We went ice skating this weekend with some friends. My 7yo accidentally spilled some hot chocolate it on her friend. It did not burn or anything, it just made a mess. Nobody got upset except my daughter. She esentially took one look and took off. She could not handle the situation. This is fairly common, for her. When things go bad she takes off. Is this typical?

OTOH, when it is unclear whose fault it is, she blames the other person. Even when we see that it was clearly her fault. Then she takes off.

My five year old always says "she/he started it" when something goes wrong...it is never her fault in her eyes, even when it clearly is.

I don't know yet if that's the age, or something else. Time will tell.

Both of my boys have trouble dealing with making mistakes. One blames everyone and anything and the other tends to run and hide. I don't know if this is normal for all kids or specific to ADHD, but it is really hard for them to admit that they have done something wrong.

I try and be a good example and admit when I've done something wrong even when my boys weren't around. We've also tried to teach them how much worse things go when they refuse to acknowledge having made a mistake, but it is a slow process.

I guess there isn't much to do except keep on telling her that it's okay and human to make mistakes. Unfortunately, our ADHD kids tend to hit this wall really often. Maybe that's why it's so hard for them.

My five year old always says "she/he started it" when something goes wrong...it is never her fault in her eyes, even when it clearly is.

I don't know yet if that's the age, or something else. Time will tell. At 5 it's age-appropriate. My 5yo is famous for this and he's not ADD.

My 8yo doesn't blame others for things that are his fault, but he assumes someone has wronged him at every turn. If he can't find something, his brother stole it. If he was accidently hit in the head with a basketball, the kid did it on purpose. You get the picture.....

Oh, to answer the original question.... When my ADD 8yo makes a mistake he's pretty good at owning up to it.

he assumes someone has wronged him at every turn. If he can't find something, his brother stole it. If he was accidently hit in the head with a basketball, the kid did it on purpose. You get the picture.....

This matches my seven y.o. One problem with blaming someone is the dramatic retalliation that often follows.