Although I've been Dx for about a year now, I still have no idea of where I'm at in terms of "accepting" my ADD. Mostly, I feel like I just try to fight against it --hoping for the best:confused: and ending up frustrated.:mad:

Any, to the real point of this thread. I found a website that uses the stages of grief to assess one's level of acceptance of their learning disability or ADD. Yes, there's an interactive quiz. :p

http://www.ldpride.net/acceptancemodule.html


So this is where I'm at with it:

Denial (50%) Anger (41%) Bargaining (100%) Depression (91%) Acceptance (50%)

I'm not sure what all those mean in every day experience other than I seem to be everywhere all at once :eyebrow: :eek: :faint: (but I already knew that!). What I do know is that I'm nowhere near "at peace" with it and my therapist and I have a lot to talk about. :(

Anyway, just thought I'd share what I found. Hopefully it's useful to others.

be "accepting",
tristan :rolleyes:

Denial (66%) Anger (75%) Bargaining (66%) Depression (66%) Acceptance (41%)


So does this mean im at the 'Anger' Stage?

I think I am all of them on different days, somedays I will be fed up with ADHD and other days I'll just accept ADHD as a part of me.

l;))))) tryed it just to see what it might say

Denial (41%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpgAnger (58%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpgBargaining (91%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpgDepression (75%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/yellow.jpgAcceptance (50%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpg


i dont think it really repents what it means to have add or any ld but fun to see .....what it might mean dorm

Tactile Learner (38%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/blue.jpgAuditory Learner (38%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/red.jpgVisual Learner (23%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/green.jpg


some other bits on this site read top therd ofve who put link to have look dorm

So does this mean im at the 'Anger' Stage?

I think I am all of them on different days, somedays I will be fed up with ADHD and other days I'll just accept ADHD as a part of me.
I really think this can only measure the extent to which someone is in denial, anger, etc. Like you, I feel like I'm all over the place with it depending on circumstances.

tristan:rolleyes:

Denial (33%)
Anger (41%)
Bargaining (41%)
Depression (50%)
Acceptance (100%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpg

:D

Denial (33%)
Anger (41%)
Bargaining (41%)
Depression (50%)
Acceptance (100%) http://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpghttp://www.ldpride.net/images/purple.jpg

:D

100% acceptance--You Rock!!!!!!!!

Denial (50%)
Anger (33%)
Bargaining (41%)
Depression (58%)
Acceptance (83%)

Me :D

There is something to that little test...

When I was first diagnosed, I was initially curious and wanted to know all about it. It was fascinating to me. Eventually I realized that it was a permanet feature of my life that had always been there, and was NEVER goling to go away... I then became depressed for a few weeks because I was "incurable".

I rebounded and went to work on trying to get a proper diagnosis, and the best treatment I could find.

I learned that I have comorbitities and how to deal with them. I learned which type of ADHD I have. I learend that I definitely do not have bipolar disorder. I learned that while I have autistic traits that I'm not autistic. I learned that these disorders are not so clearly defined as one might think, and the definitions have fuzzy margins.

Now, I am at a stage where I have the knowledge, I have the diagnosis, I have the treatment, and it is simply a day-to-day routine of maintaining myself. I keep thinking "now what?"


ME :D

Meadd823 doesn’t know how to say this but will find a way by the next sentence.

I took this test and because there is not an option to put a zero in responses that are totally off, the lowest response value you can have to any of the statements is a 1. I think the test is sort of “rigged” so no one can test for total 100% acceptance(without raising the scores in other areas). I didn’t even read the material and took the test (so I am ADD and dyslexic :rolleyes: )


The test scored me as showing anger33%, denial 33%, Barginging 33%, depression 33%, acceptance 75% = :confused:. The 33% showed only because I could not zero any of the statements out. The only answers I choose to raise the value above 1(I think there were four), were the statements that were listed as a sign of acceptance (which I didn’t read until after the test when I got the results).


Just an observation nothing more.

Agreed! I am curious how I got 50% denial and 100% acceptance myself?

Oh Spot! Here kitty kitty kitty....


Crazy :D

Thanks Tristan..I am off to take the test now. I think I have accepted it , so I will find out and let you know :-)

I kept getting confused by the way the questions were written!! LOL..
I accept 75%

I think what I've come away with from this little "exercise" is that how I feel about being/having ADD is not ever going to be a linear process. I'm not going to work from denial to acceptance and never be angry or depressed about it again. Likely I will move back and forth depending on my mood and life circumstances.

Some days I will be more angry and in denial about it. Other days I may feel more depressed and sad about it. And then--days where I can accept it and the ADD doesn't really bother me.

Just my reflections,
tristan:rolleyes:

I think what I've come away with from this little "exercise" is that how I feel about being/having ADD is not ever going to be a linear process. I'm not going to work from denial to acceptance and never be angry or depressed about it again. Likely I will move back and forth depending on my mood and life circumstances.

Some days I will be more angry and in denial about it. Other days I may feel more depressed and sad about it. And then--days where I can accept it and the ADD doesn't really bother me.

Just my reflections,
tristan:rolleyes:
Sounds really good to me, Tristan :), and thanks for saying I "rock"...I don't always feel like I rock, though. Maybe its just the way my life is at this point in time, or all the years I spent believing all of this was depression related and knowing there had to be something else going on...easy to accept ADD after 20+ years of going "Is this as good as it can be for me??".

I do have days that I am upset or angry or sad or whatever, I am human and this is frustrating to say the least! But in the end I accept this is who I am :) who my kids are, and alla that happycrappy.

Crazy

Denial (33%) Anger (50%) Bargaining (50%) Depression (66%) Acceptance (83%) The stages of grief truly are not linear as so many of people on this thread have stated. On good days we lean way over to acceptance. On bad days, I know I can get angry and depressed, especially if the other person/s do not or will not understand. As we learn to live-well, I hope- with our ADD I think the key to our grief process sould be based on how much time we are in denial, are angry, depressed, try to bargain; compared to the quality and quantity of our acceptance.

My conclusion? As you or I spend more time at the acceptance end of the spectrum and less with the other four areas, our lives will be more balanced and happier. We just need to give ourselves space when we have a tough day and not heap on the guilt.


Here is a link to the rest of the LDPride website. http://www.ldpride.net/ (http://www.ldpride.net/)It does not focus solely on LD. There is a lot of info on ADD/ADHD as well. It will link you to many very useful resources. Need more information? This link takes you to a number of resources that are excellent for newly diagnosed and for children with LD and ADD/ADHD. http://www.ldpride.net/ld.addinfo.htm (http://www.ldpride.net/ld.addinfo.htm) Any input on these resources would make great new threads!

RADD

I feel about being/having ADD is not ever going to be a linear process. I'm not going to work from denial to acceptance and never be angry or depressed about it again. Likely I will move back and forth depending on my mood and life circumstances.

Actually even in a “clinical” sense you are correct this is not a linear process, emotions are not a linear process those we feel about ADD are no different. Frankly I believe after 13 years I am used to it.

Then again there are days like today where I come to the conclusion via circumstances to be amazed at exactly how ADD I am. I simply have never had any one else’s ADD to compare mine to.