Our 6 year old is playing a game with 3 balls in the yard(we have many) and the aspie 9 year old wants one of the balls. Just tries to take it away. I tell him this is not the way we take a toy away(sharing issues) and tell him that in 5 minutes he can have a turn or play basketball. Meltdown....

Our 6 year old and friend decide to play trouble game. He decides me too after they have decided and picked out colours. He wants one of the colours already picked. No way will he picked another colour....

How to deal with these. He ended up hitting me!!!!after me trying to get him away from situation and him getting really angry.

I finally got him to his room and he is now grounded til bedtime.

Seems the only way I can get him to settle down is to take him to his room.

I feel not right always taking him to his room as he is not right being left there getting more angry/frustrated.

How would you deal with situation?

What you did with removal of the stimulus situation seems like it might be a real good approach. If it's not enough perhaps you could check out some of the things on pressure comfort. I know Temple Grandin in her book Thinking in Pictures describes a squeeze machine she made for herself that helped calm her. I've heard of other rolling kids up in blankets or rugs, etc to help them calm themselves. I'm afraid this is an area where I have limited knowledge and no experience.


Take care,
Scattered

I'm a 36 year old aspie male. This is
likely bad advice so take it with a grain of salt(I've been warned about
past post and I'm sure the moderator
would love to get rid of me. About that same age (9) my parents bought
me lego's. Many aspie get obsessed
with lego's. Needless to say I played
with them silentily by myself the next 4 years. So that would solve the ball sharing problem maybe.
Now the very act of playing lego's
by yourself for 4 years and being
and aspie will damage social skills.
So you will have to first get the
kid obsessed with lego's. Then after
that you will have to include social
skills training with the lego play. You have to talk to an expert on how
to do that.

Theta, your advice is not "bad". For any behaviour management program to work, one must know what motivates a child; what he likes to eat, play with, watch, wear, go to. If I knew a child who was crazy about Lego, I would find a way to use that Lego to motivate him. Example: first we do some work, later we play with Lego.

CdnJulie, have you checked out some Autism / Asperger Forums for advice from other parents? Autism and Asperger Syndrome are way beyond ADHD.

He has been very fond of Lego for years and yes he has had the opportunity for social play everywhere. I wish I knew what to do next and where to go.

2 more months wait for help for his behaviour and social problems. His comprehension problems are a whole other area.

Very frustrated; lost on how to help him; no idea where to turn! Closed doors wherever I go. Wait lists everywhere.

I'm not sure how your healthcare system works, but here goes more
maybe bad advice. There has to be
away to get moved to the top of
the list. I'm assuming private care
is not available or affordable to you?
I've made a joke to myself before
that I could get a pizza deliveried
anywhere (with a phone call to
the police department) granted after
eating it I would be in handcuffs.
But I would get my pizza(anywhere
and fast). Hmm spray paint can,
government building, kid painting
smilely faces.

Better idea kid puts on batman
suit get carton of eggs. Runs in
police station yelling "I'm batman"
throwing eggs on floor(less money damages)

Better idea kid puts on batman
suit get carton of eggs. Runs in
police station yelling "I'm batman"
throwing eggs on floor(less money damages)LOL..I know they is not really *funny* but I could just imagine it in my mind:p

Not good advice though :faint:

He has been very fond of Lego for years and yes he has had the opportunity for social play everywhere. I wish I knew what to do next and where to go.

2 more months wait for help for his behaviour and social problems. His comprehension problems are a whole other area.

Very frustrated; lost on how to help him; no idea where to turn! Closed doors wherever I go. Wait lists everywhere.Remember to breathe. It's hard to wait, but there is also no quick fix for kids in the Autism Spectrum, particularly if there isn't early intervention. You need to think of you and find out which government agency will provide you with some respite care so you and the rest of your family get a break.

Thank you for the laugh. I did laugh ladies.

I am going on the phone today and see what I can find.

Also there are several Asperger's forums online :) I would hope that other Aspie's might be able to give you some more ideas to get you and this boy through the summer.

Crazy

I have been PMd with an aspie forum from Australia. That is the only one I have found. And yes, with ADHD and Aspergers, its a whole other story.

You have all been wonderful help. I will see if I can get help in the aspie world.

Just Google for a forum and you'll find them, they are out there (and they are in there, too) ;).

Crazy

I got through to Halton Children and Youth Services and had a 2 hour chat with my son in tow about stuff. They are referring him to another psych consult and then we go from there. I think I finally found help!

That's fantastic, Julie! :) Keep us posted on how things go!


Scattered

A friend recommended looking under bipolar as he is showing a lot of other symptoms. Has anyone ever had a reaction over concerta????

A friend recommended looking under bipolar as he is showing a lot of other symptoms. Has anyone ever had a reaction over concerta????Is he ADHD as well as Asperger's?

I got through to Halton Children and Youth Services and had a 2 hour chat with my son in tow about stuff. They are referring him to another psych consult and then we go from there. I think I finally found help!Julie, I missed this post. I hope you don't have to wait too long for the consult. Good news. :)

Yes ADHD and Aspergers. Some sensory issues-does not like to be hugged, kissed, touched, food tasting sensitive. Learning disability.


Before meds, I think all the above is right in diagnosis. BUT the meds seem to have opened a whole other side of irritability, opposition, roughness, meaness etc. Waiting for paediatrician to call back.

appt at 130pm-2 hours away.

Took him off meds and I now have my happy over hyper child who has all those aspergers traits but not the child I had for the past few months that was moody, aggressive, etc.

I talked to my neighbour who has raised 5 kids and his oldest was the exact same way. I finally have someone who understands beside hubby who is likely aspergers/adhd too.

That is what I needed-a friend who understood! A friend for advice!

CdnJulie, thanks for the update. This is an excellent example of what to look for if meds make us worse and not better. There is still half of summer vacation left; enjoy!

Thank you!

I have read some good articles about managing challenging behaviours by a Psychologist named Nathan Ory. He has several articles at (link removed by Admin)

NB. It is a site for FASD (fetal alcohol Spectrum Disorder), another type of developmental disability. The behaviours may not be the exact same; but there is some overlap, and the ideas about management skills are good.

I will check it out! Thanks.