I am going to be venting a bit so bear with me

Two months ago I moved back home to live with my best friend. At that time we were on the same page so to speak. He was working steadly at his job, and I had just gotten a very decent paying job as well. We both were doing things to improve ourselves. I had met a few people and was even flirting a bit with some of the girls I knew

Fast forward to the present. In those two months I have gotten laid off from two jobs, became a homebody, failed an exam that I had studied for for almost a year, and gained weight.

My roomate on the other hand, got a raise from his job, got offered a couple of parts in a play, met a bunch of people that he now hangs out with all the time, and just got offered a very good paying job in his field. Last night he met a girl and he took her home, and I dont need to go on what I heard. Now he tells me that he wants me to move out so he can bring someone else in, someone who is more on 'his level'.

Because of this, and I am almost ashamed to admit this, I am feeling a lot of jealousy towards my roomate/best friend. Although I know he has worked hard for what he has, part of me feels that he seems to get all the lucky breaks, while I get the not-so-lucky ones. I guess I also should mention that we are also both in the same field, although for me I am working hard on breaking into it

I dont know what to do. My logical part of my brain is asking me why am I comparing myself to other people, but the irrational part of me is saying "why can't I have what he has?", or "what do I have that he does not have?"

Hey there I'm sorry things are so crappy for you right now. I know that when things are just going down hill it's hard to climb back up and see the brighter side of life. But since I'm feeling more on the brighter side I'll give you a couple of pointers and you can take them or toss em whatever!!!

1. Try not to look at your roomie as a threat but respect his life

2. Give him a pat on the back so to speak for all the hard work he's done to get to where he is today in his job. Allow him to brag about it and be HAPPY for him

3. Thats so cool he got a few parts in a play...let him know this and be HAPPY for him...go see the play encourage him to be proud of is accomplishments

4. So he has a girl he likes...good for him....maybe right now he can handle a girl...and right now you can't...you seem very depressed do you really think just having a girl will help you with feeling happy...that feeling will go away and then your stuck with life again....you have to take care of yourself before you can handle taking care of someone else.

5. What is it that annoys you the most about your friend? That he is doing so well when your so down in the dumps or that he just might be better at his job than you are??? Some people thrive on that ONE job...while others struggle...so find a new field and keep looking till you find what works for you.

6. If you really want to make new friends you would...that is how I feel anyways, for me it took me calling my now best friend of a couple years over and over again ... to set up playdates with our kids or what not...it took me going back to school for a while and actually TALKING to strangers!!! :) there are people out there that want to meet you and hang out with you ... just sometimes you have to do all the "dirty" work.

7. if you feel your fat then do something about it....start walking, eat right... join a gym.....everyone has a pity party but not everyone wants to join in the pity partys....I know for me when I'm feeling fat I have to realize that the foods i'm eating aren't the most healthy and even though i'm skinny i really should eat an apple instead of the chips...or take a walk instead of sit on my butt all weekend....get out and get moving that helps the body and the mind

I'm sorry your life sucks right now and that your feeling so down...I hope you'll be able to see the brighter side of things soon and that life will start to look up for you soon to!! Take care of you!! :)

Thanks for responding flygurl, but to be honest I was just about to ask a mod to delete this post. Here is why...


I had wrote my initial post at 5 am in the morning, while my roomate and the girl he took home were going at it. I was tired, cranky, and somewhat hysterical because of the lack of sleep I have been getting. I had a few things to do that morning, and although I didnt want to do them I knew I had to if only to get my mind off things. I am glad I did.

Without going into the dirty details, by the end of the day I had managed to deal with two job interviews, and scheduled another two more for later on in the week. Then today i got yet another call for another interview tomorrow. I had a talk with my roomate and it made me realize just how self centered I have been lately.

Bottom line, I was just simply frustrated that there are people that just seem to have the best of luck and there are others like me who have had to fight tooth and nail for even the smallest successes. I was also frustrated that most of my problems stem from my yet untreated ADD. I am hoping that once I start treatment, then I will be able to slow down my brain a bit and actually live life more organized.