The more I read about the complaints non-ADDers have on ADDers the more I come to the conclusion that they opposite socially. It seems like non-ADDers feel the need to constantly talk and interact with people in order to be entertained . Where as ADDers feel the need to get away from everyone and rather entertain themselves. Could it be possible that non-ADDers don't have the ability to entertain themselves?

The more I read about the complaints non-ADDers have on ADDers the more I come to the conclusion that they opposite socially. It seems like non-ADDers feel the need to constantly talk and interact with people in order to be entertained . Where as ADDers feel the need to get away from everyone and rather entertain themselves. Could it be possible that non-ADDers don't have the ability to entertain themselves?
Hmmmm.......I truly don't feel the need to talk so much as it seems many non-ADDers around me :eyebrow: . Thing is, I don't do well with "small talk" or being around many people at all. But then, I also don't feel the need to talk much when I don't really have anything to say (guess that goes back to the small talk issue).

I'm not sure how much of it has to do with self-entertainment as it does for feeling socially inept most of the time. OR, maybe I'm just too consumed :eek: with all that is going on in my head. :faint:

Not sure, but I am with you--there is a difference for me as well.

be well,
tristan:rolleyes:

The more I read about the complaints non-ADDers have on ADDers the more I come to the conclusion that they opposite socially.


I believe they are different socially in that they abide by a different set of expectations however I also feel we are all the same in the sense we each what to know we aren’t alone in our particular perspective.

ADDers tend to communicate in a different tempo than non-ADDers however like we like to know we aren’t the only ones with ADDed struggles they like to know they aren’t alone in the dealing with others ADD and the challenges that entails.


It seems like non-ADDers feel the need to constantly talk and interact with people in order to be entertained .

I think this has more to do with personal preferences than weather or not one has ADD. My mom is an NTer who like a lot of alone time yet my youngest sister who is also a non-ADDer likes a lot social activity. My other sister who has ADD-C prefers a few friends but needs a lot of alone time my brother also has ADD-C but is the opposite. He is constantly socializing. I am hyper ADD and I fall in between; although I don’t mind socializing I need some a lone time myself!

When I think of differences in this area I think personalities (introvert vs. extrovert) age difference (younger seem to prefer more socialization) and past experiences (which can either encourage socialization or hinder it)

Yes you make a good point.

Gee....isn't one of the symptoms of ADHD excessive talking?
http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis1/p21-ch01.html

I think what you are describing relates to highly introverted ADHD Inattentive types.

I think what you are describing relates to highly introverted ADHD Inattentive types.I agree. I know that I have to concentrate on keeping my mouth shut in social situations, because I will become annoying or at best overbearing otherwise.

Actually, if the topic is boring I don't have much trouble keeping my mouth shut. But get me rolling on something interesting... :p

Gee....isn't one of the symptoms of ADHD excessive talking?

Gee gee isn't one of the complaints of many here is the inability to talk in groups or get words to come out during conversations!

I personally have more problems with talking to much but I have read others who complain of just the opposite problem.......being unable to speak! I believe both points are valid and that others with ADD are describing their problems accurately!


I think what you are describing relates to highly introverted ADHD Inattentive types.

I think some people are introverts and others are not..........introversion and extroversion come in non-ADDers also. This would lead me to believe that this is a personaility trait!



Actually, if the topic is boring I don't have much trouble keeping my mouth shut. But get me rolling on something interesting..

ditto...............

I totally agree, with what you said, Uminchu, in your quote below.
I'm the same exact way !!!!



Actually, if the topic is boring I don't have much trouble keeping my mouth shut. But get me rolling on something interesting... :p

For me, it depends. If I'm having fun or am interested, I will dominate.

If a conversation is already started, I will have trouble jumping in or I may interrupt.

I'm okay being quiet if not interested in the conversation.

If alone with someone while visiting or hanging out at a restaurant or something, I feel the need to talk so I won't seem boring.

Gee gee isn't one of the complaints of many here is the inability to talk in groups or get words to come out during conversations!

I personally have more problems with talking to much but I have read others who complain of just the opposite problem.......being unable to speak! I believe both points are valid and that others with ADD are describing their problems accurately!


Don't think I'm saying that they are not describing their problems accurately. That's just putting words into my mouth and that's not a good way to try to make a point.

I'm one who would complain of just the opposite problem also. But then again I would be the inattentive subtype. ADHDers are not a homogenous group. But, if you look at the classic type of ADHD...they might feel tight lipped in new situations but, give then any sort of comfort level and they can talk your ear off! And that is why it is in the DSM4.

It seems, that every one I gab with incessively, ends up testing for being ADD/HDers later..or admitting to it, if it's brought up in another convo, and they already know, for sure.

The more I read about the complaints non-ADDers have on ADDers the more I come to the conclusion that they opposite socially. It seems like non-ADDers feel the need to constantly talk and interact with people in order to be entertained . Where as ADDers feel the need to get away from everyone and rather entertain themselves. Could it be possible that non-ADDers don't have the ability to entertain themselves?
it's interesting how u made this link,

in my short sighted opinion i believe that this may have more to do with the peronality type than disorders although i can see how it would touch on it....u'ld think i'ld be able to explain a simple decision but noooooooo lol.

basically with non-adder's it would simply depend on the personality type of that person u can't really generalise like that as non add'ers are different from each other in many ways.

with add'ers the social interaction would depend on both neurological disorders and personality type (....i can't seem to stop stating the obvious today :( )

maybe it would be best to take examples from the adder when he/she is/was hyper and when he/she kinda crashed and some like when the person is concidered "normal" (don't like that word) to determine an average in a sense, maybe then you could compare but for many people it's differcult to see past the disorders to tell what a person is truely like

...and if anyone says they disorder is part of them *shakes fist*

i know what u mean and i agree but i'm trying to.....i dunno hopefull u found something in this post apart from the time that u wasted reading it