I'll try to make this short :rolleyes:

We live 3 hrs apart. We're not dating at the moment, but still very, very close. We both post on the same board. Today is his birthday. Last night at 11:30 I posted a "happy birthday" thread. He actually got upset that I started it early, before his actual birthday. He told me it was "dumb" and I should delete it and start another at midnight, on his actual birthday.

I can't believe it could possibly be such a big deal, and it actually hurt that he was making such a big deal about it...had anyone else started it, he'd never ask them to delete it, or do anything other than say thank you, isn't it the thought that counts???

Anyway...I got upset and left. I didn't talk to him today until he emailed me and reamed me out for not saying happy birthday to him today. Or talking to him. He spent the whole day angry w/ me, didn't go to his family dinner, and he blames me for ruining his entire birthday...and making it all about me (cause I was hurt) instead of him. I sucked it up and said sorry, even though I still am mad at him...I really don't want to fight on his birthday.

Any thoughts? Who's over-reacting? Who's being childish? He's still mad at me for ruining his birthday, and I still think he's a jerk for rejecting a nice sentiment from me.

:) You both are being a tad childish in my opinion. :) Don't take it all so seriously. :p It is just not worth fussing over, is it ? ;)

Me :D

Personally i think he was being childish on all levels you tried to say sorry and yet he still blames you. my birthday was not long ago so yeah i know how he can be big headed...... i hope you and he work things out.

:) You both are being a tad childish in my opinion. :) Don't take it all so seriously. :p It is just not worth fussing over, is it ? ;)

Me :D\

I agree :rolleyes: But he won't let it go...

No. But you can.

ok...one more thing since I have your attention :o

When we fight and he's angry w/ me, which is a lot, he goes on and on and on. To the point where I usually end up crying and just get so tired and give up and say sorry, just to make him stop. I dunno if I cry just cause I am so frustrated at not being able to say what I want properly or what. How do I make him stop that?

Wouldn't it be nice to be accepted for who you are...warts and all...including simple things like posting a birthday greeting a day early.

I wonder what HE gets out of going on and on and on like that....long enough to make you cry. He knows you by now, that you do that. What's the point? If it really needs discussing, in his view, then he needs to work on learning how to communicate and move on without going over everything ad nauseum.

And you, my dear..... are sweet and thoughtful and maybe a little daffy (in your BFs opinion). You deserve someone who can appreciate that. And can lighten up a bit.

Are you sure you two aren't dating?

Sounds to me like he looks for things to go on and on about. Do you like the drama as much as he does?

I'd run screaming from this situation.

Are you sure you two aren't dating?
No...I'm not sure at all:o

ok...one more thing since I have your attention :o

When we fight and he's angry w/ me, which is a lot, he goes on and on and on. To the point where I usually end up crying and just get so tired and give up and say sorry, just to make him stop. I dunno if I cry just cause I am so frustrated at not being able to say what I want properly or what. How do I make him stop that?
Mine does this. I only noticed when I started meds. It is a little bit different, in that if we are disagreeing about something he will bring up a similar situation in which I messed up, then make me feel bad about it so that I get upset and stop arguing.
Since I noticed that this was happening, it has happened four times. Three of these were entirely bogus things. Not my fault at all, just turned enough to sound like they were.
When I call him on it, he backs right down. If he doesn't, I walk away and refuse to discuss it further.
Or, if we disagree, he keeps running through his side of it over and over, like I haven't heard him yet, because I am not agreeing yet. I point out that yes, I heard him. And no, I still disagree.

I no longer have time for blaming, pouting, sulking or anything like that.
And it happens waaayyyy less now.

I still miss things, and let them slide by me. But it is working much better.

I used to be afraid he would leave me if I didn't do things his way.
Now I feel that if my opinion is of so little value that he would leave me rather than listen to me occasionally, then so be it.

I hope this helps. I am rambling a bit. It took me 25 years to get to this point; maybe you can get there sooner...

Struggling, he didn't go to the family dinner because he didn't want to.