fasttalkingmom
10-13-03, 10:24 AM
From what I've learned here about myself and ADD I've been able to handle a very difficult situation well.....
2 weeks ago my grandmother fell in her home and decided she didn't want to go home any more and but herself in a nursing home. She wasn't hurt, but has other health issues that need more care. My family and I have been left with putting her house up for sale,dealing with her money matters,clean out her home and splittting up her things.My brother,sister and I are her only grand children. My siblings and I don't get along,my mom I are close as long as I don't want to talk about anything that makes her uncomfortable.....I'm the in your face yeller, truth finder,emotional one, wave maker.......
They started leaving me out of the decisions regarding my grandmother. I was very hurt, talked to my mom about why I was being left out. She told me to leave it alone and walk way(her usual response to me the "wave maker"). I didn't walk away, I called my siblings on their behavor. I didn't yell, I didn't make"waves". They were still uncomfortable with what I said but because I handled myself better I got them to understand how I felt about being left out........
Although my family thinks I know nothing (why would I, I'm a weirdo...lol..) I know plenty about how to be doing this whole house selling,money managing, nursing home thing. They arent asking or wanting my input and this I'm choosing to walk way from and feel good about it......
Just when you think you aren't learning anything, you see you've learned more than you bargained for......
.........Thanks everyone........
Paula
2 weeks ago my grandmother fell in her home and decided she didn't want to go home any more and but herself in a nursing home. She wasn't hurt, but has other health issues that need more care. My family and I have been left with putting her house up for sale,dealing with her money matters,clean out her home and splittting up her things.My brother,sister and I are her only grand children. My siblings and I don't get along,my mom I are close as long as I don't want to talk about anything that makes her uncomfortable.....I'm the in your face yeller, truth finder,emotional one, wave maker.......
They started leaving me out of the decisions regarding my grandmother. I was very hurt, talked to my mom about why I was being left out. She told me to leave it alone and walk way(her usual response to me the "wave maker"). I didn't walk away, I called my siblings on their behavor. I didn't yell, I didn't make"waves". They were still uncomfortable with what I said but because I handled myself better I got them to understand how I felt about being left out........
Although my family thinks I know nothing (why would I, I'm a weirdo...lol..) I know plenty about how to be doing this whole house selling,money managing, nursing home thing. They arent asking or wanting my input and this I'm choosing to walk way from and feel good about it......
Just when you think you aren't learning anything, you see you've learned more than you bargained for......
.........Thanks everyone........
Paula