Just wanted to say hello to everyone, Id normally be at work right now but since i was fired this morning I have time to kill, I pick my son up from school at 3pm, No way I'm telling him, hell have me out looking for a new job before the sun goes down, besides i don't want him to know I'm a looser, at least not until hes old enough to know why I'm a looser. My boyfriend is out of town until Friday, I am really dreading telling him, I have lost more jobs since we have been together than keys. Think I can get a job by being honest on the resume

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looking for a job, week or two at the most. Ive had lots of jobs over the years, id give you the names and numbers but none of them were left on good terms,
I am how ever very good with people, love them, they love me. I'm getting better but i have a history of being late, and I'm always the first one to want to go home.

I am a pain in my own ***, hiding out in my own house afraid to tell anyone that Ive been fired again!!!!!:(

Sorry that you lost your job this morning. It's never a pleasant experience and it always sucks when you have to tell loved ones. Don't be afraid to tell your family, most times their reactions aren't nearly as bad as you imagine they will be. Keep your head up and eyes open for the right job. By all means, take the word loser out of your vocabulary.

We all feel for you! You need time to grieve this loss. But we want you to look to the future, just a teeny bit will be enough right now.

Fear is the worst thing. It paralyzes, it terrifies, it is its own kind of death. You will feel better if you tell someone-supportive 1st. You won't be physically harmed will you? If so, go somewhere safe.

Please don't lie to your son or not tell him. He knows intuitively already and will know something is wrong. Be honest, he will respect that.

I would like to know what kind of jobs you have had-that would really help. Not specifics-just general like waiting tables, trash collector for example. Not where you worked.
My daughter got into this cycle too and after a tough time is doing well in a job she loves and pays well. Stain inspector at a cabinetry manufacturer. She has a 1 year old son and just left an abusive relationship. She has unofficial ADD and had a terrible time in school. I am so proud of how well she is doing now. But it was tough for her. But she used her stubborness and determination in positive ways to get to this point.

You have been doing this on your own for a long time and are bogged down in a repetition of failure. You are so afraid to fail that you sabatogue yourself in every job and end up proving yourself a failure. Which is not true, you have failed at some jobs, you are not a failure.


You have already openly discussed some of the negative things you are doing. That is awesome!!!
My point? - you are at rock bottom, there is nowhere to go but up. You can live the life you want-but, you have to create it and make it happen! No one will give it to you!! You are in charge now-and you have a support system here. Your job performance is just that - YOURS.

So, take a deep, relaxing breath, look yourself straight in the eye, and tell yourself that what has happened is a learning experience, because we all learn from our mistakes, and you have learned a lot! Be confident that there is better to come and continue to be willing to change those things that hold you back.

Is this easy?-NO, Will you stuggle? YES, Will it take time? YES, Can you do it? ABSOLUTELY!

There are many resources out there where you can train at no cost and develop new employment skills. It depends on what state you live in. Stay on this forum and you will get lots of support.

RADDmom