Just want to say a few things about my postings, and the problems with them
They are long because i find it hard to express what i am really trying to say so i write until i feel that my point or question is clear. I dont edit them down because i think that if you follow my thought procces that leads to my point then you will be better able to understand me and the reason for the post.
Second, I bring up ideas that some find offencive or inapropriate. It is just me, when i ask a question or post an idea or thought it is not becuace i want to be validated. I really want to know what others think so that i can learn more about ADD, myself, and others. I have no hidden agenda.
Third, attacks and putting me down. Why? If you have a valid dissagrement and can back it up please do but if you are just trying to put me down or make me feel bad it only makes me realize that you are insecure, close minded, have nothing to say, or are just a spitfull person. My feelings are not hurt but if that is your way of dealing with things then im sure that your life reflects that.
Fourth, if you have a problem with me i would be happy to address it in private.
Fifth, Posts in which I mention my accomplishments. I am proud of my accomplishments and belive in myself. I also always include the fact that I think that everyone is tallented and inteligent in there own way. If you want to bash me as a vain person realize that it is through hard work, listing to others, therapy, and proper medication that got me there and that if you think that i am wrong in saying that we all should work to become more intellegent and self confident people then you are just lazy or close minded in beliving that you cant improve your life.
Sixth, I would like to know why so many posts on this site are attacks or complaints. We should spend more time helping and learning from each other and save the complaning for our doctors.
Lastly, new people to this site who read negitive posts and so many of them are going to belive that this is ADD and they are screwed because of it. If they read about peoples ideas, accomplishments, coping skills, and insight then the might realize that you dont have to quit because life is chalenging. I just want to understand you and learn from you, that is the simple truth. And i am done apologizing because i realize that your problems with my posts are just problems that you need to address. I respect you all and belive that if we all work together that maybe we can become better people and end the stigma of ADD.
Thanks
Pith

Pith,
I would love for you to post about your accomplishments. For example, state what the specific obstacle was for you, then address ways you have worked to overcome it. There are so many people, as you pointed out, who come here for the first time. Let's give them something positive to strive for. One lesson that took me a very long time to learn was this: I cannot do anything about how other people are. All I can do is work on myself, and how I choose to react to those people.
If there is something you are working on (a work in progress, in other words) then maybe phrasing it as a question would help generate more positive feedback for you, and consequently for the other people reading/posting? For example, you could say: Here's the scenario, this is what I did/want to do. What would you do/not do? Why or why not? Things like this can be very beneficial to all of us, and I would hope there would be less negativity expressed all around. :)

Thanks for explaining what it is you are intending with your posts.

Cynde

Thanks,
Well all my life I wanted to be a writer but had a hard time sorting out ideas, story lines, concepts and i wanted to read everything but i couldent read more than a paragraph at a time before getting distracted. So for eighteen years i had a dream and was greatly depressed that i would never be able to write, because i thought (and told by others on a regular basis) i was stupid, lazy, a dreamer, unrealistic. So i began college and went to a psychatrist for the first time in my life because i was doing so many drugs to hid my anger and frustration that i would never be anything. So i went in for anxiety due to the fact that doing tons of extacy and cocaine tends to make you a bit nervy. So after a couple of sessesions he asked me if i would mind going to a specialist in learning disorders, i agreed and spent a whole day doing all kinds of random tests, questionings, talking and was wondering what any of this had to do with my troubles. It was then that i was told that i had ADD, i didnt even know what that ment. So the doctor explained things to me and so i started on medication and twice a week therapy. Within a month I could accually visualize a storyline. It was one of the happiest days of my life. Long story short, I chose to major in literature, started reading anything i could get my hands on, and read somewhere that anyone who wants to be a writer should start by writing a thousand words a day, no mor, no less, no cencoring. So I began work on my first novel and with the help of some amazing proffesors and sticking to writing my thousand words a day i finished my book and have written everyday sence, been published, and freelance. I thank God that I was helped by so many people who really cared and took the time with some screwed up kid to figure out what was holding me back. I want everyone in the world to strive for something because even when i fail or have to scrap a novel half way through i know that if i keep at it i will keep improving and have the ability to express myself, somthing that in never thought would be possible.

pith--

I too am one that has long had the dream of writing. As I'm sure you know, no story writer's characters are ever totally separate from the personality of the writer.

Why not write what you know? That is, why not write a story about someone with ADD, told from the first-person perspective? Tell about the frustration, but add some story structure.

That way, you can use your creativity--and I believe you are creative--and at the same time find some therapeutic benefit in your writing.

Best Regards,
DBR

I would love to but i need to get over my shame of hidding my ADD from most people. And it is difficult for me to explain what it feels like inside my head, i just need to get over it and give it a try. Thanks for the post it brings up a subject that i have been avoiding.

Pith,

I like your your questions. It's gives me something to ponder.
I like to see what and how other people do things.
I thought that was the whole idea of support?
So keep doing what you do and being who you are.
If they don't like it, they don't have to read it or respond.
It's much like watching TV if you don't like the program then change the channel, don't call the TV station to gripe about it.

Just my point of view.

Looking forward to your next question?

Hope

Thanks, but i have to tread lightly because these forums are like high school and they shouldnt be but forget it....

Someone must have really hurt your feelings it seems.Im sorry for that.Personal attacks should never be acceptable in any case.
Myself,Im a pretty sensitive girl but I have never really seen any attacks for myself.Well,maybe one.But usually it is a case of computer misunderstanding.You dont hear the emotion or tone in theyre voice.You dont see the faces and the gestures so it can seem totally diffrent than what it is.

OH yes,complaints.....I have alot!LOL!!!!!
There is a place for everything here.Thats the beauty of it.Complaining is just a way of releasing those demons.Getting advice and sharing opinions and comfort.

I know I cant be positive all the time,I would be a robot!LOL!!!!!!New people that come in will feel at home with the gripes as well as the wonderful and compassionate,edgucating threads we all add to this community.
They will see themselves in it and relate and feel comforted and maybe a little more accepting of theyre own gripes.
Sometimes,one can be going through a problem and be dumbfounded on the conclusion but then they see someone else with the same problem and it opens theyre eyes and lets them see the big picture and apply it to themselves.

You sound very nice and I sure hope no one would be rude or attack you.If so,the moderaters here are the best!They handle things gracefully and yet with a firm tone.Yet,they still give everyone room to breath and express there feelings and point of views.

By the way Pith,Im sure your a excellent writer.Im up for a good read anyday.

Pith,

If you were willing to share I know a lot of members who are willing to read.
Come on give us something to sink our imaginations into.

I doubt I'd be the only one competing for "Boat Rocker of the Year," even if you are controversial. Drama just breaks sometimes on here. No worries--listen to what they said before me. Spill, man!

C

Thanks, If you can stomach my style start by checking out my post in the creative writing section of the forum. I would love feedback on it. Then if you want more i would be more than happy to send any of you one of my full works. I wish i had somthing to say but yet another psych has proven to me that my feelings and my being able to funtion is less important than his personal bias. I am going to try and put things to him in terms that will hit him close to home. Namely i will ask him if he had some incurable pain that was stoping him from functioning in life and doctors told him that, and he is african-american, "I dont belive in giving pain killers to black people because I dont belive that they feel physical pain so you are just another black looking for drugs". Maybe it would at least help the next person with a disorder or dissease that you cant see. Being diagnosed and feeling alive because of tretment and therapy for the first time in my life was a blessing. The curse is that you falsly belive that everyone is as open minded as the first docotor to send you for testing and to give you the proper medication. Im at that point again where you just cant help but questioning your own worth and reasons to keep fighting. Out of meds im sinking back into my 18 hours of sleep followed by counting the minuts before i can sleep again because i cant write, therefore cant pay my bills, and start feeling like that kid in school who was stupid, crazy, and just a dreamer who could never be anything. Off topic yes, self pitty yes, dosent make it less true or painfull that glimpsing the "real" you just makes knowing that you may never see or be alowed to become that person again makes everything an unnessessary prelude to a lonly and inevitable end.
Pith

"Boat Rocker of the Year," There's an award? :cool:

Yes,its on my mantle.LOL!!!!
Pith,it all makes sense now.When I was reading your last post on here I related so much.It is so hard to not be medicated and I couldnt imagine not being.Im the EXACT same way.Except for the part of sleep.
Dont get me wrong,I would in a heart beat and use to but now I have to put on a smiley face for my babies!Its soooooooooooo hard.
Having to function without meds is unbearable for me!Ive been on them for 4 months now.My doc just changed me too adderall(regular)30ml.3times daily.

I dont really know how I feel.....
Not too good really,I dont know why.I have to see though,I have had a tremendous amount of stress lately.

I feel for you and Im right there in the trenches!It leaves you helpless and raw.

I really hope you can find another doctor to help you or he would get a clue and medicate you.
Its not fair.Plain and simple.

Remember this,your not alone.There is someone,somewhere out there tonight who feels just like you and there is hope.
I hope you find the inner strength through this hard time to take care of yourself and know that you have a real problem and there is a real solution.
ADD is crippling for me and I know without my meds I would be a basketcase and ya know what?
Its not my fault.Neither is it yours for you.I hope your doc wises up or you find another one.

Good luck to you......Endevour to perservere!!!!!!!!