I find that I always try and dominate conversations I am in. When I am talking to someone and want to ask them a question, I usually end up talking if they evne remotely ask questions of me, i go off and can just talk and talk forever and go on tangents and whatnot, and dont stop. I find it hard to ask questions to them because I just forget, even if I want to ask them some things, and its really frusturating to me. Does anyone else have this or have things that i can do now that will help me be a more egalitarian conversationalist?

I used to have this really bad. However, I now really focus on trying to get to know what makes the other person tick so I have adopted an approach where I try to ask questions that allow me to see more of the person. I still sometimes interject my own conversation if they hit on a topic that I am passionate about, but at least starting out by questioning them the conversation ends up a lot more balanced and I think they feel much more appreciated. It becomes very easy over time.

Tater, if memory serves -- you prefer not to take medication, right? That helps me more than anything (not a complete cure - but an improvement). I used to just about physically jump out of my skin when someone else went on and on and I couldn't say what I wanted to, but actually now that I've been on meds I find that even when I'm off I'm a little more aware of my tendency to take over and I hijack conversations less. Most of my close friends are kind of the quiet type -- the balance kinds of works! Wish I had more to offer -- but it's not exactly my strong suite either.:rolleyes:

Scattered

Yea, i dont take meds, i react badly to them and feel sick, along with not agreeing with them, although i think part of my belief of this stems from this. So the meds thing doesnt help me, b/c all i do is feel sick and dont talk to anyone and want to lay down ad sleep.

Koko, thats a good suggestion, i think ima just try to go into more conversations with the intention of asking people more questions, of course, this is going to take work, but im currently trying to calm myself down and work an these types of aspects on my life that i dont necessarily like.

I think this is something a lot of us have probably had problems with. Kokomo has a good idea. If you don't get to bored... try asking a lot of questions about the person and their life. Most people like to talk about themselves and appreciate you asking.

Tater and all other posters,

Clear out, this is my thread now.

No, I never dominate conversations.

Bob

That was pretty funny, Bob

*stops talking*
*gives Koko a bad look for talking*
*starts figiting*
*Starts talking*


Thanks for the input bob :). Do you find it a problem or not, or is that contained w/in your statement?

Tater,

It is a terrible problem. I can't keep my mouth shut. I got a high tension spring loaded jaw. We were having dinner with friends. My wife says "you are so opinonated." I ask friends if that is true. The silence was deafening. I think that meant yes :D

Bob