Curious how many fellow ADDer's live alone, and whether you find that it helps or hinders you in anyway?

I have NEVER lived alone..ever ..how nice and peaceful would that be? I am sure I would like it for a while, before I get too old that is LOL

Excellent question, Attainathon.

I live alone, and I consider it an advantage. While I don't have people to help me, I don't have people to distract me either. I don't have people to scream at me for being messy, or slow, or etc. I don't have to drive anyone anywhere (I never drive with anyone else, they always drive me, which is a definite plus). In fact, I tend to be a loner in general. It's not that I dislike people (though I don't find common interest with many), it's more that other people tend to be ..... distracting and wanting continuous attention, which causes me to make more mistakes in general to begin with and drains my energy quickly.

But then again, I think it really depends on the people who you live with as far as weighing in the benefits/pitfalls of living with them.

Ahhhh to be alone must be so sweet sometimes! I have never once lived alone, ever. :(

Well, I'm only a teenager, so I don't exactly live alone. But I plan to when I'm older, unless I get a roomate.

I live alone. I'll have to go along with HF's sentriments on the matter. I like people, but my life is a lot less complicated living alone.


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I love living alone. I have been with roomies before, but i really do like the peace and quiet. I have no one to answer to, no one to clean the house for..the list goes on.

I suppose like with everything there are advantages and disadvantages to living alone!

I live alone, no other people, in a big house I built on three and three-fourths acres. It sucks. I can't make enough noise to pester my neighbors. They are too far away. They are the most not do anything people I have ever seen. I built a golf chipping green on one side, vollyball in the front middle, softball diamond front left, horseshoes in the back, archery front right. When I would go out and hit golf balls they would sit in their screened dark porch and say, "That one was close." They would never come out and do anything. One neighbor played horseshoes once. I would open all of my windows and turn up the speakers and play rock and roll and sing with my headset. Yep too far away again. I can't wait to move back to civilization. So much for trying to fit in.

X-Man

i simultaneously love and hate living alone.
i have lived with some crazies.
in the past year and a half, i have lived with 10 coke heads (ion a two bedroom duplex), shared a basement with a gay man and his lover, had a roomate who wore braces, played the flute-a-phone (for fun), and kept 17 white rats in seperate cages in her room. it was a breath of fresh air to sign the lease on my first very own real apartment 8 months ago.
however, living alone can be lonely.
i found that although my former roomates were crazy, i missed having voices in the house, and company when i needed it (or didn't need it for that matter).
for me, living with others forces social interaction, which most of the time i avoid, and sometimes to unhealthy extremes.
i am moving out of my apartment next week...for various reasons, and have decided to take on two new roomies.
i am both nervous and excited.
i do love my independence and space, but i think it will be good for me to have daily, social stimulation.
living with others also helps me do other necessary things like dishes and cleaning. things i should do, but living alone, i am rarely motivated to accomplish.

Maybe you could plan things to go do for fun and they might want to go too. Get them out of the house and on some ADHD adventures with you. Concerts, rockwalls,amusement parks, spring fed swimming areas, you know the drill. Have some fun.

X-Man

i live alone for 2 days a week the other 5 i have my 7yr old that is adhd also. i one roommate was ok but more than that was nuts. i do miss haveing a partner. I have weeks where i am on top of almost everything then blaa....... feel popie and everything goes to hell

I have never lived alone. And I do have great roomates...

However they are VERY distracting somtimes and I feel a little guilty saying that when I am left alone for a few days because they go off somwhere I get excited att he prospect of being on my own.

BUT...Whenever I have all this free time, all of a sudden the quiet becomes it's own distraction. I get lonely I guess, even thoguh i know I shhould use that free time to do my own things


quite the conundrum:o:(

i lived on my own for about 4 months this year cause i moved out of my old place where i had roommates.. i actually really liked living on my own, but then i decided to move to vancouver where i'll be living in a house with 4 other people.

i don't think i have a preference on either.

I loved living alone. I found that, when I had roommates, I ended up feeling extremely irritated by them. My husband is the only person I can stomach living with, I guess because he is sensitive to all my idiosynchrasies (spelling??). So, I guess, it is still like living alone because, I mesh well with my roomie.:)

I don't live alone..and since the age of 17 I haven't lived alone longer than 1 year! Yikes...I am like the local bording home for wayward, friends, and now teenagers...(friends of my son) ....I always have a houseful. Just my family totals 5...then we add a friend or 2..it's like a zoo....

I gripe about it, but then when it's quiet...for too long...I miss everyone...
so who knows...
It's like people with curly hair / want straight hair...single want to be married...etc...

There are good and bad to both sides...If you know you don't mesh well with others..then hey more power to ya....if you do mesh well , will you please come get some of mine, I have plenty to spare! lol

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I've lived alone mostly for the past year. I find it a double edged sword. Because there is nobody here to consider it means i tend not to bother with housework or washing up. So in that sense it's bad. However it also means i don't have to deal with the telly distracting me, or music i don't like. When i lived at home with my dad it was a nightmare, he is hard of hearing and has the telly SO LOUD! In my room with the door closed i could hear it as if i was in there watching it, sometimes it would drown out conversations. Also i choose what i want to eat and cook, or even if i want to cook at all, however the washing up issue often scuppers that. I have gotten lonely, but i have a wonderful dog who is fabulous company.
So in terms of help or hindrance, i guess in ways it does hinder me, but i do find it less stressful.

I do not do well alone. The longest I was "alone" was about two months almost 15 years ago. I manage to stay focused better when there are people around to interfere with my distractions.

I admire those of you who do live alone.

David