Im not very happy at the moment, I am really struggling to accept my ADHD, I have only been diagnosed for a couple of months and I thought I was ok with it.

But then suddenly it hit me... am I going to be like this forever?

Im not taking medication nor do I want to, im not against it I just dont want medication in order to function properly even though I know that it could help me.

I feel very different from my friends and everyone else at school, I feel alone because I dont actually know anyone at my school or in my neighborhood that has adhd - like me (like having all my adhd features, I do know that everyone with adhd has different problems).

I just wish I could be part of a group for once.

I try to be as best a person I can be, I really try my best, but nobody seems to understand exactly what it is like to feel the way I do, to go through everything I go through everyday and I have no idea what to say to them becaues I feel like such an idiot sometimes, they try to understand but they just dont.

Im saying this here because Im guessing quite alot of people here have been through this stage of accepting adhd before.

I wish I was cured because I just dont think I can cope with my adhd anymore.

You sound really down. How old are you? Teen?

If you are feeling this down, tell someone right now!!!

Then, come back and promise me that you will not hurt yourself or do anything drastic. You are a valuable person, who has so much to offer the world.


Most of us have felt the same way after our diagnosis. You are so glad to be diagnosed and then CRASH, the reality of it all hits you right between the eyes. You are going through the stages of grief! You may journey straight through them, or jump around backwards and forwards.


Denial (this isn't happening to me!)

Anger (why is this happening to me?)

Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)

Depression (I don't care anymore)

Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)
http://www.cancersurvivors.org/Coping/end%20term/stages.htm

You sound really down. How old are you? Teen?

If you are feeling this down, tell someone right now!!!

Then, come back and promise me that you will not hurt yourself or do anything drastic. You are a valuable person, who has so much to offer the world.


Most of us have felt the same way after our diagnosis. You are so glad to be diagnosed and then CRASH, the reality of it all hits you right between the eyes. You are going through the stages of grief! You may journey straight through them, or jump around backwards and forwards.


Denial (this isn't happening to me!)

Anger (why is this happening to me?)

Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)

Depression (I don't care anymore)

Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes) ]

http://www.cancersurvivors.org/Coping/end%20term/stages.htm

:) im 15, thank you for you reply, im not sure what stage i am at looking at your post. I think I am all of them mixed together.

Its annoying how I really find it easy to give someone else advice about adhd and I find it so rewarding because I know ive helped someone, yet I can't take my own advice.

I don't know if it will help you to know this, but;

When I was first diagnosed with adhd, I went through an initial period of curiosity. I was fascinated and wanted to know everything there was to know about adhd. After a few weeks of tthat I went through a period of depression after I realized it was real, it was happeneing to me, and it was never going to get any better. I hit bottom for about a month.

After I adjusted, I rallied and began working to make the most of it. I wanted to gain every bit of functionality I could, and I wanted to make the most of the gifts, and to learn how to overcome the defecits.

At the same time I was embroiled in the uncertaintly and chaos of trying to get a formal diagnmosis. I did not know WHAT I had, but I needed to give it a name so I could attack it as a problem to solve. After that I went through a lot of hassle trying to get exactly the right suite of medications for myself. In a period of 18 months I had been to 10 doctors/specialists, trying to get a diagnosis and proper treatment.

I learned that I had defecits, and that I had strengths, and that while ADHD was "incurable", it was part of who I am, and always was part of me, so I had to learn to accept myself all over again. I've learned that I am fighting medical issues, and that limits the medications that I can take, so I had to accept that too.

It's not all bad. There are good things about it, and you learn to appreciate yourself for just being ... you.

Now it has reached the point where it is routine. Status quo... I manage my adhd in a variety of ways, and my life is still dominated by my sensory issues. My hypersensitivity will never get any better. My adhd will never get any better.

It is all a package that I manage and live with on a day-to-day basis.

It's no biggie. It's just another day at the office. :D

If the depression persists, or gets to be too much, get to your doctor.
I revcently lost a friend to depresion, I can tell you that depression is a serious disorder and should not be taken lighty.

ME :D



Im not very happy at the moment, I am really struggling to accept my ADHD, I have only been diagnosed for a couple of months and I thought I was ok with it.

But then suddenly it hit me... am I going to be like this forever?

Im not taking medication nor do I want to, im not against it I just dont want medication in order to function properly even though I know that it could help me.

I feel very different from my friends and everyone else at school, I feel alone because I dont actually know anyone at my school or in my neighborhood that has adhd - like me (like having all my adhd features, I do know that everyone with adhd has different problems).

I just wish I could be part of a group for once.

I try to be as best a person I can be, I really try my best, but nobody seems to understand exactly what it is like to feel the way I do, to go through everything I go through everyday and I have no idea what to say to them becaues I feel like such an idiot sometimes, they try to understand but they just dont.

Im saying this here because Im guessing quite alot of people here have been through this stage of accepting adhd before.

I wish I was cured because I just dont think I can cope with my adhd anymore.

I was diagnosed at a young age( age 5),so I do not remember going through this but I know many people who have.I totally agree with radekker,PLEASE TELL SOMEONE RIGHT AWAY !!!! I am very sorry you are feeling this way but please do not hold back let someone know right away.Please let us know how you are doing as well.You are very right a lot of us here have or are going through this and this is a great place too come for support.

I was diagnosed at a young age( age 5),so I do not remember going through this but I know many people who have.I totally agree with radekker,PLEASE TELL SOMEONE RIGHT AWAY !!!! I am very sorry you are feeling this way but please do not hold back let someone know right away.Please let us know how you are doing as well.You are very right a lot of us here have or are going through this and this is a great place too come for support.
Same here, diagnosed early on in life. I can only imagine that it's going to be very hard to accept, especially at your age where there is so much pressure to fit in at school, and work out who you are.
Are there counsellors at your school? Would you feel comfortable talking to them? They'll be able to help take some of the pressure off you, by talking to your teachers etc. They might even put you in touch with other ADD students.

I know that a lot of my schooling was traumatic, being bullied, not fitting in. I found a group of friends that were a lot like me, although not ADD. They were just guys that didn't care what people thought of them, and they didn't judge me. They liked the goofy person that I was, and never put me down.

awwwhhh Boone1 my heart go's out to you, i know it feels awful i have a 13yr old that has been diagnosed with adhd at the age of 8, he still finds it very hard, how has your family taken the diagnosis?

have only been diagnosed for a couple of months and I thought I was ok with it.

You really haven’t known for very long however in reality you have been dealing with ADD all your life.

ADD acceptance first of all takes a while even after years I have days where I am very frustrated by my ADD traits. I haqve discovered that every one weather they have ADD or not has days where they become fustrated with them selves.





I just wish I could be part of a group for once.

We aren’t in your school heck it has been a while sense many of us have been in school but we are a group and ya seem to fit right in. :D





I feel very different from my friends and everyone else at school

Believe it or not this is very normal for your age group. Every one at some time or another (even those who do not have ADD) feel this way. You are experiencing adolescence as most others do, although the kids your age will certainly deny it..

Feeling different is a necessary part of the self discovery process, ..It is unpleasant however it seems to be a necessary part of self identity. I am in no way denying the feeling of depression of questions of self worth I am telling you the truth as I see it.

I will take this time to agree with what the others have already said, about seeking help if the thought get “too dark”.




Im not taking medication nor do I want to, im not against it I just dont want medication in order to function properly even though I know that it could help me.

Are you dealing with your ADD by another treatment behavior modification, herbal remedies, exercise?





It's not all bad. There are good things about it, and you learn to appreciate yourself for just being ... you.

I agree with the above very much so; however this is part of self discovery which isn’t an easy process.

I am sorry you are feeling down!

I learned that I had defecits, and that I had strengths, and that while ADHD was "incurable", it was part of who I am, and always was part of me, so I had to learn to accept myself all over again. I've learned that I am fighting medical issues, and that limits the medications that I can take, so I had to accept that too.

I wish I could think like you, maybe time will help me accept ADHD as being a part of me, I just have to learn to deal with it.

Are there counsellors at your school? Would you feel comfortable talking to them?
My school doesn't have any counsellors that I know of, but im sure they could put me in touch with one, I have tried counselling before a few years ago, I didn't like it very much, I felt very uncomfertable talking about things that I later realised were symptoms of ADHD, of course I didn't know what it was then so I felt a bit stupid thinking nobody would believe me.
I might consider giving couselling another go though.

awwwhhh Boone1 my heart go's out to you, i know it feels awful i have a 13yr old that has been diagnosed with adhd at the age of 8, he still finds it very hard, how has your family taken the diagnosis?
my family seem to have taken the diagnosis very well, they are trying to support me as much as possible and for that I thank them, but I do feel different from alot of my family apart from my mum, (I know she has ADD although she refuses to admit it and get evaluated).

Are you dealing with your ADD by another treatment behavior modification, herbal remedies, exercise?

Nobody has given me or my family any information on alternative ways to deal with adhd, my doctor is pretty useless, although he did give us some leaflets to a support group for parents, but nothing for me.

There is a certain segment of the membership here who have chosen to deal with their ADD in alternative ways. One of the most beneficial in my opinion is exercise, regular physical exercise which is also shown to be useful in depression (which seems to be a problem at this point as well and for good reason)



Exercise (http://www.addforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?s=&f=157&page=1&pp=25&sort=lastpost&order=desc&daysprune=30)


nutrition (http://www.addforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?s=&f=159&page=1&pp=25&sort=lastpost&order=desc&daysprune=14)


Herbal remedies (http://www.addforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?s=&f=20&page=1&pp=25&sort=lastpost&order=desc&daysprune=14)

Hope these help!