Hello I Haven't Been In Here In A Long Time So You Probaly Wont Remeber Me. I Am A Trouble Young Adult Who Is Haveing A Little Trouble In All Parts Of Her Life. Especially My Love Life. My Boyfrineds Broke Up With Me On My Birthday But Get This I Haven't Seen Him Since July So I Told Him Come Home Or Its Goodbye And He Said Goodbye. I Can't Keep A Man For Long They Always Seems To Leave Me. We Always Seem Too Never Work Out. I Want To Know Why. Is There Any Advice You Poeple Here In This Forums Can Tell Me So They Quit Running Away. I Am So Lonely. So Very Lonely. :(

Hi Michelle!

it's great to read you again!

I understand you're lonely, Michelle. How long were you and your boyfriend together?

One thing I suggest is that you take this time to heal yourself from this relationship.

I think being by yourself and getting to know who you are, as a single person, is very important. You don't want to have to depend on a boyfriend to help you feel happy and not lonely. You need to be happy with yourself and able to depend on yourself before being able to have a healthy relationship with someone else.

Another thing to consider is that you go out and make new friends. Friends can help support you and help so you're not so lonely.

Hang in there, Michelle!

I think being by yourself and getting to know who you are, as a single person, is very important. You don't want to have to depend on a boyfriend to help you feel happy and not lonely. You need to be happy with yourself and able to depend on yourself before being able to have a healthy relationship with someone else.

It's my experience that the most damaging thing in relationships is when one or both of the partners are insecure.

If you are not happy with yourself, or if you are unable to feel secure in a relationship, you won't be able to do your part to keep a relationship going. Insecure people tend to behave in a passive-aggressive manner and are never satisfied with what the other partner offers in the way of comfort.

You need to work on YOU. Therapy might help.

Thank you all so much for you advice. My Ex-boyfriend and i were together since Feb,14 and broke up december 2,2005 you are right. see the one problems is that the town that i live in knows me way to well and my past so its hard to go out and make new friends i would love some help.

I know that it can be difficult making friends. It's hard!

Let me think of a few things and I'll post again.

((((HUGS)))).....I know how you feel...KEEP HANGING ON Michelle!

Hello I Haven't Been In Here In A Long Time So You Probaly Wont Remeber Me. I Am A Trouble Young Adult Who Is Haveing A Little Trouble In All Parts Of Her Life. Especially My Love Life. My Boyfrineds Broke Up With Me On My Birthday But Get This I Haven't Seen Him Since July So I Told Him Come Home Or Its Goodbye And He Said Goodbye. I Can't Keep A Man For Long They Always Seems To Leave Me. We Always Seem Too Never Work Out. I Want To Know Why. Is There Any Advice You Poeple Here In This Forums Can Tell Me So They Quit Running Away. I Am So Lonely. So Very Lonely. :(
Watch Oprah and read her magazine.

I would keep researching and understanding yourself more. Then ask questions here, Barb is very intelligent and knows what she is talking about ( the same goes for numerous others here on the forums). Insecurity does destroy relationships faster than anything else. But, to be secure, you have to understand and accept who you are.

Insecurity does destroy relationships faster than anything else. But, to be secure, you have to understand and accept who you are.
Thanks for the kudos, Braack!

I just wanted to emphasize the part I bolded of Braack's post. This is so very true and the hardest thing to change. That old sappy saying that you must love yourself before you can love another really is true.

Thank you all so much for your help. i don't deserve it but yet i have it thank you