View Full Version : organization, work, and getting life in order


lunaslobo
06-28-06, 08:19 AM
First off i want to say thank you so much for this forum. I have been looking for it for a long time. Now to start with why and what brought me here. It was just last year that i was diagnosed with adult ADD. I have been put on medication and to me it really seems tohave helped. One things that have been a major problem for me is that i go lway to fast with things, i move a million miles a minute and sometimes a second. I get very scatterd brain and can not keep things going on an even keel. this then leads to disorganization and making the wrong decisions. At work i am a Resident Activity Coordinator. Fancy title for an activity aid at a nursing home. I provide structred leisure activities to the elderly. I have been doing this now for two years, but have been in health care for 20 years. Just last week i got my yearly reveiw. It was one of the worst ones that i have gotten. My overall score said that i need improvement. These are issues that i have been dealing with my whole life. My boss told me that i am way to disorganized, that i am to messy, and that i do not always make good desicions. What i got out of the confersation is that if she did not feel i was one of the most creative people on the team i would not have a job. For a 44 year old man thisw is a scary thought. I feel that I am no better than i was when i was 20, still struggling with the same issues and still afraid that i will lose my job over it. I am fighting depresion, but feel i am losing that battle. I dont know where to turn. I am sorry if i am rambling, but right now thatl is the way my brain is going. I know i may just be on the pitty potty, i dont know. I mean my 19 yo son has a better paying job than i do. now that hurts. I am also tired of being alone. it seems even my wife is getting burnt out on my behavior. I just hope that someday i can get off this merry go round that i seem to be stuck on. again thanks for being here and letting me ramble on like this for a while. I did help some.

Bob1951
06-29-06, 01:45 AM
lunaslobo,

Try reading a few good time management books. The meds will enable you to put into practice stuff taught.

Keep in mind that meds only correct our inability to concentrate. They no not help correct all the bad habits we developed because of ADHD.

I'll give you a few personal instances. I never put things back. I poorly managed my time. I'd constantly take on more than I could possibly manage. Started meds. Still didn't put things back, etc. etc. So I had learn skills that I should have learned nearly a half century ago.

I'll tell you one that is still a chronic problems for me. I have a hard time judging how long things take. I always think they take about 1/10 the actual time. So it is an ongoing process of learning to live with a brain that works.

Bob