Does anybody feel that that their spirit is slowly dying from a lack of adventure?

Well Paul, it's 100% agreed so far..not enough adventure.

I didn't check, but had a fair idea that was going to happen..more spookies for the forum.

sleepz

Who says slowly?

Heh heh--yeah, slowly seems a bit of an understatement.

I know one of the biggest obstacles between me and all the wild adventures I'd like to have is lack of $$$$$. rrrrrrr....

Not nearly enough adventure in my life -

In the past I found myself getting into trouble just so that I could have some adventure. I know better now, but that doesn't mean I don't miss it! ;)

Damn. Another thing my wife doesn't understand about me. :D

I have a lot of adventure in my life, at least at home. Work has moments of doldrums, but home keeps me on my toes.

Yes I constantly think when I get this or when I am that THEN I will have adventure......i.e. when I'm thin enough I'll have adventure, when I have someone to have adventure WITH -- then I'll have adventure, when I have a job and then money THEN I'll have adventure.......

OR I think to myself adventure is for everyone ELSE, but not me....ya know the martyr thing....I'm just fine, thanks....ya right....(she said lying through her teeth).......

However, I still end up having adventures in my normal life... I come back home having seen something or talked to someone, etc., that many people would nnot have done.

I get excited about my work. Really excited. And it scares me. My work that is. Programming scares me that I might not be able to figure it out... my other things, the challenge prior to feeling I have a solution.

I hate roller coasters, but the work i like makes me feel like I'm on one. What an irony hu?

Yes I HATE roller coasters too David...but EMOTIONAL roller coasters???? LOVE THEM....:)

Speaking of roller coasters, I live about 1 hour from Disney World -home of Space Mountain, pretty much the world's largest roller coaster.....I get scared just listening to the people who do go on it SCREAM.....now that's adventure....

Anybody ever been skydiving?

My whole life is an adventure! Its one thing after another! I love planning adventures such as road trips or movie nights, cooking with kids or playing legos. Being a Mom and a single woman keeps the adventure going. Ok so not all of it is good adventure, but exciting just the same. :D

Originally posted by Keppig
My whole life is an adventure! Its one thing after another! I love planning adventures such as road trips or movie nights, cooking with kids or playing legos. Being a Mom and a single woman keeps the adventure going. Ok so not all of it is good adventure, but exciting just the same. :D

And here the evidence continues Kassie....as to why you should have NO trouble attracting good quality FUN men:)

P.S. On those road trips and movie nights, you might want to dab on a little perfume....and perhaps wear something a little more sexier than usual....ya never know who you might run into:D

So there's added adventure:)

I like my adventures to be totally off the wall and spur of the moment

In a momments notice I could jump in the car and pick a direction and see where I end up many hours later

I just always find the ride home boring though

My wife has. i never will.

Adventure. Here is a quote about adventure:

"Life is a daring adventure or it is nothing at all."-Helen Keller

Originally posted by jimmmaaa
Adventure. Here is a quote about adventure:

"Life is a daring adventure or it is nothing at all."-Helen Keller

"Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan 'press on' has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race."
~Calvin Coolidge

“Never, never, never, never give up. “~Winston Churchill



Simply: Thank You. -- David

You are welcome, David.

When does something become an adventure? It almost seems relative. Some people see bungee jumping, skydiving or a trip to a theme park as the ultimate. I have had a lot of experiences few have had the privilidge(or terror) to experience them selves, yet still consider my life dull. Only when others speak of them do they seem exiting.

My brother and sister finish work everyday excited and wanting to share their daily adventures. It is people like that I envy. Wouldn't it be nice to experience life as the one big adventure that it is!

Exactly.

I think sometimes it also has to do with finding someone to listen who appreciates the adventure that we. do. As ADHD I think our experience just doesn't intersect with normies as much as EVERYONE assumes, the entire psycho-social industry included. A different experience really is DIFFERENT.

And I think attitude makes a big difference. i'm lucky to be under employed and be able to provide myself with a computer and time to be here... on this board... learning from others, and learning from the chance to express myself.

Whoa yeah - I used to be so creative as a kid, draw all the time, make stuff up, I had a TON of fantasy! Then school started and I focussed instead on getting good grades, on schoolwork etc. (Still doodled on notepads and school books in lessons but drew a lot less).

The longer the more I wasn't satisfied with that though, I always got excited at the start of a new year wanting to organise myself and be outgoing and neat and so on but failed miserably, although I still got more or less good grades (the more complex a subject got the harder I had to work though).

The longer the more I had to be "told" what to be creative about, in order to be able to be creative - i.e. I had to be given an outline, a subject, to draw/paint or write about. I still ended up being very creative if I was "forced" to do something creative, although I was less and less satisfied with my creative ideas and felt liek everyone else always had better ideas, so I lost the spark and the motivation for being creative somehow.

I also used to have tons of new "farts" (as my parents put it), new things I wanted to learn about, new hobbies/groups I started and so on. I rarely carried them through for long though, and soon lost interest. So over time, I stopped doing new things, at least not "adventurous" new things, "big" new things.

Nowadays, I am very set in my ways in *general* and hate it!Although I always have subtle and impulsive changes, such as the way I take to go to work, the food I eat at work, the time I get up/go to work, the kind of meals I cool etc. it all too quickly becomes a boring routine again so I start doing it differently again - but as I said it's subtle.

A positive *change* was that I finally stopped smoking, and I'm still taking vitamin and other supplements when I remember, but these spurts of "being healthy" always fade after a while, so i'm stunned that I am still happily non-smoking!!!

But as I said the lack of new things and adventure in my life bugs me a great deal - it's a struggle for me to get my day-to-day and weekly chores done at home, I lack motivation and feel paralysed when I think of having to do anything out of the ordinary (makes me worry too much, stresses me out), yet at the end of every day and every week and every month I feel more and more dissatisfied because I'm still stuck in the same old rut.

When I finally do something different (days out, holidays), my anxieties and constant worries always make it hard to actually enjoy it :(

Then I stopped smoking, thinking maybe then I'd have the energy to realise my urges for adventure, for "doing stuff" for a change, but so far nothing's changed in that respect :(

Thankfully I have a friend who had CFS and feels the same, so hopefully with her help (she at least has a car) I'll be able to get out of the house more and start a few new things!

Oops sorry for the whinge :rolleyes:

If our lives are not an adventure, we have only ourselves to blame. Adventure does not really require money at all. In fact, doing it without money is an adventure in itself. Adventure is an attitude towards spontaneity and creativity. Going for a walk can be an adventure if you challenge yourself to talk to 10 people (strangers) on the way. This is how life stays interesting. I think Europeans understand this concept better. They will invite you into their home, talk to you on the street, make friends with you much easier in many countries. This leads to adventure. Life without spontaneous interractions is what is boring to me. And who is to blame - me! I have the power to change that anytime I am ready to live more spontaneously and creatively!

Jon

I think my work spirit is sometimes dying. My location in my company is so stagnant because of changes that were out of my control. Boring, Boring, Boring. I am pleased with the amount I make but I have to hunt for the work and I am going out of my mind. I used to be in a different group and those people are having to work a ton of hours, like one guy worked 80 hours one week and I could have helped him our remotely but because I am not in that kingdom, I am relegated to being a company errand boy, figuratively speaking. All of the exciting stuff is for other locations when at one time I did a ton of stuff remotely. But because I am not truly under telecom any more but under desktop support doing some minor telecom stuff, I am locked out. I am going between a good and bad attitude. In the "Who Moved my Cheese" analogy, my cheese has moved and I don't know if I can live with the new cheese. Sometime soon I am going to have to run through the maze looking for a new telecom cheese at a new company. I am very frustrated!

great stuff! It has all been said. Kassie pretty much summed up my reply. Being a musician is cool cause I don't play any regular venues. Every job is new and usually new music or different arrangements. I am excited for tomorrow as we are having a Christmas party. I enjoy them more now that I don't have the time to cook!! Or, at least I am comfortable with my excuse!

Interesting thread! I still haven't answered the poll, because I don't know how to rate my life! I used to do a lot of spur-of-the-moment things when I was single, and I enjoyed that a lot. It was not at all unusual for me to decide to go somewhere for the weekend, and be on the road half an hour later. (I'd likely get lost getting there, but that's another story.)

These days, I rarely travel. My life looks deceptively calm on the surface, but the kids throw me curveballs all the time. I've got enough challenges right now to keep me from getting that insanely restless feeling. In truth, I have way too much to do, and too much to learn ... and that is good for my ADD brain.

Eventually, I'd like to find meaningful work too. But it may take me awhile to figure out what that would be...

I prefer a well planned adventure, but those are a rare treat. Mostly it is the "Mom, Erin just gave me a bloody nose just because I broke her CD" type of adventure that I get to experience.

I actually enjoy being lost or caught driving in awful snowstorms etc. I have to be aware that I'm a thrillseeker though, and try to remind myself that there might be consequences. I have been known to quit jobs, relationships etc. in search of my next thrill.

Adventure, like joy, is really about your mental approach to things - I think that is what Helen Keller meant. I do have adventures all the time, some time they are mental/conceptual other times they are physical. For me there is nothing that can focus the mind like rockclimbing.

Every thing I do is an adventure!

I see interesting things everywhere (strong mental effort to resist a long list of neat things / adventures I want to share)- Its not just in my mind - I go out in my back yard and its an adventure - I never know where the next moment takes me.

Thats why I have been getting help. To tone down the adventure to a more ballanced level. I love adventure I just wish I had all the free time in the world to explore.

The day adventure or learning stops you start to die!

I have two children with ADHD and a linear thinking husband so everyday to me is an adventure. And I work with the elderly; usually in the Alzheimer's unit one minute I'm cuddled on the couch with a little ole lady as sweet as can be the next I'm running for my life from her. lol And I can alway's find a little adventure somewere.

learning about the world and experimenting with that knowlege
building from scratch, and going through the problems of doing something for the first time
science, and all the dangers inherent like catching fire or getting acid burns

being married (to a woman...)

living in nyc

what more adventure does one need?

climbing mountains is for wimps
whats that a little gravity, and thermal properties?

try messing with chemistry, physics, and biology!!
which is more adventurous? facing nature or trying to work with its forces to create?

That sounds like adventure to me. I think my true calling is probably mad scientist .... :D

Hey! Which one of you edited the title of my poll?

Was there some reason it needed to be edited? I was under the impression edits only happened when something was offensive or redundant... I mean, you don't even edit spelling mistakes here for clarity!

C'est moi, WWC. I apologize if I stepped on your toes...we're wanting to ensure hits on the Forums when folks do a web search for ADD/ADHD, so some titles may be modified a bit to include those searchable terms.

:D
smoo

*raised eyebrows*

I used to have all kinds of adventures and was quite spontaneous. I'd travel on a whim, think of crazy fun things to do, and often had good stories to tell about these adventures.

Then I got a good job that I enjoy very much, but no longer could I take short-notice vacation days.

Then abot 5 months ago I quit smoking pot, before then I had been smoking regularly (a few times a day). I had to quit because the side effects were really getting to me (lazyness, lack of motivation, forgetfullness, and no spare money since pot is very expensive here in Oregon).

Ever since I quit pot, I can no longer come up with crazy fun things to do, have lost all my spontaneity, and wind up thinking alot about to do before I do it. I now don't have anything exciting to talk about, so I often don't have anything to talk about. I feel like I have become quite boring.

Since I quit, I have found out that I suffer from Depression and ADD and am hoping the combination of Wellbutrin and Concerta along with some counciling will help me regain my adventurousness.

LOL me too for most of what you said.

I wonder sometimes...
I think maybe we need some spirituality... did you see my post about that mystical movie? Or maybe more social interaction in a giving sort of way which sounds right to me but I can't motivate to do anything. What do you think?

I think it'd be extremely valuable to see some stories somewhere about people who overcame ADD and/or were incorrectly diagnosed with ADD. I just absolutely love this board and all the stories but damn I wished the stimulants worked on me. All my shrinks say yeah I got a little ADD but not too bad & it's probably emotional problems but I really don't make much progress when I dump the weed & drinking & focus on exploring emotional issues either. Some... but nothing that really feels right like it's actually going to help in a significant way <yawn>.

Apologies for my inappropriate frankness and thanks for yours! Please keep in touch and let me know how it goes. I'd really like to learn more about you. What does your GF think? The job sounds cool though the unsupervised situation is a potential nightmare for mental wanderers like us.

BTW I initially had missed your intro:
http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?p=73646#post73646

Welcome!

Yes, adventure, that's what makes life livable and is the closest definition I can come up with for happiness.

Right now, I'm self-employed...that's got to be one of the biggest and scariest adventures you can go on...

Canvassing for the Nov. 2 US election, knocking on doors in NH (a "swing" state), never knowing how the person behind the door is going react...

I love to travel...so far, England, Venezuela, Mexico, Cuba, and Korea...I'm 25 so there's plenty of time to see the rest of the world. Problem is, you can't get the stimulant medications in these other countries...I went there before diagnosis...now I'm seriously thinking of getting onto Wellbutrin...

Of course, there are the less safe forms of adventure such as driving too fast, too many sexual partners...I'm trying to channel myself into the good adventures :)

Everyday is a adventure for me, and yes I still drive fast.
Oh man I can be quite a character, I think it's the Leo in me;)
C'mon people tomorrow is promised to no one, So Live today as if it's your last.
....and i have'nt even takin my meds yet.........Zooooom

isnt it common as we grow older to have less adventure? welcome to the wonderful world of domestication and age. I am sure most of us will expereince some sort of mid-life crisis.
And I am sure spending all our time on the internet REALLY helps the adventure too. uh huh.
Its too easy to become comfortable in our world.

Do something youve never done, skydiving ( about $125) freefall for 30-40 seconds at 10,000 feet, with the instructor strapped onto you back. ( its better than sex believe me).

Join a community drama club. ( free)

If your hetrosexual, go hang out at the local gay club and make friends with some extroverted gay people, youll meet a bunch of energetic older people who are friendly and happy to everyone, who live life like its one big party.

learn 3 chords on the guitar, write a song, play & sing an open mike night.

local poetry groups always have open poetry nights at local coffee cafes.

Write a depressing poem and dress like a goth, youll fit right in.

try some LSD or mushrooms (dont worry it wont kill you, every one should try it at least once..its better than sex and skydiving combined, and its physically non addictive )..do your homework first so your prepared for a life changeing exsperience

go buy some books on a subject you know nothing about.

go to a random church every sunday.

go attend a meeting with your local strange new age cult.

go to AA meetings just for the heck of it, even if you never drink.

put out a classified ad looking for others to collaberate with your hobby.

change your self image, get new clothes, new hair cut.

learn a new sport like ping pong