Hi!
Several times in my life I ended up with ADHA dignosed boyfriends. Some on drugs and some were off. But something always seemed to have been a common problem. They couldn't open up and didn't wanna open up to me. Is that just typical male issue (although I had working relationships before) or could it have 'anything' to do with them being embarressed about the diagnosis. They just wouldn't let me in close.... it really did seem like going out with a teeneager to me...anyone got any input on this?
dormammau2008
06-11-06, 05:51 PM
its both male an adha add.....thing ofve couse there allways be others who diff as well as two the teenagger thing well some will ......deping on the type add they might have i dont know much about it lerening all the time dorm
Confused!
06-11-06, 06:50 PM
The last two girls I dated had ADD, they never really opened up to me.
Redhead
06-12-06, 08:30 AM
I think maybe their guard is up so high, it's difficult for them to bring it down?? Perhaps they're so used to defending their words/actions to others as well as themselves, that they don't let the "real them" show for fear of not being accepted or found "normal".
I'm just guessing... based on my relationship with my ADD husband. Just last night we were talking about something and I ended up saying "...gees, I'm not the enemy you know.." in regards to something he didn't bring up/want me to know about that was pretty insignificant. Just makes me feel like I'm not in the inner circle... I'm getting better at not taking it personal, but it doesn't make me feel closer to him, either. R
lifefortwo
06-14-06, 03:21 PM
My husband has never really opened up to me, and I have always accepted ti for what it was. Now that he is finally dealing with other issues (loss of both parents, prior divorce, depression) he is starting to let me in. He still forgets to let me in on basic stuff - he'll talk to his family and not tell me about it or how they are doing...Its just a day to day thing. I keep trying to point out things to hm and he sometimes improves but then he will shutdown a bit - Just keep trying, but dont pry too much... (I know I know, easier said than done...)