Okay!, I'll get right down to it...


Well, I probably don't have to elaborate on the difficulties of starting into a relationship when I've been rocked by ADD my entire life.

To make a long story short, I am 22 and I've only recently done the deed. Hooray for me; but!...

I um. Well,...









Well I'm really attracted to this girl, and she seems to be really attracted to me. And we both seem to have a healthy amount of interest, too. But...


I can't... 'finish'? We are averaging at 1-2 hour each session, I'm err... *sturdy* the entire time, and I DON'T finish, EVER.

..I don't really mind. But it's starting to bother her, she has said she 'wishes she could make me', and I'll tell her not to blame herself, but she isn't convinced. I really don't know what's the holdup.

Of course ADD comes with it's own great big basket of affected behaviors.

I have two theories:

1. It is protected sex and it's going to stay that way. I've read that 'hyper sensitivity' or "princess and the pea syndrome" can be associated with ADD. I'm wondering if I'm unknowingly distracted by this thin layer of latex?, but on a side note, oral hasn't triggered it either...

2. Pressure to 'finish' making it difficult for me to? I try not to think about it but I just don't make it to the brink.

I think we've gotten together about 20 odd times now, all to same effect.


So, I'm confused by this. Again this is the first person I've done this stuff with, and I'm totally hot for her. Whats'a matter with me?

Taking any meds?

Just started taking ritalin now but this problem was not new when I started.

OK.

Any problems when you masturbate? Or does that work smoothly?

No no, everything functions as expected, that's why I really didn't expect any problems in this respect... but then no one does I guess:D

Here's a link to an interesting article:
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/ejaculatoryincompetence.htm

At the very least, the article provides different seach terms for ejaclatory delay.

The only time I've had delayed ejaculation was when I was taking Paxil (or when very drunk).

Ritalin can go either way (to stimulate or dull), it seems. Have you tried taking Ritalin shortly before you make love? A little alcohol?

If its not drugs, then have you tried different positions? Sex doesn't always have to be strickly vaginal or oral. Have her masturbate you, for example.

There are different thicknesses and shapes and sizes of condums. Buy a variety pack and have a condum party!

If you can look at this all as an experiment, you might have fun exploring yourself and your partner, turning it into a game.

We all like games. :D

Yeah, it could be the condom. I can't feel shirt with those things on. If that's the case Stan's idea about hand jobs might be perfect. That way you can get to the finish line w/ her there and still stay safe.

Another idea might be for you guys to get together but to agree ahead of time that it's important that you *don't* come. Seems odd, but it removes the expectation that that's the goal and it takes the pressure off of both of you. No doubt she's also thinking about this as a problem and is looking for a solution, which could be stressing her too, and taking the fun out of it.

Or there could be some psychological issues at work here too. It's rare that ADD occurs by itself. Comorbidity is more the norm than the exception so you might need to see a shrink about this.

Okay!, I'll get right down to it...


Well, I probably don't have to elaborate on the difficulties of starting into a relationship when I've been rocked by ADD my entire life.

To make a long story short, I am 22 and I've only recently done the deed. Hooray for me; but!...

I um. Well,...









Well I'm really attracted to this girl, and she seems to be really attracted to me. And we both seem to have a healthy amount of interest, too. But...


I can't... 'finish'? We are averaging at 1-2 hour each session, I'm err... *sturdy* the entire time, and I DON'T finish, EVER.

..I don't really mind. But it's starting to bother her, she has said she 'wishes she could make me', and I'll tell her not to blame herself, but she isn't convinced. I really don't know what's the holdup.

Of course ADD comes with it's own great big basket of affected behaviors.

I have two theories:

1. It is protected sex and it's going to stay that way. I've read that 'hyper sensitivity' or "princess and the pea syndrome" can be associated with ADD. I'm wondering if I'm unknowingly distracted by this thin layer of latex?, but on a side note, oral hasn't triggered it either...

2. Pressure to 'finish' making it difficult for me to? I try not to think about it but I just don't make it to the brink.

I think we've gotten together about 20 odd times now, all to same effect.


So, I'm confused by this. Again this is the first person I've done this stuff with, and I'm totally hot for her. Whats'a matter with me?
Dude, I had that same thing happen to me. It's the condoms. With a condom on I can go for *hours* and not finish... With it off, 20 minutes tops. My suggestion if it's really being a problem for you, is that you ask her to go on the pill, it's highly effective. That's what my girlfriend did, and we've got a great sex life for it.

Oh, and try to ween yourself off of masturbation too. I know that sounds dumb, but when it's hand on genitals you get a double sensation. One from your hand, and one from your penis. So, if you masturbate a lot, sex might not feel that great to you, even more so if you're de-sensitizing yourself even more with a condom.

The condom could be part of it, but I don't think that it's a big part of it.

It's most likely a combination of feeling like you're pressured to finish, which can make it take longer, and probably masturbating too much. I agree with Adamant, don't masturbate as often...in fact, don't masturbate at all for a few days and see if things improve.

Oh, and lots of foreplay, definitely important. Not just to get you to come sooner, that's not the reason, but to get her extremely turned on, that way she won't mind if you last forever. Also, lots of foreplay creates more of her natural lubrication, which can make it more comfortable for her if things take longer than expected.

Like many of us, you perform well at first, but have trouble closing the act. ONe excuse is "Sorry, I gotta empty the ol' bladder. And then leave her there panting (they love that tease!) You might have a nice photo of Heidi Klum in the loo to get you that extra oomph you need.

Many girls would kill, to have a guy who can last like you. You just can't quite pull the old trigger, eh?

This seems like it would be an easy fix for a good urologist---they're the real sexy docs, not the EMTS---and they should know just the thing to get you over the (uh) hump.
Best,

Phil

Lucky ******* (j/k) :)

One option is to both go get tested for STD's together so you can fully trust one another - then get on birth control.

Another is to, as stated, shop around for something with a little more feeling in it (Supra's, etc.)

A third option not mentioned was - go get tested for STD's and try lambskin (does NOT protect against HIV, but does against pregnancy) - they are supposed to have a lot more feeling.

Concentrate and have her do what you want. If you are lasting that long, she's not going to have complaints - make her fulfill your fantasies.

This is a good problem to have! If you conquer it, you'll be the man!

If your new to the deed it may just take time to become cofterable to do the deed or doing it with your woman. Give it time and it will work out. I have read of cases where people mentioned ritalian makes it take longer. Most people see this as a good sign. You can enjoy the pleasure more.

Condoms can play a large role in the enjoyment factor nver buy Crown condoms they are awfull. Try different types until you find the one you like.

If it really is an issue for your or your woman and your fine when you masturbate you can either do that first, or with her. Many women like watching or particpating in that.

In any case at least your getting some and lasts a good amount of time :)

I am actually having the same problem. I have only been going out with my current girlfriend for a short time and even though our sessions usually last for 1-2 hours I have only actually finished twice. I had originally thought that my problem was getting myself off too much so I quit for a week. When we next did the deed, not only could I not finish with her, I couldnt even finish by myself. After pondering what I can do, I came up with two possible causes of my problem.

1) Since the brain is one of the biggest sexual organs we as humans have, part of the problem might be either thinking about it too much or getting too distracted.

2) Since I was so used to getting myself off before I met my gf, (or had any sort of sex for that matter), I needed to sort of emulate what I did when I got myself off, and if I did do it by myself to try to emulate as if I was actually having sex.

Next time I have the chance I am going to talk to my gf about it. BTW sorry if what I said was TMI

On a side note, where can you buy those lambskin condoms and how close are they in terms of feeling compared to bareback sex?

My advice is this, it seems to me, it may be the condoms, but maybe your pressuring yourself subconciously because of you having waited so long to find that special person to be with intimately and that might be what is causing you not to come when you wish to. My advice take a nice hot shower with her if she is willing and this will loosen you both up both physically and mentally, because the arrousal part will be there, once done the shower then try different techniques, like have her be on top and be the aggresive one, or if that fails, try sex toys or other things. They have tons of goodies at Spencers for people wishing to entice and spice up the bedroom scene.


:eek:

I've had this too.

1) Lay off the masturbation. None. Keep your hands busy elsewhere. This WILL help.
2) Drop a small amount (very small!) of lub in the condom before you pull it on. This will REALLY help.
3) Drinking and/or drugs before sex = no no.
4) Increase your amount of foreplay. She'll love you for it and you will be getting all fired up during this time making it easier to climax.
5) During sex, R-E-L-A-X. I know it's hard to sometimes when you're making sure that she knows you're "the man" and all, but you have to remember that sex is something that is to be pleasurable for both of you. Focus on the connection you are making with this young lady, how great she looks, the way her body moves, etc. It should definitely help.

Good luck, man.

Same thing happen to me when my ex and I started to "try for a baby." The condoms came off, and I couldn't do it. Must have been a week worth of time (which at that point in time was like 20 times at least.) Didn't happen once. And you want to talk about mad..? Try ****ing off a baby-crazed woman who wants a kid but her "jerk-of-a-husband" couldn't figure out how to make "it" happen. (note: I mean this sarcastically ad this has nothing to do with why we are divorced:p .


Relax...I like the idea earlier where you both agree than "finishing" is not required (by the way are you having and "blue-ball" symptoms?

Once in a while I won't "finish" even though I don't use condums. I think it's a mental thing, putting pressure on myself rather than just enjoying the experience with my wife.

Lots of foreplay is a good idea. Put a good slow jam mix in the cd, light some scented candles, start off with giving her a massage, and enjoy! "Finishing" is always OMG AWESOME, but it's just the icing on the big, luscious cake, but not the cake itself.

Good luck. ;)

How about watching adult movies together?? If she's willing, it will get her going just as much as you.

You need to experiment lay of the meds and see what happens if that dosent work its the condoms.

I've also heard that it's important to have your testosterone levels checked by a doctor. Average level is around 500+ and if it's a lot lower then there could be issues.

Man I wish the internet was around when I was going through this stuff at your age. I did the same thing and I think its more of a head thing than an equipment thing. I think its actually a matter of focus, familliar to all of us add'ers. Like all things sexual, as you gain experience, these performance anxiety issues will go away. Just reassure your girlfriend that its not her fault, that its natural and that it will get better. And it gives you both something to work hard at;). And don't let it get into your brain and spoil your time. Our ADD egos are already pretty well beaten up and something like this can really do a job on us. Don't let it. This advice was given to me many time over the years and its surprising how good it is... "This too will pass". But to be on the safe side, and to assuage your fears, go ahead and talk to your family doctor. Even talk to a urologist. I think they will tell you the same thing.
p.s. On the scale of things your much better off finishing later than you are finishing too early, if you know what I mean.

I've had this too.

1) Lay off the masturbation. None. Keep your hands busy elsewhere. This WILL help.
2) Drop a small amount (very small!) of lub in the condom before you pull it on. This will REALLY help.
3) Drinking and/or drugs before sex = no no.
4) Increase your amount of foreplay. She'll love you for it and you will be getting all fired up during this time making it easier to climax.
5) During sex, R-E-L-A-X. I know it's hard to sometimes when you're making sure that she knows you're "the man" and all, but you have to remember that sex is something that is to be pleasurable for both of you. Focus on the connection you are making with this young lady, how great she looks, the way her body moves, etc. It should definitely help.

Good luck, man.
Ok, listen to this guy! Dood tips!

Personally I think your mind is in the way as well. You are just trying to rationalise it all to much. Love isn't a rational matter but all about emotion!

I haven't been diagnosted with anything as of now. But I am convinced something isn't right. But I've been faced with similar sexual problems myself. Only I find that sustaining hardness is also complicated as well. I'm fairly young and I've had the issue my entire life. My children were concieved through mastribation. I've climaxed inside probably 4 or 5 times in my entire life that I can recall. I found that if I can sustain hardness that it helps a lot, otherwise I can not generate enough sensation to keep the motor running. What I've been able to determine is that the thoughts seem to race in my mind while I'm having sex and that causes things to stop working. Sometimes when I get it going, I find that when I start feeling the familiar sensations of getting close, my mind shifts into overdrive and I lose it. I could be worrying about wether or not she'll get pregnant or I could be worrying about bills to pay, or I could be trying to concentrate on climaxing. I find the later ironic. Mastribation is not a problem, that system works just fine. Although I've built up a bit of a tolerance for pron over time that tends to get in the way, but a little imagination is always a plus for that one. Of course, imagination and another person never mix. No I am not on any meds. Condoms render me unable to do much of anything. Yes I can go an hour or two until I get frustrated or tired enough to just stop.

Thoughts?

Here's a link to an interesting article:
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/ejaculatoryincompetence.htm

At the very least, the article provides different seach terms for ejaclatory delay.

The only time I've had delayed ejaculation was when I was taking Paxil (or when very drunk).

Ritalin can go either way (to stimulate or dull), it seems. Have you tried taking Ritalin shortly before you make love? A little alcohol?

If its not drugs, then have you tried different positions? Sex doesn't always have to be strickly vaginal or oral. Have her masturbate you, for example.

There are different thicknesses and shapes and sizes of condums. Buy a variety pack and have a condum party!

If you can look at this all as an experiment, you might have fun exploring yourself and your partner, turning it into a game.

We all like games. :DI just found the site recently and was going thru some of the older topics. I completely agree with your Paxil comment. I don't think chemical castration could have killed my sex drive any more thoroughly. It's evil....and on the very odd occasion when I would try to at least clean out the pipes (solo of course) I'd spend hours on end and there would be no "happy ending".

I've never read about a drug that is more hated by those who take it or have taken it than Paxil. Effexor is a close second due to withdrawal symptoms, but at least it doesn't have nearly the sexual side effects.

I haven't been diagnosted with anything as of now. But I am convinced something isn't right. But I've been faced with similar sexual problems myself. Only I find that sustaining hardness is also complicated as well. I'm fairly young and I've had the issue my entire life. My children were concieved through mastribation. I've climaxed inside probably 4 or 5 times in my entire life that I can recall. I found that if I can sustain hardness that it helps a lot, otherwise I can not generate enough sensation to keep the motor running. What I've been able to determine is that the thoughts seem to race in my mind while I'm having sex and that causes things to stop working. Sometimes when I get it going, I find that when I start feeling the familiar sensations of getting close, my mind shifts into overdrive and I lose it. I could be worrying about wether or not she'll get pregnant or I could be worrying about bills to pay, or I could be trying to concentrate on climaxing. I find the later ironic. Mastribation is not a problem, that system works just fine. Although I've built up a bit of a tolerance for pron over time that tends to get in the way, but a little imagination is always a plus for that one. Of course, imagination and another person never mix. No I am not on any meds. Condoms render me unable to do much of anything. Yes I can go an hour or two until I get frustrated or tired enough to just stop.

Thoughts?I've been in your shoes at least to the extent that I was in a relationship, had a very difficult time staying interested and ejaculation was almost impossible. Maintaining an erection during the act wasn't usually a problem, but there were times when things weren't as firm as they could be. It seemed to be at times when I was under higher exceptionally high stress at work or having financial difficulties, etc.

These problems existed in my early 20's before I went on an anti-depressant. They became worse when I started taking Paxil, as I mentioned in another post, I became what my doctor termed "inorgasmic". At least it killed all interest in sex or it probably would have driven me insane.

Since you have no issues with maintaining an erection while masturbating and you're able to "complete" it, there has to be some component of anxiety/stress involved in sexual intercourse with your wife. I've came from oral/penetration less than ten times in my life. Even when with a partner, I've always had to manually finish things off. I also learned that with a condom, I wasn't going to be able to do anything...might as well just put it away.

I was a virgin until I was 20, but masturbation had been my good friend since I was about 10. I often wonder if that could be part of the problem, maybe I became so accustomed to my hand that it's just what feels best to me now? Could that possibly be part of your issue?

I think desensitization to porn happens to almost all guys that masturbate a lot and use porn all the time. It's a bit unsettling that a video can make your blood boil one day and after watching it a few times, it does nothing for you anymore. But there isn't much we can do about that.

My problem now that I take Adderall is the polar opposite of what it was before. My sex drive is off the scale, but there's no real desire to have sex with a partner. I've been concerned because there are times when I'll spend a few hours watching porn and taking care of business. Then again, it's the ultimate safe sex, so maybe I just need to relax and enjoy.

If weed was legal I would recommend it for this purpose. Weed can make a person become hyperfocused on what they are thinking about. If you were to do the deed while high you would be hyperfocused on the sex and how great it feels etc. that eventaully you'll have an amazing climax.

mmm well good sex an how to get it well from my expaice its about giveing an plasesing the worman your with add/adhd is usefull to this when your hyperfocused....you can give your total atioan to the lady....again it dep what she likes to do but lots forplay an you carnt really go worng an again its not about cuming becaoues its about expolering with each other bringing each other off so to sapeak....cuming toghter is the icing on the cake if she likes oralsex then giveing with out the prusher ofve reciveing ie spoilling her for the night and you both have a great weekend not two mention a fanctic climaxs if thats what you both want sooo good luck ...and yes i knows what you mean sometimes the meds can intrfer i find lowering the dose helps sometimes iam not saying you should though cos thats not my place two ....dorm

I can only suggest two things.


1. Fake it, you won't be the first man to do it.

2. Try going raw, get tested both of you and get her on a pill.

For me condoms making finishing damn near impossible.

Oh and try different condoms.

Some condoms REALLY REALLY suck.

And if all else fails, get her to stick her finger up your ***.











No, really, I'm not joking.

Might help to switch up the positions. Something where her legs are together, rather than apart, for instance. It could certainly be worse, lol.

You might consider getting your histamine levels checked. Usually with women who have low histamine levels they can have a hard time acheiving orgasm, but this can also happen to men with low histamine levels as well. (The men don't have a problem getting excited but do have a problem with acheiving orgasm.)

Research has shown that histamine is released as part of the human orgasm (http://www.answers.com/main/ntquery;jsessionid=189ke0qf8qbo3?dsid=2222&dekey=Orgasm&sbid=lc01a) from mast cells in the genitals, and the histamine release has been connected to the sex flush (http://www.answers.com/main/ntquery;jsessionid=189ke0qf8qbo3?dsid=2222&dekey=Flushing+%28physiology%29&sbid=lc01a) among women. If this response is lacking while a woman also has trouble achieving orgasm, this may be a sign of histapenia.
http://www.biology-online.org/dictionary/Histadine

Histapenia is a term that means low histamine levels. You can ask your doctor to give you a blood test to see how your histamine levels are. The body gets rid of histamine throught methylation. Methylation is a hot topic amoung biochemists now because they have learned how improper methylation rates in the body can contribute or perhaps cause most serious diseases including heart disease and cancer. The homocysteine theory that is supposed to indicate a risk of heart disease is also related to methylation rates in the body.

You can try a blood test and if that seems to fit you might research methylation and how nutrition can be used to improve methylation or how balance histamine levels.

Usually people with low histamine levels find that taking anti-histamines makes them feel weird, like they are on some mind altering drugs or something. Histamine in your brain is a neurotransmitter, which might explain why some people do feel odd on these medications because it may be effecting the histamine levels in the brain, but there may be no way to know that for sure.

Different condom, lay off the masterbation, and try Cialis.

I had the very same problem when i was younger. I really thought something was wrong with me. At the time i was not taking any medication, but i was busy doing other things to myself and i thing that was a big part of it. when I did not do that as often then the other seemed to go away. But just to be sure if this problem does not go a way, one thing you may do is have a Dr check your prostrate. Just to be sure there is nothing wrong with that.

It's a mind game, or it was for me, if your into pleasing her and she goes off 2,3,4,5+ times, I use to see how many times I could give her orgasums buy then I was worn out I would go relieve myself {****} and come back and finish. Give the mind a break. If you want to stick with condums try Lambs Skin, their a little pricy but worth it.

just read the whole thing from start to finnish and everyone is right and i want to add just one thing.. which often works for me... but sane man beat me to it!!!!
just so i can add something of my own though, how about masterbating yourselves in front of each other... i love that, and might get over the whole come in front of each other thing.
oh yea realised something else... i think its fairly recognised that us adhd guys are a bit more sensitive (what could be called girlie even) and girls often have this problem... i've been with several girls some mid 30's who'd never cum before at all before being with me...
Relaxation, plus being very turned on.. does the lady turn u on massively!!!!
if not.. maybe the chemisty between u and her is not right...

ooh this forum is great!

Settle, petal. It'll all be okaay.
You've only just lost the v-plates right? I think you're underestimating exactly how tricky it can be to get used to another person's 'buttons' if you will, especially early on in getting experienced, especially when you're trying to get round ADD-induced distractions.
Also, just stop trying to come (not insinuating that this is your main preoccupation) and really just lose yourself with her. Trying makes it harder. Ahem. More difficult.
Oh yeah, get into telling each other what's good. Or make it known ;) Speeds up the process.
BTW, your girlfriend's reaction is so normal. I'm guessing she's trying to make you come and you're not, so she's going to ask herself why simply because she's that into you. And also because she's so into you, none of the answers she gives herself will be your fault. Try and talk through the anxieties, but don't dwell on them.
I've been there a lot, probably because I go for the sensitive types. Just forget about it, enjoy it, and forgo the impatience. It's taken 6 months or so with some partners.
One day it'll happen...honest!

Take heart, dear boy. Faint heart never won fair maiden, eh-wot?
Seriously, rock on.
:eek:
Heh heh.

Get her to stick her finger up your ***.Well, thanks for that little nugget Dr. Ruth! LMAO :D

Well, now that I think about it, I guess it could help some focus better!! LMAO :D

Actually, I think at his age this might not be something he would even want to bring up, nor is it something a young female would even want to hear until further along in their relationship! I mean, let's not forget that these two are newbies! :)

However, I certainly admire your openness and honesty!!! :)

Oh, and thanks for the good laugh too! LOL :D
I needed one today! :D

Peace

dont forget people who take (not saying u do but) people who take speed and uppers (ritalin) can sometimes be so wired they cannot stay concentrated for one second. and Trust me that can really really really delay the big bang, try not taking your ritalin and then try taking it maybe your not ADD! if your not ADD then the meds can have oposite effects (jsut amke you wired and unconcentrated) do you get distracted easily (its ok too sometimes you can start thinking of what your doing tomorow... and big turn off for you if your thinking you hafta go to get your tires changed, see mom for lunch, clean house etc etc)

This problem can ruin a marriage and a relationship!

Especially if one thinks there partner apparently does not "Turn them on" enough, or if the partner thinks they don't "Turn you on"!

Either way, it can and will spell disaster in a marriage/relationship!

And the performance anxiety (Worrying about it not happening) can and will make the problem worse as time goes on!

yes seek an in them things i think its good to see doc a worman better somone you trust to talk to about it if you try to hard then it make it more diff we all go though it sometimes in our lifesss ....keep at it an dont give up its just how you apurch it that make the diff dorm

Okay!, I'll get right down to it...


Well, I probably don't have to elaborate on the difficulties of starting into a relationship when I've been rocked by ADD my entire life.

To make a long story short, I am 22 and I've only recently done the deed. Hooray for me; but!...

I um. Well,...









Well I'm really attracted to this girl, and she seems to be really attracted to me. And we both seem to have a healthy amount of interest, too. But...


I can't... 'finish'? We are averaging at 1-2 hour each session, I'm err... *sturdy* the entire time, and I DON'T finish, EVER.

..I don't really mind. But it's starting to bother her, she has said she 'wishes she could make me', and I'll tell her not to blame herself, but she isn't convinced. I really don't know what's the holdup.

Of course ADD comes with it's own great big basket of affected behaviors.

I have two theories:

1. It is protected sex and it's going to stay that way. I've read that 'hyper sensitivity' or "princess and the pea syndrome" can be associated with ADD. I'm wondering if I'm unknowingly distracted by this thin layer of latex?, but on a side note, oral hasn't triggered it either...

2. Pressure to 'finish' making it difficult for me to? I try not to think about it but I just don't make it to the brink.

I think we've gotten together about 20 odd times now, all to same effect.


So, I'm confused by this. Again this is the first person I've done this stuff with, and I'm totally hot for her. Whats'a matter with me?Oh, so you're wearing the latex tent? :D

I'd say there's nothing wrong at all, and applaud your preference for protection and safety.

I don't think it has anything to do with ADD. It just may be that by design, those rubber tents aren't exactly stimulants and they also impare blood flow.

If it were me, I'd explain to the female how the male anatomy works.
Even though she's had sex ed, they're mostly clueless.

It's not her, or you...it's the plastic thing. You might even suggest that she can help by alternative means of stimlation. :eek: :p

prusher to fishenss id say........dorm

prusher to fishenss id say........dormDORM??? WTF?? I have no idea what you mean ?? LOL:D

push her to finish???

prudish fishes?

pushes fishes? LOL:D

Dorm. It looks like you still haven't installed that ieSpell program yet have ya? :)

I thought you were going to install that the other day!

If you need help installing it Dorm, just PM me, ok? :)

If you keep putting it off Dorm, your going to force me to fill in the blanks you left in the "I am good at _______" thread that "Dorm is good at putting off installing ieSpell"!!!! LMAO :D

Anyway, I think Dorm meant "Pressure To Finish" Tracy! LOL :D

Dorm. It looks like you still haven't installed that ieSpell program yet have ya? :)

I thought you were going to install that the other day!

If you need help installing it Dorm, just PM me, ok? :)

If you keep putting it off Dorm, your going to force me to fill in the blanks you left in the "I am good at _______" thread that "Dorm is good at putting off installing ieSpell"!!!! LMAO :D

Anyway, I think Dorm meant "Pressure To Finish" Tracy! LOL :Dseek..what is ieSpell??:faint:

seek..what is ieSpell??:faint:
From the ieSpell website: http://www.iespell.com/ (http://www.iespell.com/)

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ieSpell is a free Internet Explorer browser extension that spell checks text input boxes on a web page. It should come in particularly handy for users who do a lot of web-based text entry (e.g. web mails, ADD Forums, (hehe :)) blogs, diaries). Even if your web application already includes spell checking functionality, you might still want to install this utility because it is definitely much faster than a server-side solution. Plus you get to store and use your personal word list across all your applications, instead of maintaining separate ones on each application.

The program installs as a new button in the IE toolbar (as well as a new menu item under "Tools") - after filling in a form, just hit the ieSpell button and it pops up a dialog, similar to the MS Word spell check. ieSpell also works (right-click menu only) on other IE based browsers such as SlimBrowser (http://www.flashpeak.com/sbrowser/sbrowser.htm), CrazyBrowser (http://www.crazybrowser.com/), MSN (http://explorer.msn.com/home.htm), MyIE (http://changyou.mainpage.net/), etc.

ieSpell is not spyware or adware. It's free for personal use.

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I use ieSpell all the time on our Forums Tracy, instead of Microsoft Word! I highly recommend it, especially if you're dyslexic and have problems spelling as I and Dorm do! :) Well, even if you aren't dyslexic it's worth the download! And it's Free! You couldn't ask for more! :)

Have a nice day/night! (Or whatever) hehe :)

your good seek lol you know what i ment lol eheheh tracy good gusesss yeh i will instal it lol working as an when iam a stiker for trying lol dormy

"Sorrysorrysorry", I hate to state the obvious or ask offensive questions... but have you considered size/fit may play a factor? If she's big, or you're small there may be a problem in that respect. Everyone is a different size and some of these sizes just aren't compatable. I once dated a girl that I had liked for a long time and I had the same problem. It wasn't her fault... she was born with an oversized hoohoo. She was oversensitive and could get off at the drop of a hat, but I needed stimulation. She was beautiful and petite... but she wasn't my first and I knew what the problem was. The fit just wasn't there.

I'm not going to give my measurements but I'm , at the very least, average. She was beautiful and we got along well, but in a relationship sex is very important. We tried anal, and while she didn't like it much, even with a condom, the deal got sealed. Anyways... the thing is... we weren't compatible in that department and the relationship only lasted for about a month after sex was introduced into the equation.

Have you ever received fellatio or anal sex? If you haven't, ask her to give it a try. If it doesn't work, the fit might not be right.

Disclaimer: Size in women has nothing to do with "being worn out", or her last boyfriend having a humdinger of a *****. Size in women is dictated at birth but will change temporarily to accomodate a size in a man(in most cases). If a large ***** is injected into the situation, the vagina will stretch to accomadate its size, but after sessation of the activity over a period of time, it will shrink back to it's former size.

Also, I'm not an expert. I'm just like you... but older and had one hellova misspent youth, although I regret none of it.

Good luck man.

Foghat, are you from Black Oak LOL, great group, I saw them often in Asbury Park back in the day.

Foghat, are you from Black Oak LOL, great group, I saw them often in Asbury Park back in the day.(sings) Jim Dandy to the Rescue! Go Jim Dandy....Go!!! hehe :D

Foghat, are you from Black Oak LOL, great group, I saw them often in Asbury Park back in the day.To tell you the truth... when I picked the name, I didn't know who they even were:eyebrow:. I picked it because I felt like there were times that I had a hat on that fogged my brain. But, as it turns out:D I've always liked their music. I've just never been one that listens to music on purpose without a specific mood in mind(I don't crave music but I apreciate it when I hear it). I'm more of a talk radio guy.

Heh... One of these days I'll actually check the date the original poster was last active before I start spewing forth my wisdom in all its glory.:soapbox::foot::faint:

Foghat, You an I are in the same boat their, Talk radio is what I like. I do enjoy about everykind of music , it just depends on my mood.

I go forever with latex condoms as well. Try the very expensive lambskin ones. They feel a little odd going on, but after that they are the best.

also, don't forget about the music and lighting. i've had problems with condoms too
also you may try horney goat weed, python and macca root aphrodisiacs like these can make you extra horney and ready to pop gushing gysers if giz.. sexy lingerie and letting your mind play with sexual fantasy - feeling free to explore areas that seem to turn you on. thats important letting go. shifting your focus back and forth from pleasing her to just letting go with your own erotic feelings can help you learn and explore the flow of sexual energy between you.:)

Not to worry. You're time will come, pardon the pun. Be as patient and understanding with yourself as you are with your partner. Know that things will work out. Had the same problem myself.

It resolves itself, as phisiology and the need to gratify, climax will occur. Be patient. There is much to enjoy during the interim. Look in her eyes, that glow and tenderness should satisfy you as well.

Another Idea.... Lay off the porn. It has been shown that people who are too involved with watching porn have a hard time achieving orgasm because the real thing does not match up. Just a suggestion. :)