I wrote awhile back asking how young a child can be diagnosed with AD/HD. I didn't get a reply.

Friends and family have told me "he'll do fine, he's so smart, he's got such a good heart" ... well school started and the calls started the first week.

Can someone tell me what the symptoms of AD/HD are?

He hits and bumps and pushes other children. He is great when he's on task and can work on puzzles, games, math etc for hours at a time but can't control himself during the times in between. It seems like he lacks impulse control. When I ask why, he says "I don't know". When I ask about specific events he says "I don't remember".

This week the temper tantrums (which were gone since April) came back at school and I suspect are increasing in strength. I'm worried he's going to start hitting the teacher.

He's depressed, says he has one friend as the others don't want to be his friend. He is laughed at which makes him angry and aggressive. The teacher simply tells me "he's hitting ... it was a terrible day"

My husband says I'm overreacting when I say our child (and family) need help. My family says I'm too easy on him.

I don't know what to do but I'm sure the crying and stress I feel aren't helping the situation.

Any advice?

PROFESSIONAL DIGNOSIS IS FIRST SUGGESTION AND PRIORITY

It is unfair to let a child with any illness not get treatment. This child does not need to be verbally abused, or military dictatorships at home, because neither will get long term results (yes short term maybe, but short term is very deceptive and not much help, and behavior quickly reverts to former behaviors as soon as the authoritarian is gone.)

This type of story concerns me the most, because there are elements in the child's environment who would like to ignore the signs, and other elements who would like to crush the signs with authoritarian action. It reminds me of a story about men in a mountain village who were in the woods when they heard a huge thumping in the ground. They first decided since it stopped to not worry about it. (In fact, at first, one of them said they didn't even hear it.) Then they decided it would be wiser to keep it to themselves, because the villagers would make fun of them. finally, the Thumping became so loud, that they ran to the village frightened for their lives, and warning the villagers that they heard loud and strange sounds in the woods. Its a good thing they ran to the village, because a monster was coming out of the woods and heading straight for their village. Because the men waited so long, the villagers did not have much time to prepare for the monster's arrival and to divert the monster, so they had to meet him head on to block his path.

I suggest that you not wait and wait and wait and not make excuses and not be afraid of being made fun of, and instead try to get the most information the fastest, and thereby not be put in a position where you have to meet the monster head on when you could have done it a much easier way.

Contact and set up appointments with 1) The school psychologist for testing ASAP, 2) your own clinical psychologist, phd level, ASAP. The faster you know what is ticking, the sooner and easier it is to take steps to correct.

Also, by acting fast, you can save your child much humiliation in school and in his social life in or out of school, and improve his family life and his academic life. He won't last long in the school system without the assistance he needs.

A child with any kind of condition or cause for him being unable to fit in, deserves the best medical, psychological and educational attention he can get.

My child got the attention she needed at age 7, and resulted in becoming a straight A student, and a child who gets along well with her peers and teachers.

Sinceerely



Jonathan

Get professional help and diagnoisis, and get support for your self.

ADHD is hard to have, but it is equally hard to be around.

How can a five year ld be diagnosed? They can.

Was that the question? How is a matter of oinion. I "diagnose" plenty, but I'm not a doctor, so what does it matter?

There may be no "fixing" it, but there is being suportive of him as he deals with being ADHD.

I'm sorry no one picked up on your message earlier. i hope the responses you are getting to this thread are helpful and hopeful. You did the right thing to repost.

Ask more specific questions and ou'll get mor answers. If you want the protection of "law" only take advice from "certified" or "licensed" providers. That's one reason you'll see many of our responses start with "see a doctor." "Mutual self help is a SECOND, not FIRST avenue to take.

Thought frequently we appreciate what non-professionals share with us as much or more than professional advice, we generally understand the value for people new to the realm to START with the "party lines" and the "official" stuff as orientation and grounding.

You are not alone! neither, really, is your son. Some of us were undiagnosed when we were his age, but felt many of the same ways. Kep coming back. Take what you like and leave the rest. check everything out with a responsible person you trust before you take action on it.

Sounds exactly like my daughter.........we could share some thoughts and i can tell you what ive been through!

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