I just bought a book titled Kiss my Tiara by Susan Jan Gilman.

It is hilarious !

It's totally about self empowerment- except the author does it in the way that I was taught...the good ole fashioned way of basically saying "I'm me...I have the booty and I know it...and if you don't like it- there's the door, Sugar" LOL !!

I was wondering if anyone would like me to post some excerpts from this book on a thread on here.
I would clean them up, of course, because while I am the author's twin in being the smartmouthed Goddess, as much as she is (0: - I also have the entelechy to realize all the variables included, in reading this section <wink>

So..not every section of that book would be posted, lol !
Just enough to keep all the Goddesses on Womens section of this forum laughing through what may be a difficult, and stressful time of the year, for some or most of us.

Yays or Nays ?

Nova

I say YAY. :)
It will be something fun to look forward to reading.

Ok then.
One Yay- Zero Nays.
Yays Rule- LOL !!!

This book was dedicated to the author's memory of her grandmother, who, insisted on living life her own way.


Kiss My Tiara

Introduction

Forget Rules for Catching a Husband.
How 'Bout Rules for Catching a Life?

'My Grandma never said, "Let him take the lead."
My Grandma said, "Have another piece of cake and wash it down with a gin and tonic."
quoted by the author-Susan Jane Gilman

What do women want?

Most women today want two things:
1) Some smart, no-nonsense advice about how to navigate the world
and
2) to laugh

Ideally, we want both these things at once.

Today's world is full of contradictory messages. We, women suffer from conflicting impulses. "If only I could balance my life the way I balance my checkbook." -If only I could find my checkbook (0:
Women have acquired all the responsibilities that come with sexual equalitiy (earning our own paycheck), but few of the equal benefits (see paycheck rule again).
We're encouraged to be empowered but vilified for being feminists. We have better careers, but we still get the message that bustier, not brainer is still our Girl Power.

We're urged to 'Just Do It, while encouraged to consume 1200 calories a day, and weighing no more than 103 lbs. We're inspired to scale the corporate ladder, but we're fully aware that it bumps up against the glass ceiling, and that someone is peeking up our skirts as we're climbing it.

The pressure to get married and have kids s always buzzing in our ears, like Muzak, if we haven't already done so. And if we're gay, we are initially told to 'straighten up'.
All the while, we know we have it better than any group of women in history.
We are still, however, fraught with ambivalence over choices.

My favorite book is "Getting in touch with your Inner B**ch"

The key phrase is: "I don't think so"

As in "How would you like to marry me, have my kids, take care of my house, have sex with me whenever I want, and not give me a hard time about anything you don't like?"

"I don't think so."

We should've just titled this thread The Beotches of ADD, LOL !

It would have been perfect, wouldn't it ?
We would've never got away with it though ! Andrew would've fainted (0:

I bet we have tons of women on here replying and bantering with us and adding their power books, though !

Joy !! please add that book exerpts on here (you're going to have to clean it up like I'm going to have to do..I think, lol)
Stori !! please find your Power book too ! and add that on here as well

We might as well make the most of it, Girls !!!
Tis the season of merriment, after all !!!
Nova

Nova....I think I lent my copy to someone. There are millions of women out there that need to learn to take ownership of their inner B**ch. It is our power, it is our strength, it is a quality we have denied for too long.

B**ches of the world unite!

Kiss My Tiara
Susan Jane Gilman
Introduction
Part II

Throughout all of this, sadly, many womens personal battles are not in the boardrooms or courtrooms but in our own bathrooms.
Though the women's movement has done a lot over the past few decades to right the scales of justice, it has had little effect on our own scales and mirrors.
For so many women, our physical appearance is a major hurdle to feeling powerful and confident. And we just can't seem to get over this.
"Want to kow what today's chic young feminst thinkers care about?" Time magazine crowed recently. "Their bodies! Themselves!" Much as I hate to side with Time, it's true that some of us literally can't see past the nose on our face. (I know I do this)

And while we're sitting there immobilized before the mirror, we're reading backlashy, boy-crazy women's magazines that instruct us to do stuff like master the 'art' of (ahem...a certain sexual technique...use your imagination...K?), wrap our thighs in cellophane, or put our lingerie in a confettie filled envelope, and place it in our husband's briefcase.

On top of these, of course, we've also read The Rules.
The Rules came out, like, what, a zillion years ago?
And yet people still refer to them so often, you'd think they were the Ten Commandments.

The Rules essentially instructed women to act like diet soda.
Be effervescent !
Sweet!
Chronically artificial!
Remain bubbly and fluid, they implied, and you could trick a guy into marrying you.

For us progressive Prima Donnas, The Rules, at first glance, was nothing but a warmed-over version of the 'trade your gumption for a diamond' formula that girls followed in the fifties. But the book was seductive. Why ? Precisely because it offered...well...rules !
It gave young women very clear instructions: Follow these, it promised, and you will live happily ever after.
It was a guaranteed formula-a script. Finally, tangible guidelines! Order-amidst chaos!
And the clincher ?
These 'time-tested secrets' supposedly came from Grandma. Who could be more comforting and wise than Grandma ? Who can resist Grandma ?

In today's day and age, Oh...how we want Grandma ! How we crave reassurance and permission and advice. How we long for a wise, maternal female to help us navigate an increasingly complicated world a world where all the old bets are off, the new ones are risky, and the payoffs are less certain.
Some women long for Granma so badly, we buy books called Chicken Soup for the Soul.
Co-authored by two guys, for your information (0;

To be continued...

Thanks for posting, Nova!

I'm with Grandma on the Gin and Tonic! lol

Nova, did you find you felt more positive or negative (about women and life in general) after reading this book?
I'm considering buying this book, but not if I am going to feel down. I am in search of a job and career right now, with no luck, and I really need positive reinforcement right now!

Thanks for posting, Nova!

I'm with Grandma on the Gin and Tonic! lol

Nova, did you find you felt more positive or negative (about women and life in general) after reading this book?
I'm considering buying this book, but not if I am going to feel down. I am in search of a job and career right now, with no luck, and I really need positive reinforcement right now!


This is just the prelude to this book, cutie !!
I write as much from it when I find time because I think it's a great book for women.

I find it extremely positive !!
But then again, I look for positives. I call them Sparklies (0: as often as I can, because it's extremely easy to get sukked into that Pit of Despair.

I do have to tell you that the author calls herself a Smartmouthed Goddess, and I totally identify with that.
Meaning that she also has a PottyMouth and swears in the book.
So if you're not one who can handle swear words, and find them offensive, then the book is not going to be one for you.

It's not for the faint of heart (0:


If you ask me, in my opinion, the best way to find a job, is to go to what is known as a 'headhunter' that is paid by companies to look for quality people seeking jobs, who are paid by the company.
Don't sell yourself short when telling them your salary requirements, but don't be greedy either.
Dress impeccably when going to see the headhunter as if they were the company interviewer themselves, because they report to the company.
And act as if you already got the job because in knowing your field, you did get the job.
Then stop obsessing over it and don't give it another thought when you leave the headhunter's office
The most important thing you can do is NOT TALK TO OTHER'S ABOUT IT AFTER YOU LEAVE HIS OFFICE because by doing that, you are leaving room for someone to implant doubt in your mind. Just know that you will get a job, be humble and grateful, and let it go.

And when you get a job, remember your humility, and pay it forward, by giving those who don't have jobs, or money, like the homeless, some of your money, when you receive your paychecks, every now and again.

And to those who who tell you that you're enabling the homeless, from going out and getting jobs, by giving them money, or that they'll just spend it on booze or cigarettes...tell them that everyone can be one step away from being homeless, and to look up the definition of compassion when they get a chance. And to also Kiss Your Tiara.

This advice is from no book.
This is my advice -from me to you -and what has, and always will work for me.

Nova