how can I deal with it?
Lately I seem to postpone every task until I? am not able to do it-with two little kids at home, both under two, I do not have much personal time in my hands. And I mean everything-from cleaning, making appointments, dealing with some personal issues i really need to deal.
If there is an external stimuly-house is getting very dirty, child is really sick -i'll do it, but otherwise...i just spen whole days doing absolutely nothiing, and that just makes me feeling even more depressed and also overwhelmed by all these tasks, and I just procrastinate even more....
is there any way I could motivate myself?

Have you thought about rewards? What is something you really want? I don't know if this will work and its just an opinion - but rewards yourself when you get things done. Perhaps some time out without your babies to go shopping or have coffee with a friend. Maybe a facial? I dunno, just an idea.
Good luck!

You rang? :) I'm like the procrastination king.

It sounds like you've got a lot of stress and anxiety. That can make anyone want to run and hide. And especially for ADHDers, when things pile up they start to look like some insurmountable wall of work.

One technique I have read for dealing with this is to break things down. Like, grab a basket of laundry, take your kids to the park, and fold it there. Or put all the piles of papers into a box, go to the park, and divide everything into a "chuck" or "look at later" box. Then you can deal with the "look at later" box later ( :) ), when it will hopefully be smaller.

Not that any of this has really helped me, but I am always hopeful!

hi miss anamari.

i'm sorry. i guess i used to have awful procrastination problems.. but i started concerta on friday & it's so far relieved me of this significantly. do you take a stimulant? when i wasn't on concerta, i would try a wealth of things to get myself to do things day-to-day. i'll go ahead and make a list.. maybe you'll find some of these things useful. oh, btw.. i never did well with rewards.. which made things a bit harder for me.

-vitamin B complex. increases energy, ever so slightly. i also combine this with omega fatty acids (omega-3, 6, & 9).. which appears to calm me down. again, ever so slightly. ginseng is also nice.. but i only tried it for a day.. it felt like the equivalent of a mild runner's high.
-playing one or two songs over and over. i used to pick out a song & loop it.. and listen to this one song (for hours) while i did whatever i needed to do. i'm not quite sure how this works for me, but i does. television, on the other hand, can be too much (aka. too distracting).
-lots of caffeine, a moderate amount of protein & rather low carb intake. carbs tend to make me sleepy.. and sleepiness is not a good thing.
-a 2 mile morning walk. i would do a mild exercise routine for a least 30-45 minutes in the morning. it helps get my adrenaline going. anything less than 30 minutes, and it has almost no effect on me.
-*try* to think about your errands one-at-a-time. break things down into incredibly small segments & don't think about the end-goal, but rather the one thing you are planned to do. when it's done, take out your list & do the next thing. don't think. just keep yourself moving in the most directed way possible.

hope some of these might help you in some way. take care miss anamari.

thank you for the advice....
utter nutter-some of the things i really want or like to do, i have no time or means for them...I know that when my babies are going to be over 3 I'll be able to get back to my hobbies, but until then....

uminchu-I was giggling thinking how it will be to fold laundry in the park in this snowy weather. I know it is only a sugestion, but just close your eyes and imagine a little lady folding laundry in the snow...thanks for the giggles...
dwightbean - walking sounds like a great idea. actually I was thinking to buy a bike and ride it every morning when my husband babysits...now that spring is coming.
I am still looking for an adult add doctor to give me the right medicine...my GP does treat me for postpartum depression but I think he does not really believe in adult add-.the psychologist that diagnosed me lives to far away-we moved six months ago. but i know i need medicine...the right one, if there is such a medicine.I also have to check my tyroid-did not have a problem with it, but there is family history and they say pregnancy can trigger tyroid problems-well, but I did not got to the lab yet...
caffeine is bad for me. I did that and could not sleep well at night-getting enough sleep with 2 little ones is hard enough and i am the kind that really needs sleep to function....
and to all the madness in my life add the fact that I do not drive -tried to learn, I'll try again once spring comes and I am on the right medication. I have no familly were I live-no help other than my husband. no close friends-my friends live anyway from 500 to 6000 miles away, thanks God there is a phone and e-mail....

my only advice on procrastination (since I have a huge problem sometimes) is that usually it is because I'm stuck due the problem not being broken down into small doable steps as Uminchu mentioned and/or do to a worry.

Here are some examples of (silly?) worries that really held me up from painting and [utting up curtains.

e.g. I didn't work on the curtains for a window because I didn't know how to use pegs instead of a curtain rod to hang the tabs from. It delayed me for a few years. Finally I decided to go with a curtain rod and I was able to go and get some nice curtains and hardware.

e.g. I didn't paint my new window inserts because I had to take the old paint off and use this paint remover that I didn't trust to be safe for my cats. It delayed me for almost 5 years. Finally I decided to scrape the paint off best as possible and just sand it a bit and continue with the painting. I finished the window recently and it looks fine even though no paint remover was used.

e.g. on another recently replaced window I'm delaying calking around the trim because I'm not very good at it and I'm afraid it will not look good when done and I will have ruined the window which I love. I'm trying to get over it by realizing i can quickly scrape it off if I make a mistake.

Sounds silly to read what I wrote but it's the truth. (sigh)

Maybe some of this will click with you and be useful.

cs

uminchu-I was giggling thinking how it will be to fold laundry in the park in this snowy weather. I know it is only a sugestion, but just close your eyes and imagine a little lady folding laundry in the snow...thanks for the giggles...Yeah, my bad. I tend to forget that some people live in places where there is weather. :D

I was going to reply to this a long time ago but....

You rang? :) I'm like the procrastination king.:eek: OMG.. the story of my life!! Except for I'll take the Queen role ;)


I came across this site somewhere on these forums, http://www.flylady.com/
There is an area labeled... Beginner BabySteps...lol


Another one... if ur interested is www.thebratfactor.com (http://www.thebratfactor.com/)

I am trying to encorporate some of this into my life...

Have you thought about rewards? What is something you really want? I don't know if this will work and its just an opinion - but rewards yourself when you get things done. Perhaps some time out without your babies to go shopping or have coffee with a friend. Maybe a facial? I dunno, just an idea.
Good luck!
I agree with Utter Nutter. Setting rewards up for myself seems to work best for me.

I may have taken it too far (as with most things I take on) but I set my sights on something I want and assign a total point value to it. Then, I assign point values to tasks that need to be completed. Also, I'll give those tasks more points the earlier I finish them (set up a time-table with points).

It only seems to work at my job, but it seem to work (for now).

Now, if I can only just seem to get myself started on setting up the next task.... :eyebrow:

thanks...
i'll try not to think to much...or worry.just close my eyes and do one thing at the time...
julezz- Thank you. I was thinking to read those links, but....

lists and points do not work for me. i'll waste my time making a nice list in bright colors and sticking little stars on it....

when i had a job it was easier-i had a boss to set tasks for me and give a deadline. Plus it was stimulating enough so I came ho,me in an working mood and dust or clean kitchen....

Most problems tend to resolve themselves if you put them off long enough. You either answer the third and final "Disconnect Notice" or you go without electricity....

Sometimes it's nice to sit alone in the dark.

coyote-oh, i guess i am only a little pawn here.
my anxiety and DH are taking care of the bills...

today was a good day. DH took charge of the house and he gave me my chore-make some order in the walk in closet in the master bedroom. once I started with the closet i did not stop :) - i cleaned the master and the babies' bedroom...oh, i'm so proud of myself.