AndreaM
07-18-06, 04:20 PM
Hi All!
My son has not yet been diagnosed with ADD but we have an appointment with a specialist tomorrow and have already filled out the Conner's form. We are sure he has it. I just finished reading Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Mate. It's a great book! After reading only the first chapter my husband and I started to totally change our way of dealing with our son. My husband tends to have a lot of anger outbursts when dealing with Max (our son). In fact he is angry with him a lot of the time because he just wants to control him and the situation. After lots of discussion, plus my husband is now reading the book, he has done a total flip with his attitude towards Max. He has not reacted in an angry or frustrated way towards Max for about 10 days. I'm really proud of him because I know how hard it is to change. I have much fewer angry outbursts but I still am guilty of it. It has all stopped. The problem is that my son's behaviour has gotten much worse. He is throwing fits about every little thing and has become more defiant and rude than he has ever been. I'm hoping this is just him not knowing how to react to the "non-angry" approach but it's been going on for days now and we are exhausted by it. I started out against the idea of meds but after reading lots on the subject I'm willing to try. I must admit that a big bottle of Ritalin is looking pretty good these days! Any advice on how to handle these fits of rage and anger where he is yelling insults and crying for sometimes 20 minutes? It happens mostly at bed time but can happen at any time during the day. Should I be taking away tokens (we are trying the token economy thing) for insults and rage or should I just try to ignore it. A lot of it is directed at my husband since his behaviour has changed the most. Sorry for rambling.....I'll stop now :D
Andrea
My son has not yet been diagnosed with ADD but we have an appointment with a specialist tomorrow and have already filled out the Conner's form. We are sure he has it. I just finished reading Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Mate. It's a great book! After reading only the first chapter my husband and I started to totally change our way of dealing with our son. My husband tends to have a lot of anger outbursts when dealing with Max (our son). In fact he is angry with him a lot of the time because he just wants to control him and the situation. After lots of discussion, plus my husband is now reading the book, he has done a total flip with his attitude towards Max. He has not reacted in an angry or frustrated way towards Max for about 10 days. I'm really proud of him because I know how hard it is to change. I have much fewer angry outbursts but I still am guilty of it. It has all stopped. The problem is that my son's behaviour has gotten much worse. He is throwing fits about every little thing and has become more defiant and rude than he has ever been. I'm hoping this is just him not knowing how to react to the "non-angry" approach but it's been going on for days now and we are exhausted by it. I started out against the idea of meds but after reading lots on the subject I'm willing to try. I must admit that a big bottle of Ritalin is looking pretty good these days! Any advice on how to handle these fits of rage and anger where he is yelling insults and crying for sometimes 20 minutes? It happens mostly at bed time but can happen at any time during the day. Should I be taking away tokens (we are trying the token economy thing) for insults and rage or should I just try to ignore it. A lot of it is directed at my husband since his behaviour has changed the most. Sorry for rambling.....I'll stop now :D
Andrea