dont you feel really sad and embarrassed and ashamed all the time about your add?
No, I dont
I am aware of problems etc but whay should I feel ashamed about it? And why do you have to be such a damn narcissist?
when you make a big deal out of noting that the garbage in the sink is two days old and I forgot it, and all you have to say is, take it out...
why do you have to always change the topic so its about me....it doesnt work to tel you to do something, you have a bad memory so you wouldnt remember me telling you several timesno i remember yousaying it, I forgot, just tell me to do it...but past expirence says you wont do it untuill i get in your face and make it uncomfortable for you enough that youll do it
but when you make that little show of looking in the sink, and looking at the calendar, it sems demeaning and its not really neccessary to point out how long its been there, just remind me by saying, take care of it...you seem to like to try and focus the problem on me...you avoid when your being confronted and try to put the blame on the other person...


you must like wasting time looking for things otherwise youd put into place other options, and make me part of your team effort....remember in school, you had me, and the doctor, and the teacher and Mrs whomever....?

later self talk aloud...
I must like looking for things or Id just put stuff where its supposed to go the first time....
thats not a very nice thing to say, that borders on verbal abuse, your shame over having add causes you to treat yourself so badly... :eyebrow:

Could you please explain the nature of the dialogue.

Were you actually talking to someone or are those random thoughts?

Who decides where the 'stuff goes to the first time'.......hmmmmm ?
My 'stuff' is all over the place...just like my mind. I like it like that. Makes people take notice and feel lively..instead of feeling familiar and comfortable....and stale...
Nova

PS-
'We' Narcissists aren't as bad as some make us...
Nova

Who decides where the 'stuff goes to the first time'.......hmmmmm ?
My 'stuff' is all over the place...just like my mind. I like it like that. Makes people take notice and feel lively..instead of feeling familiar and comfortable....and stale...
Nova
Why do you put those words together like they are the same thing...."familiar, comfortable and stale" Nova? Isnt familiar and comfortable what you are seeking overall with another person? It seems that so far you already have "all over the place" and "lively" in your life, as do I. In which state are you truly most comfortable? Which do you seek?

I'm not trying to be cute here, I just notice a little inconsistancy there is all....:rolleyes:

Luv and Hugs
Jen

maybe that's two sides of the same coin.

the yin and yang of add, seeking a familiar and comfortable place, and yet being attracted to new and unfamiliar???

familiar, comfortable and in incredible irony, therefore stale?

It could also be I need a snack.

Why do you put those words together like they are the same thing...."familiar, comfortable and stale" Nova? Isnt familiar and comfortable what you are seeking overall with another person? It seems that so far you already have "all over the place" and "lively" in your life, as do I. In which state are you truly most comfortable? Which do you seek?

I'm not trying to be cute here, I just notice a little inconsistancy there is all....:rolleyes:

Luv and Hugs
Jen
Actually, no..Jen. It never was, that was my 'issue'...I hate familiar and comfortable...I need someone just as lively as I am. I don't do well with Comfortable..ever...and I drive the Comfortables nuts.
Nova (love you back, sis)

Stale as in routine/lacking imagination/rigid.
Not always going hand in hand with comfortable and familiar...but it all depends on both people and both of their needs being met.
I believe that Britar was 'talking outloud' about how it feels to not meet expectations (own or otherwise), chastising herself...like I do when I do a million idiotic things because I believe NO ONE EVER DOES.
Silly, huh?
Nova

I can relate. I broke up with the one man I was ever "in love" with because the relationship got too comfortable. To this day I know all of my romantic relationships have a time limit. Probably one reason I avoid them.

I still don't understand the context of that entire conversation.

It's not clear who made those remarks or why.

Were they examples of self-dialogue or even random thoughts?

To me, that's the only way any of that makes sense.

'later self talk aloud...'

I believe she was 'letting us in' her mindset, McT., Ya Gorgeous Left Brainer !
Smooches!
Nova


I still don't understand the context of that entire conversation.

It's not clear who made those remarks or why.

Were they examples of self-dialogue or even random thoughts?

To me, that's the only way any of that makes sense.

Probably one reason I avoid them.
I'm sorry...did you say 'running' ??
LOL!
Back at ya, sis !
Nova

sorry, shoulda included a "key" the green is my mom, the little black is me in response, the big black is my thoughts...pink is self thoughts too...

Thank you....with a shoutout to Ms NOVA:)

Thank you....with a shoutout to Ms NOVA:)

Ok, you got me, LOL!
Good one McT...I deserved it !
LMAO !
Nova

sorry, shoulda included a "key" the green is my mom, the little black is me in response, the big black is my thoughts...pink is self thoughts too...
Yeah I guessed the other person was your mother. Deja vu would be an understatement. ::sigh::

I thought it was a romantic partner. That would have been a deja vu for me...

Nova, you know me too well....It doesnt FEEL like running...but the feeling inside is accurate.
Shucks, I didnt know you thought I was pretty. Thanks for saying so, even if its a stretch.....
Luv ya

I used to be ashamed of being "different" but NOT ANYMORE!!!! and whoever thinks I should be ashamed can go and whistle dixie because they're the ones with the problem not I

My question is if people have such a problem with the messes we forget to clean up,,, then why do they let it sit and continue to complain to us? I remember once when I was 16,,, my mom's girlfriend (guess being a lesbian runs in the family) started screaming at me about walking over this newspaper in the yard for two weeks and not picking it up. My question to her then was,,,, why are you yelling at me for doing exactly what you did. She says,,,,, what did I do? I said,,,,, you walked over it for two weeks waiting for someone else to pick it up.


She was very mad at me to say the least.

Good on you for sticking up for yourself!:D....she sounded like she needed to be put back in her place!:rolleyes: My question is if people have such a problem with the messes we forget to clean up,,, then why do they let it sit and continue to complain to us? I remember once when I was 16,,, my mom's girlfriend (guess being a lesbian runs in the family) started screaming at me about walking over this newspaper in the yard for two weeks and not picking it up. My question to her then was,,,, why are you yelling at me for doing exactly what you did. She says,,,,, what did I do? I said,,,,, you walked over it for two weeks waiting for someone else to pick it up.


She was very mad at me to say the least.