.
They do not get washed together but separate.
They are to be washed by hand.
Wash water and Rinse water is to be different.
Soap is to be different. Jockey = Woolight FTL = Tide.
Wash time and Dry time must be different.
The Dryer is not to EVER be used.
No metal hangers EVER for either.
Jockey gets Large Plastic WHITE hanger and FTL will have the Large BLUE hanger.

When Jockey is 75% dry it is to be ironed using the GE iron on the appropriate setting. Pinstriped Ironing board is to be used with Jockey shirts ONLY.
Fold and Place in Middle dresser drawer.

FTL 85% dry use Black & Decker iron on Ivory ironing board ONLY.
Fold and place in the bottom drawer of dresser.

TOTAL =
12 Jockey 6 Left 6 Right
12 FTL 6 Left 6 Right

No Fabric Softer Ever!
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My ultimate goal is to raise a child that is caring, loving, successful, and everyother great thing you could dream up.

My ultimate fear is loosing my husband or my child for whatever reason.

My ultimate goal is to write a bestselling novel.
My fear is I'll never find enough focus to finish.
My greatest fear is losing my husband...

Biggest fear by far: failure
Nothing else comes close

biggest fear right now -not finding any roomates to help with this giant mortgage