I often wonder if it’s the other way around. Sometimes I feel like the Non-Add people are the ones who are behind! Some act as though I intentionally speak over their heads even when I am simplistic enough to fit their needs.



:rolleyes: Some want me to stop and give them a vocabulary lesson, which is real annoying. Having to stop to explain complex Ideas is an even worse request, especially if the result of something I do is success. Then the slow non-adder gets all-paranoid, and becomes my enemy no matter how patient understanding or helpful I may have been. This is why I never tell anyone about my add, because it's often the only thing these petty types of people can find to use against me.

:cool: In contrast, I never seem to have trouble with the rare non-adders that are brilliant or successful. Those kind of people "get it" - They don’t expect me to stop and explain things to them every two seconds. They don't expect me to detail lower level concepts because they too are advanced beyond the remedial. I have never had to dumb my self down for these kinds of people!

This world is just set up to a standard that accommodates a bunch of low-level thinkers who rely on rote skill and value the most mundane petty useless things. This phenomenon is real annoying to me. :mad:It’s like I am stuck in a world where 80% of the population is ....well...:eyebrow:..less evolved, yet catered to because they are the majority.

Am I just nuts because I have ADD or does anyone else here feel the same way? If so, please share your thoughts so I know I’m not losing it!

i feel the same way

Sorry you feel that way. What do you suggest as a way to improve this?

P.S. I may not be quite "getting your superiority" - but to me you sound like you may have something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

pp1 and r4j are expressing the same feelings that many of us have been having for quite some time.

Without much effort I think I could find several examples from real recently from pretty much everywhere in and around this site.

The essential point, I think, is that we beat ourselves up over the sorts of things that we can't do (which we don't *actually* want to do), but which we're told we must do in a predominantly nonADDer world (whereupon we are, of course, seen to be lacking ... disordered ... and the rest).

If you want to see some real cool posts from a chappie here who sees all of this -- read a couple of the recent posts by Bob1951 ... !

I think his thread on drag cars and ADD -- is just a couple or so away from here.

:-)

SB.

No. Privateperson1 does not have a narcissistic personality disorder. He/she is merely frustrated at being a clever person in a seemingly stupid, ignorant world.

I feel the same and there is no way I have a narcissistic personality disorder - I am fairly introverted and do not at all fit the criteria for the aforementionned disorder.

For a start, privateperson1 would not have such a username if he/she had narcissistic personality disorder for a couple of reasons which I need not go into here.

Anyway...privateperson1, thank you - I have hope! :) I don't believe I have met an ADDer, let alone an intelligent one, and I have recently begun to believe that the world is full to the brim with impossibly ignorant people who sit around talking about meaningless things of no importance or interest.

I am not saying that all non-ADDers are dumb, nor am I saying all ADDers are intelligent, but I am constantly frustrated at the lack of stimulating interlectual conversation which can be found. The little there is, I have found, is generally awkward talk with adults (awkward because I am so unacustomed to such talk).

So, privateperson1, whoever and wherever you are, thank you for giving me some shred of hope in these dark days :) :D

I think that there may be a logical reason for this.... (And no, I'm not implying that this is the situation here).

At-risk groups of people (those with disorders, square pegs that don't fit into round holes, etc.) tend to be under-employed (employed in positions below their intellectual capacity). I think employment has a lot to do with outside social life ("social networking"), and those under-employed are probably less likely to find people with similar intellectual capacities (this is probably more true as the level goes up, because "intelligence" is supposed to be modeled around a normal distribution). ADD itself may have social rammifications which may or may not affect how we are viewed by our intellectual, yet non-ADD peers. Thus, we may be less exposed to our intellecual peers, which gives us this view.

Just a thought.

I don't think this is about ADDers vs. Non-ADDers, but characteristics that many have come to associate with ADD vs. Non-ADD (like global vs. sequential thinking, open mindedness, creativity, etc.) I am definately with you on the notion of the world being set up for rote learners, though. There's a lot of wasted brainpower in the world being sacrificed because we don't have "common sense" (see the quote in my signature).

Feeling frustrated because one is not understood is easy to relate to -- I think in general people feel most comfortable with people whose thinking styles are more similar and who communicate easily. That doesn't make one way or the other better. It seems like this is getting pretty personal in nature -- lets be respectful.

Scattered