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wheresmykeys
01-19-06, 01:36 AM
I am feel so unmotivated today. Completely shut down. I can't get myself to do anything! I was like that yesterday too, even worse than normal.
I think I'll just give up on trying to accomplish anything and become a paper weight.
Sound like a good idea?

Uminchu
01-19-06, 01:50 AM
Actually, yes! :D

My psych tells me it's important to listen when my brain is shutting down. Trying to get things accomplished in that state is a bad idea.

I tend to have this bad habit of kind of sluggishly working, not getting much done but sticking in there out of pig-headed determination, until I finally kick into work mode and get it done. He told me I should mandate at least one day a week when I do NO work... Quite a challenge!

amiegrace
01-19-06, 03:50 PM
Do something that you enjoy, and maybe the positive feedback from doing that will make you feel better. AND give yourself kudos for doing whatever it is that you accomplish! Even if it's writing a letter, or reading an article in a magazine, cooking a quesadilla, whatever it is that you can do to do SOMETHING will make you feel so much better.

You are worth taking care of!

Joyous56
01-19-06, 07:19 PM
Make sure you add that to "Good careers for ADDers". Sounds right on target!

HighFunctioning
01-19-06, 08:36 PM
Actually, yes! :D

My psych tells me it's important to listen when my brain is shutting down. Trying to get things accomplished in that state is a bad idea.

I tend to have this bad habit of kind of sluggishly working, not getting much done but sticking in there out of pig-headed determination, until I finally kick into work mode and get it done. He told me I should mandate at least one day a week when I do NO work... Quite a challenge!

I wish more people would understand this. In this 8 hrs a day, 40 hrs a week society, it's no wonder why we often fail, having to force ourselves to try to work when we can't (or at least, can, but at a plodding pace).

bythesea
01-20-06, 01:02 PM
I am feel so unmotivated today. Completely shut down. I can't get myself to do anything! I was like that yesterday too, even worse than normal.
I have times when this happens to me. Happened recently just after Christmas while on break. To the point where I was researching depression because my bouts of couch-potato, pajama-wearing had me a little concerned.

Last week when I told this to my psych (who had been on vacation while I was in couch-potato mode), doctor said that it wasn't surprising that had happened because it had been a busy and emotional semester for me, that I don't take enough down time during the semester, and I was getting ready to face a week of essay exams. No wonder I needed some down time. So I felt a little better, and I was already feeling better and getting some stuff done again... so I guess my downtime was beneficial?

I also remember reading somewhere about ADHD that sometimes because we're always scanning, always receiving info and stimulus that we need some down time. That you can just feel overwhelmed or exhausted and like your brain is saying "enough."

Like Barbya said in another post, be careful about the possibility of depression, stay self-aware, maybe talk to your doctor or your psychologist or someone at the school health center, etc. But also like Uminchu and others suggested... maybe your body is trying to tell you something. Are you on a break where you can take some downtime? If not, maybe you can work some "freetime" into each day or figure out a way to have a day off each week. For your free/down time you might take time to veg, watch TV, sleep, exercise, do something creative, hang out with friends, whatever. Give yourself permission because it is a form of self-care, and try not to feel guilty and think about all the other things you need to do (I know from experience... easier said than done).

Hang in there! Recognizing it and posting about it to ask for support is a good step. :)

wheresmykeys
01-20-06, 05:09 PM
That is good advice the only problem is that I have a lot of down time. I shouldn't have, I should be reading textbooks or something but I take too much time off from attempting that. It's actually the down time that shuts me off more than when Im active, I think it's because when I have nothing to even put some of my focus into my mind wanders off in 100 dfferent directions and it fills my brain with too much n then it feels like it's being compressed. Otherwise the down time suggestion might work..

I am going to get myself evaluated soon, I have a doctors apt. to get a referral on Monday. I will tell the psyc all about this problem, it is the main reason I am getting a dx.

sissy
01-22-06, 01:17 AM
I too have A Lot of down time. I take antidepress. and have tried them all at one time or another. But how do you explain the simple thought of having to do everyday stuff and can't. It is effecting my marriage in a big way. I am going to psyc.doc next month for the ADD. I don't know if it is because I am so much worse or my husband just can't take it anymore. His support is a wash so to speak. He wants to get the help I need, finally but brow beats the S&%$# out of me because he just can't get this whole ADD thing. The pressure in my house is enough to push me over the edge somedays. He thinks any kind of mental illness etc... is a flaw in one's character. Funny thing is, he ain't no where near normal his own self. Passes alot of judgement on us folks that can't cowboy up and get the job done. I have little to no problems at my work place. but it is not too demanding either and I set my own pace. When I get home each thought I have about getting a small project done makes me sink more in the mud. I too could make a wonderful paper weight. Good job,wheresmykeys! We can be useful.!!! Some day I am going to learn my multiplycation tables too! And learn how to spell..sissy

...Daria
01-22-06, 02:02 AM
So, this is something I have quite a wrapsheet for. I can't have down time even though sometimes it is supposed to be healthy. It gives my mind time to "wander off in 100 dfferent directions and fills my brain with too much n then it feels like it's being compressed. "<-- I find this ends with a huge explosion of unneccesary emotion. I don't like to let emotions overload because they tend to lead me in the wrong direction in major decision making and planning goes all wrong. Like I make a list to keep myself organized and then BOOM!! Way too many things on my list to accomplish in the little time I truly have during a regular weekday. The overwhelming sense kicks in to overload.

Pace yourself and keep at least an hour of "down time" to yourself but feel safe with a planned busy day. I just found this is working for me.:eyebrow:



That is good advice the only problem is that I have a lot of down time. I shouldn't have, I should be reading textbooks or something but I take too much time off from attempting that. It's actually the down time that shuts me off more than when Im active, I think it's because when I have nothing to even put some of my focus into my mind wanders off in 100 dfferent directions and it fills my brain with too much n then it feels like it's being compressed. Otherwise the down time suggestion might work..

I am going to get myself evaluated soon, I have a doctors apt. to get a referral on Monday. I will tell the psyc all about this problem, it is the main reason I am getting a dx.