:( :( :( I Go to university in the uk, and i really like what course i am doing, problem is i don't do any of the assignment write up's and my teacher has already complained bout attendance. ITS only cos i can't sleep and when i do i wake up late! plus, its only the 5th week and i am acting as i did in the last few weeks of college. i don't want to drop out but at this rate, it looks like i might in the future. it ****es me off that i can't act like everyone else, no one understands that i need to do twice or least put in twice as much effort to actually do the same stuff they do. i don't want to let myself down. please HELP! :( :( :(

i am sorry to hear about your problems in uk. i have gone to school in the states and whats worse down south. I pray that your situation get better. have you tried taking something to help you sleep.

Have you tried going to bed earlier and set an alarm clock so you could get a good
sleep and wake up on time? Are you officially diagnosed with ADHD? If so, are you
taking meds?

no not taking meds, and even not condisering the sleep, i still act like a bum. i put off doing homework, its not that i don't like it i LOVE the practical side of my course, but hste the pointless writing, OKAY not pointless. its just i am fed up with my attitude that if you know you can do it then whats the point attitude, i would do it if it was a challenge or if someone actually gave me a deadline to do it.

Are you officially diagnosed with ADHD? If not, you may want to go to a psychiatrist
and have him or her diagnosed you. If they give you meds to take, you must take them. They will help you focus and help you concentrate on your school work.
If you take them, you will not be acting like a 'bum', but as a fully functional, intelligent person. Your friends and family will notice a big difference and people may want to be around you more.

thanks, for the advice ill definintly do it

Meds help a lot with concentration/focusing. They can help with starting and finishing projects (but only so much w/ starting - it's something you have to work hard at also).

As for sleep, I know what you mean. I have a hard time sleeping because my mind races. You could try Melatonin - it's a natural sleep med (it's over the counter). it's something your body/brain produces for sleep.

Don't you have deadlines to finish projects at school?

I found when I went to college - I really had to hold myself accountable. The teacher's weren't there to hold your hands or push you.
If you didn't get it done, too bad. But, it's not just too bad. A low GPA is the result. Although while in college, a low GPA isn't a huge deal, after you graduate if you want to go to grad school - you need a good GPA.

You haven't been diagnosed w/ ADHD, fidge? Gil gave some great advice!

If you haven't been diagnosed, go to a psychiatrist. Upon a diagnosis of ADHD, talk to your doc about meds. Meds helped (and still help) me through college - w/ concentrating, finishing projects . .

Is it normal for me to feel this **** sometimes, everyone has gone to a halloween party my fave time of the year and i am stuck in this uni with no money, no fags no, friends around and i am bored ****less i was so bored i went to bed at five in the evening meaning ill be up all ****ing night. god i hate this place! i wanna go somewhere. but no i am stuck in my dorm, typing this on my laptop listening to crap, feeling like crap! and why can't i havbe normal friendships everyone else talks about how they are so lucky they found 'stacy' or 'britney' otherwise thaey would be bored, why don't i make friends that are as close as that. i hate it. i am not a bad person, in fact i am too nice! too nice that people take the ****ing ****. i want a close knit group of friends like the ones you see in those american movies, but i can't cos i just can't and its ****! the uni is so ****ing quiet everyone has gone out, and i can't stand them, i hate them all, no one understands me i HATE IT! ****, **** ***** *** PUNK FOOLS! I suppose ill be spending my evening with films i can't watch all the way through cos i have seen them and ill just get bored, and ill spend my evening on boring websites which talk bunch of **** and just become so bored ill sleep! i wanna sleep the whole weekend away! in fact my whole ****ing life that would be great then id wake up jst before i'd die, enjoy a cup of tea then die!!!!!!

It's good to let it all out....

Fidge, are you able to go home on some weekends?

well yeah its like 2/3 hours away, i am thinking of going home in two weeks

Is this your first time living away from home?

well, no, my mum travels away on business alot so for the past year or so i have been living in our family house by myself and because of her business, all my life i have been pretty much scattered around to different aunts and uncles, living in different places for a few weeks here and there so i am usto not having my mum nor my home!

Hey Fidge,

I can empathise with what you're saying. Sleep difficulties have caused me huge problems in the past; most people don't appreciate just how difficult it is to function with an erractic sleep cycle, and just how little control you have over it.

I can empathise to an extent with just how hard it is to keep close friends when you're ADD; everyone else just seems to function on a different timescale. I've always longed for a close knit group too, people who you can share the ups and the downs with, people who you can trust absolutely, and who make life worth living.

I wish I had some advice to give you, after years of suffering similar agonies to the ones you describe, things have seemed to just come together for me. I don't really know why, I can only guess that it's related to med changes. My only advice would be to get yourself diagnosed, and find the med combination that's right for you.

You're definitely in the right place, there are people here that will talk you things every step of the way. Talk to your tutors if your worried that the workload is getting to you, they can arrange deadline extensions if you need them. You've got a good reason why you're finding it hard, you're entitled to help so you might as well take it.

If you wanna talk at all, vent, or just need someone to share your insomnia with =D, then give me a PM =)

Toby =)

thanks toby, that really means a lot to me, its nice to talk to talk to someone about it! : )