Isnt it funny that people without ADD deny it is real? You would think with that logic all the people with ADD would deny that "Focus" is real.

Up until recently thats the way I thought. I thought "Why does everyone keep telling me to focus" as if I wasn't already trying to. I would think to myself, "Why am I reaching for such large goals in life when I have trouble completing the small ones?"

In high school I wondered how all these students around me managed to sit down and do huge projects. "How the heck are they not bored to death by this stuff" I would think.

My parents would wonder "Why isnt he trying?"; "He just isnt very bright" I would hear them say.

My point is; Isn't it funny that 3 words can change your entire life. Knowledge is power, no matter how you look at it. I am sure some of you here on this forum have felt the relief when you heard these 3 words from your doctor.

What a relief it is to know that:
NO; its not your fault.
NO; you arent stupid.
NO; you arent lazy.
NO; you arent depressed.
NO; you arent slow.
YES; You have a disorder.
YES; It is treatable.
YES; This medication will change your entire life.

I just thought I would share a thought I had. Hope you all can relate.

If your brain is a hammer, and your focus is a nail then you will have no problem building.
If your brain is a hammer, and your focus is a screw, a daunting task awaits you. I think its fair to say people with ADD have screws.

i'm just suspected with add inattentive, i haven't been diagnosed for a few reasons of my own but i take this approach at looking at myself, i'll tell u what i'll alter it to fit ur list:

YES; it is your fault.

YES; you are stupid.

YES; your very lazy.

NO; don't u dare be depressed (concidering my good upbringing i would concider it an insult to them).

yeah, you maybe a little slow.

(bare in mind i say all this to myself occationally, not all the time)

the way i look at it is that that the sooner i realise i'm not special the sooner i can do something about becoming something thats worth to be reconised.

my main goals:

be a good friend
find something that i enjoy
earn enough money to keep me fed, watered and to give me half decent shelter
give a portion of the money i make to charities
explore the world a bit

the way i see it, if the people are around me are happy then i am (this includes strangers, after all strangers are just people and people can become friends)

may sound lame but still thats the why i look at myself and view my goals

keep in mind what i said above applies to me and me only, i don't compare myself to other people, people that judge others by social status and abilities of themselves annoy me conciderably

the way i see it, if the people are around me are happy then i am (this includes strangers, after all strangers are just people and people can become friends)

may sound lame but still thats the why i look at myself and view my goals


So is your sensitivity to the mood of others your fault too? Who fault is it you feel good when you can be a blessing to others :eek:

I understand that your saying :



YES; it is your fault.

YES; your very lazy.

NO; don't u dare be depressed (concidering my good upbringing i would concider it an insult to them).



Is an action driven by your desire to be a responsible productive citizen, which is admirable!

You goals are admirable as well

my main goals:

be a good friend
find something that i enjoy
earn enough money to keep me fed, watered and to give me half decent shelter
give a portion of the money i make to charities
explore the world a bit



However as some one who is affected by the moods of others then you may be able to understand why I feel sad when I read

the way i look at it is that that the sooner i realise i'm not special the sooner i can do something about becoming something thats worth to be reconised.
YES; you are stupid.
yeah, you maybe a little slow.


Knowing people actually see them selves this way I feel so so

:( :( :(

What is wrong with I struggle to grasp some things but I really do well with others.

I am different but different is okay, we are all different which is what makes us unique individuals. There simply isn't another you..... which does make you special..... no amount of money can make another exact duplicate of you=priceless!

I simply fail to understand this

Maybe you could clarify...help me understand your line thinking here

the way i look at it is that that the sooner i realise i'm not special the sooner i can do something about becoming something thats worth to be reconised.

Recognized by who?

Those who forged the most notable deeds do so out of their belief in their vision!

The reached beyond the confines of ordinary and did some thing worthy to be recognized, first had to perceive they had some thing of worth. They could not have given us any thing that was of value if they themselves did not first come to the conclusion they had some thing worth giving=themselves! A majority of persons we recognize as giving some thing of worth applied their heart, soul, and mind but they had to value that which they applied=their efforts.

Why would they have been bothered to try if they didn't believe in them selves...or allow them selves to take stock in their good parts as well as their not so good ones ..

Would Thomas Edison ever been an inventor if he thought himself an idiot :confused: , would George Washington ever become the first president if he saw himself as lazy, :confused: would Mother Teresa ever been the noble women of charity had seen every flaw as "her fault" :confused: :confused:

Success comes first in the heart of attitude, :soapbox: which is born of the mind's perception of itself :soapbox: (not just outside itself), the "recognizable" action is the result of the former two! :soapbox: :soapbox: Tammy original April 7, 2006

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Okay DemX my new signature I will dedicate to you… you made me “do it”-lol

I have dyslexia I can not spell or pronounce words, yet I can plain as day read and write!

Flaws, dysfunctions or impairments are merely obstacles, we gain strength from as we climb them on our way to improvement of self thus becoming a voice in the progress of humanity! Tammy original April 7, 206

Thanks for reading!

DimensionX,

Up till last year I too thought of myself as simple and underachiever who had to get myself to actually perform like others without the accepting the understanding of my disabilities. Throughout college, which I'm still in 6years and going, I took majors which I figured would be good for me because if finacial benefits. I struggled and hid the paper which gave me student support in class for being ADD. I pushed myself beyond limits to not get any support, I removed myself from my friends, I did absolutely everything to get through classes. In the end I would usually hyperfocus on one or two classes and my eyes were nothing but a glaze to the rest of my studies. I would reluctantly throw in the towel, feeling like the greatest idiot of the world, and give my teachers the papers for student support.

When I look back on all that wasted time I realize that its probably more constructive not to feel that your rejecting the rest of society and needing to find some way to re-enter, but to accept your place regardless of how odd it may be. Look at yourself with your differences, and work around them not through them, a brick wall is easier to go around after all. Tell people to respect your differences, your just different not a level below anyone.

My special ed teacher always put it best, "You can't be ADD without being intelligent. If you weren't intelligent then you couldn't be ADD."