I was always told that we tend to gravitate towards each other.
And when we do, is it with the same type of ADDer or the direct opposite?
Hmmm

I have been Dx with ADD inattentive type for over 10 years now.
As I look back to my friendships and relationships..I see a resounding
truth to that. I can't remember if I read it, maybe more than once, or if I was told that by one of my ADD doctors?

I think out of all my friends, I have one "non-adder) friend?

Out of all the men I have dated seriously, lived with,,including the one I am with now....1 was not ADD, I left him because he was boring...ha
I was young and stupid...what I would give for a "non-add" man , or at least a medicated one , now!

I know personally I love my counterparts...the busy ADHD , most of my friends esp when I was younger..were the busy , exciting ones!
Like my sister, meadd823, she is my direct opposite, and has been a great friend to me for years! I love her energy and drive!

I do know now that I am older I tend to hang with the slower of us, like me...
can't keep up with the busy one's anymore!

My oldest son is like me...we clash..., I am unsure if my youngest is ADD yet, he seems to really have it together...straight A's , good with people, organized..not to busy, not to withdrawn...maybe okay...
but my point here is....(meds going)

Is that my middle child, who is ADHD..is kind of my favorite...and what I mean by that (before I get nasty replies on the trama of that) I mean is that when I am given the choice to hang out with one of them..like my hubby will say
Hey I am taking 2 of them...which one do you want to keep..I keep him..
Now I do change out...so my younger one doesn't see..but
my direct opposite son..is so busy and funny and easy going...not very demanding ..and when he is still he is the best snuggler ever...
The others are like me so we tend to grate on each other!


So I am just curious I guess like a poll thing without voting...
What do you all see? Do you have partners that are or aren't ADD, do you have a lot friends that are? How about your kids? If you more than one type of ADD child do you gravitate towards the opposite one?

I've heard that same statement justhope.
And wondered how true it is.
This is what I've come up with so far for myself.

I grew up in a house full of NonADDer's.
My partner is NonADD.
My friends were all NonADD up until a few years ago.
When I joined an ADD chatroom and then this forum.

When I think about my NonADD friends and my ADD friends.
They all have the same qualities I admire in a person.
So that's probably what I gravitate towards more.

Thanks Stori!

Interesting that most folks you are surrounded by esp friends are non-adders...

Now when I say my friends , esp younger were Add , I am not saying that they are diagnosed. They have a lot, if not more of symptoms than I do!


Like for example my kids dad,
When I first got dx , I was on a mission to learn everything!
I remember my kids dad filling out the same form my doctor used to help dx me...It had well over 100 questions...and he answered more than I did and I was diagnosed already!

Just curious...Hope

I realized one day that ALL of my friends were ADD - and I considered that "normal". I couldn't figure it out - I wasn't "hyper" and constantly loosing things - I couldn't have ADD. :confused:

But then one day I read a definition of Inattentive ADD - it hit me like a rock. Things now made sense.

So yes, I am attracted to other ADDer's - they're fun people ! :D