This may or may not seem like a random question but does anyone here

find it a bit hard to be intimate with someone they like (girlfrined or

boyfriend) cos sorry to use this word but gets bored sometimes, and

finds it hard to concentrate on "the moment" cos although you are

enjoying it you wanna do something else, or you say stuff that aren't

intimate-moment related, like you bringing up the topic of trees or

random slogan t-shirts, mid way sort of thing. anyone else have any

thoughts on this, cos i would like to know if it is common!

I think that is pretty typical for ADHD. I do it a lot.

Me :D

k. anyone else feel the same.

I was just about to send you to the link below, fidge!
http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=19337&page=1&pp=15

But, I see you found the above thread already :)

yeah i have done that. thats funny my man always get ****ed off at me.

Yep,

And it doesn't change over the years. I have been with the same guy for 13 years...sometimes he does the same thing to me!
We don't get to mad about it anymore!
Normal!

In those sorts of situations, I normally hyperfocus. Although with a particular partner I started bringing up random crap. She was also ADD and always did it, which got me into the habit. It's cute really.

I think it's issues like these that the understanding of an ADD partner is invaluable.

haha that totally happens to me!

It's a terrible problem. First, getting over the dislike of being touched. Then trying to put up with being touched that's not exactly right, without getting your partner angry because, after all, he's not a mind reader. Then trying to concentrate really, really hard on what's going on so you enjoy yourself, which makes your partner feel (sometimes justifiably so) that you're not really paying attention to the whole interactive part of it, which, of course, you pick up on, which destroys your concentration, which ruins the whole thing for you, which makes you even more reluctant to his advances the next time. . .

I"ve never expierienced discomfort on a romantic level but I have never liked being touched unexpectedly by friends or family. I don;t like being hugged unlesss I know it's coming way in advance. I hate sleeping in the same tent with someone when I go camping. They always roll to close to me. they might not even be touching me, but my personal space is invaded. very uncomfortable.


Does medication help anyone with this sensory issue?

Intimacy should start over if it isn't the kiss that comes second to the smile you each get from seeing each other. The talking of what tommorrow will hold should excite you as long as you know you will have eyes sight of each other that day. Imagine if married people agreed to only make love on the weekends so they would enjoy it's anticipation for the other days. Being In Love is when the world dissappear.

X-Man

I"ve never expierienced discomfort on a romantic level but I have never liked being touched unexpectedly by friends or family. I don;t like being hugged unlesss I know it's coming way in advance. I hate sleeping in the same tent with someone when I go camping. They always roll to close to me. they might not even be touching me, but my personal space is invaded. very uncomfortable.

Me too. I love being touched by my hubby, my cat, and my dog. That's where it ends. I don't like being touched by anyone else and I don't like it when people stand over my shoulder and watch what I am doing.

Sometimes, I get really distracted by strange things when it comes to sex, like the dog snoring on the floor, so I get laughing and can't stop. My NT hates it. Also, when I start getting distracted like this I reccently try telling him I need a day off, then, when it happens, I am so happy I don't notice the dog snoring.:)