Have any of you occasionally, in casual conversation, momentarily forgotten names of people you have known for years? I mean like close friends and even significant others? This happens to me sometimes and I'm completely aghast when it happens because these are people I love and care about. When it happens I just can't believe it and start thinking what is wrong with me here?!?
My biggest fear (and it has not happened so far thank goodness) is that I'm going to have one of these brain cramps in their presence. Boy that would not go over well with the girlfriend. How in the world would I explain that away - they would think that they just don't mean that much to me anymore or something. They'd never believe me if I said it was ADD.
Yea...this happens every single day with me. Except, like you, I've never had it happen right in front of their face. Only has happened in conversation with my wife or about the person. She is very understanding to my ADD and knows that I mean no harm when I can't think of someones name and usually chimes it in when I'm searching for it but can only come up with um..., he/she, or what's his/her name...
onetrackmind
01-03-06, 10:03 AM
I don’t use names unless I absolutely have to because of that and I never have. When I do have the use someone’s name I am forced to think carefully about it so I don’t screw up.
For me these brain cramps happen with everyday objects too, and when it does my mind just fills in the gap with whatever else I have been thinking about.:(
I forget names all the time too. I work with athletic teams and it is almost impossible for me to remember their names when I have to write up a report or when I see them years or months later. I get by by asking "what's your last name again" so then I can look up their file and get their first name. In social situations I often introduce the person I am with to the person I ran into in hopes that the person I ran into will introduce themselves. So far these methods seem to do okay!!! I am sure I have offended people at some point along the way. A lot more people seem to remember me than me them!!!
casinowife
01-03-06, 04:41 PM
I'm so bad with names and faces. I've tried to fool them but you can see it in my face. They usually say "you don't remember me, do you" and I say well kinda....you look very familiar, what's your name again? Or I just flat out admit I'm no good with names and apologize. This happened to me on New Years Eve. I hate that.....
I find this happening to me all the time. Not just in my personal life, but in my professional life as well. It can be a real career killer, when you can't give names, numbers and details to your boss, about a meeting you just had. I can't tell you HOW many times that's happened to me...heck, I've even written the names down, taken business cards, you name it...and I draw a blank. Sigh.