Well, it has been a while since I last posted here. In that time I got a new job, began a new relationship, left said job and relationship. Thats about how my life has been in 25 words or less.

Anyways, I am at that point in my life right now in which I have to make a change. To achieve that end, I am considering moving to another city, one in which I do not know anyone at all. This is not the first time I have moved though. The first time I moved to a city in which I knew several people that lived there. In essence, I had a social life even before I moved.

Because there is loads of work there (and I have gotten at least 4 interviews, all of which I had to turn down because of time constraints and lack of traveling funds), employment will not be a problem. What will be a problem will be battling the feelings of loneliness and homesickness. The last time I moved they were harsh. Also, my other main goal will be to build a circle of friends. That will be another challenge since because of my ADD, I often appear nervous and uncomfortable. Add too it a touch of social anxiety and you can see why it might be a challenge.

So has anyone managed to move to a new city to 'start over' and actually made it? If so, how did you manage your feelings of loneliness and homesickness, and how did you build up your social circle. Also, how did you manage to keep yourself occupied when not at work so your brain doesnt think of negative things? How much did you save up before the move As of right now, the only thing keeping me where I am is lack of funds, and I anticipate I will need at least enough cash to cover two month's rent.

One more thing, if I do make this move I might have to change my username from BCdude, to Albertadude :p

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first off, how old are you? secondly, I assume you are moving to Alberta, Canada? anyway, when I was 23, I moved from Idaho(that's where I went to college, but from California) to Atlanta, Georgia...without knowing anyone--besides my grandfather...my dad got me a job at a software firm, and then my grandfather had a free place to stay(furnished basement at his house), so I went ahead and moved...it wasn't that bad. I bascially got to know a few people from work, and got on a work Bball team, and starting having a social life...met woman at bars/clubs, etc(helps being an athletic, good looking guy..:)...it was a really fun time...didn't last long though. I got laid off after about 3 months of working, then couldn't find another job..so bascially I was there hanging out for about 8 months with no work..Still had a GREAT time...reality set in and then I had to move back with my parents in California...I say go for it! you will meet people through work, or some other type of activities...you can always do the On-line dating stuff, etc...just be open to a lot of different avenues of meeting people. I would also recommend some form of spirtuality...I practice Buddhism, and meditate everyday. I know its not fun being "lonely", but sometimes being alone for a while is the best thing for people. I can understand if your a young guy(I'm not anymore), being lonely though..its hard sometimes, especially when you don't know anyone.

Don't let fear keep you from doing something that could be great!

On the other hand, if you are moving because you think you will be happier by leaving the past behind....well, wherever you go, there you are. It's likely that whatever problems you are having where you are will in some form follow you wherever you go.

I think your move will have the greatest chance of success if you are honest with yourself about why you are moving, and if you need to make some changes in your self, see about making them first.

Good luck, whatever you do!

I have moved all over the place. I moved myself all the way out to a rural patch of Okinawa, Japan.

In my case, I had been trying to escape my hectic life. I thought that the chaos that always seemed to surround me would calm down if I could just find a more mellow environment.

But surprise, surprise -- the source of my chaos wasn't my environment, but my own noggin. :) Turns out that you can't run away from yourself.

That said, I really like living here in Okinawa. I've basically liked everywhere I have lived, with the possible exception of Ohio (no offense to you Ohioans). I've been thinking of maybe moving to this really tiny island here in Okinawa, with only 30 residents. Or maybe the coast of Spain... :rolleyes:

How about looking into an ADD support group in the town your planning to move to? Instant friends! :D:D:D and they'll understand your shyness.
CHADD has chapters in lots of cities.

chameleon, ummm...not sure if that's a great idea going to ADD support groups..In my past experience, I felt VERY weird at these ADD support groups(I have been to 3 different ones in the last 10 years). EVERYTIME I felt awkward, out of place, etc...people were always very self-conscious, I guess they were nervous to talk and probably felt ashamed or something...I tried starting conversations with several people, at each suppot group and they all were the same--not much in the way of conversation skills....strange bunch of people...even as far as ADD is concerned.