Do you think that there seem to be many times that you get stuck in boring conversations? Though, I can and do enjoy small talk, there are also many times that I want to have conversations about intruiging subject matter (Such as the meaning of dreams). Well, it's interesting IMO. It seems that many people around me don't want to, however. I get very tired of talking to people who only want to talk about "that last FRIENDS episode" or "Did you see SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE? last night." It's usually something I don't care about. It's just not much fun to talk to people with different interests.

Interesting, I hate it when that happens. When appropriate I take a scarf I am knitting, my sketchbook, or some type of simple project for my hands. That gives me something interesting to do while I listen, and I don't get as antsy. Plus, I have something to show for my time.

The bonus? My little project oftens turns the conversation and bodda bing-it gets interesting!

In meetings I doodle or do something that looks work or meeting subject related. I focus better and look super absorbed. Just my techniques for coping and feeling productive. I also take notes with colored markers-Mind-mapping, a technique where I use simple pictures related to content and color to map out the information. My case of 20 markers is fun too. Benefit? Increased retention of information and much lower meeting irritation rate.

Bored no more,
RADD

Do you think that there seem to be many times that you get stuck in boring conversations? Though, I can and do enjoy small talk, there are also many times that I want to have conversations about intruiging subject matter (Such as the meaning of dreams). Well, it's interesting IMO. It seems that many people around me don't want to, however. I get very tired of talking to people who only want to talk about "that last FRIENDS episode" or "Did you see SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE? last night." It's usually something I don't care about. It's just not much fun to talk to people with different interests.I am not sure if you are talking about co-workers or neighbors or what, but I will share something that has worked pretty well for me in the past to get pesty, or boring people to avoid me. First of all you need to get your hands on some Amway catalogs, or some Jehovah Witness pamplets (no offense to anyone involved with Amway, or the JW's, but this is something that really does work). Secondly, when you encounter your neighbor, or whomever it is that is pestering you with nonesense, pretend that you have recently started to sell Amway and proceed to tell them how much money you are sure you will be able to make, and how much you are sure that they too can make by doing almost no work at all. It is important to come across as being very excited about Amway, and if you are able to seem excited about it in their eyes there is a really good chance that this person will avoid you lilke the plague from there on out.

The same thing works by using the Jehova Witness pamplets, but you got to be careful with that approach because you may accidently come across someone who would love talk about the Bible with you. However, 9 times out of 10 (as long as they are not a Bible nut) this person will also begin to avoid you. It is important to seem enthused no matter which one of these two approaches you use, but over the years I have found them to work like magic with neighbors and or coworkers who are pest. Hope this helps.:)

I have this boring conversation problem all the time, at work, at school, at home.

I hate the mundane "chit-chat" it is so boring.. and it is never interesting. People only seem to chit-chat about the same stuff all the time.
-t.v
-weather
-other people
-latest assignments/work projects
-OTHER PEOPLE

I hate it, I get very frustrated, because when people are talking about this boring stuff, I simply cant reply.
I have nothing to say.
Then people look at me strange, or like I am not an interesting person because I dont find the weather of gossip interesting.

Plus, I find these conversations exhausting. I have to shuffle through so many stupud possible replies in my head... or have to try and conjure up something..... any replies I do end up make... are obvious of my dis-interest in the topic.

I think people are less likely to try and speak with me because I do this.
Plus, I am more likely to avoid people that I know only discusses petty things.

I would much rather talk about something other then traditional, expected social concepts. That, and I will be more likely to listen to the other person, instead of getting bored, and distracted by what is around me.

I usually hate work because of this. I never get along with any of my co-workers because of this. I am labelled, naive, aloof, stuck up, or shy.. when honestly.. I am just not interested in the latest hair, makeup, t.v show etc.

I hate it when I ask a question or something, then I suddenly realise that the question is probably going to have a long and boring answer, but its too late, ive asked it now, then im stuck in a big boring conversation that I accidently got myself into and I start to really regret asking the question in the first place!

Sometimes I dont mind having a conversation, but the other person (if they arnt ADD) usually finds it difficult to keep up with me. :D

I hate when,, I ask a question that I was thinking.

Like I will be thinking...why is that red?

Then I will ask it right away without thinking about why it is red.

The person that hears me, is like.... "what?! What do you mean? Isnt it Obvious?!"

But half way through them say that, I already know the answer, I just blurted out a thought before thinking about it.

I did think about it...and I know why it is red.... I just opened my mouth too soon.

This makes me look so stupid. I hate when I do this.

I understand the long answers too, one sister of mine.. takes HOURS to explain something... I think she thinks whoever she needs to explain it too, wont get it... unless she slows it right down (when she is talking)

I always "GET IT" like 2 seconds after she has JUST STARTED to explain the answer... AND I have a NEW questions in its place that I am dying to blurt out, to cut her off (cause I cant stand to listen anymore)

But at the same time.. I dont want to Interupt her because she JUST started to tell me the answer.... ugh, frustrating.

I hate when,, I ask a question that I was thinking.

Like I will be thinking...why is that red?

Then I will ask it right away without thinking about why it is red.

The person that hears me, is like.... "what?! What do you mean? Isnt it Obvious?!"

But half way through them say that, I already know the answer, I just blurted out a thought before thinking about it.

I did think about it...and I know why it is red.... I just opened my mouth too soon.

This makes me look so stupid. I hate when I do this.


I do that to, I think people think im really stupid for asking such an obvious question. But then I think about it and, everyone asks those questions in their heads, its just that we tend to blurt out the question before fully thinking through and non ADDers think about everything first so they dont say anything.

I can barely stand chit-chat. It is very hard for me to make "polite" conversation.
It makes me feel like I'm some kind of alien...I only enjoy people who are very funny or eccentric or really smart. Kind people are good too.
Sometimes I look like a dolt because I can't follow someone's conversation or else I may look like a snob because I barely respond or an eccentric because I see things differently.
Anyway, I really don't want to be different than I am.......I want everyone else to change --- really, I'm not kidding! {lol} - be less boring. Mostly I want to be entertained...that sounds like a little kid stamping her foot that she won't change but I really can't. If the words aren't stimulating my brain starts making it's own conversation.

I am labelled, naive, aloof, stuck up, or shy.. when honestly.. I am just not interested in the latest hair, makeup, t.v show etc.

you've described it perfectly, this is me, im not shy or stuck up i just genereally have no interest what so ever about trivial things, such as weather etc! I don't know what to say, i try to talk but i feel fake because i have no interest in what im talking about its liek verbal dhiorea!

this is why alot of the time with most people i don't really talk much, i can't be bothered to talk about TV! infact i HATE tv im always controversal and what i really want to say is "ACTUALLY......." and then cause an argument as a response lol thats not good! i dont do this often just with really really pathetic things that i can't stand people trying to fog my mind with!

id much rather get into a deep conversation and get my brain working, concepts, theories, arguments etc i love that but most people not all, just dont want to talk about those things because like me when they talk about hair and make up they just don't know how to reply with an answer!

Like I will be thinking...why is that red?

Then I will ask it right away without thinking about why it is red.

The person that hears me, is like.... "what?! What do you mean? Isnt it Obvious?!"

But half way through them say that, I already know the answer, I just blurted out a thought before thinking about it.

I did think about it...and I know why it is red.... I just opened my mouth too soon.

This makes me look so stupid. I hate when I do this.

lol i always do this its frustraiting isn't it! i had a conversation with my boyfriend yesturday about this, i pointed out something silly, and he sais why dont you think before you speak......i know this, i know im ment to think before i speak but before iv had time to think not to blurt things out, it comes out and i already know the answer by time iv asked the question!

Do you think that there seem to be many times that you get stuck in boring conversations? Though, I can and do enjoy small talk, there are also many times that I want to have conversations about intruiging subject matter (Such as the meaning of dreams). Well, it's interesting IMO. It seems that many people around me don't want to, however. I get very tired of talking to people who only want to talk about "that last FRIENDS episode" or "Did you see SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE? last night." It's usually something I don't care about. It's just not much fun to talk to people with different interests.

I agree !! ;)

".......im always controversal and what i really want to say is "ACTUALLY......." and then cause an argument as a response lol thats not good! i dont do this often just with really really pathetic things that i can't stand people trying to fog my mind with!......."

This is so me. I can create so many problems, because, I am just not willing to let people get away with only thinking about the first layer, and not the underlying, realistic layer.

"...... id much rather get into a deep conversation and get my brain working, concepts, theories, arguments etc i love that but most people not all, just dont want to talk about those things because like me when they talk about hair and make up they just don't know how to reply with an answer!....""

This too, is so true!

Sometimes someone will say something..and I will get this memory flash of something that is similar, and then I will say it, because, to me, it is a perfect addition to the conversation...but most people just dont get it.

For example.....someone will try to explain something, or will be talking about something that is just odd, or whatever,... and I will get Gary Coleman pop in my head, then I will say ... "Whatchu talkin' 'bout Willis?"
(Or sometimes leave out the Willis part)
I know, I know, its retarded, but I cant help it... lol
Now that I think about it, no wonder people steer clear of me! :D

This might be a way too obvious form of example I am trying to use to explain what I meant properly.....although I HAVE used this before.

My closest friends get it.

I like the suggestion about JW's and Amway LOL!!!

I avoid small talk at all costs. I hate listening to people. I sometimes wonder if I just hate people! :D

Seriously, my husband, who I am not sure doesnt have Asperger's can talk for hours about stuff that I cant understand or care about and he just doesnt seem to see me doing ANYTHING I can to keep myself busy. If I dont keep myself busy I am going to start blurting our stuff because either I am trying to shut him up or Im too impulsive. Either way, yes, it is a problem, and yes I agree with you!

Boring conversations have a way of sparking my zany sense of humor :o. I have a ton of ridiculous amusing anecdotes and images that pop into my head and its very hard not to giggle or even burst out laughing! Its so inane! http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y92/kzrainbow/heeheeHEEE.gif Hairstyles? Handbags? Oh man!

I have learnt to sneeze a lot or fake it well anyway. Gives me an excuse to dash off the restroom. I am also pretty good at the nice vapid grin and the gutteral mono-syllabic replies "OH! Uh huh...hmmmm". I let my mind space off since its rubbish anyway, they don't care what I think, really, they just want attention IMO. At least in my life they do ;).

My actual friends are either like me or understand me, so if the chat turns to handbags and I launch into "Hey! I am thinking about having a hysterectomy, but do ya think they will let me keep my uterus? Its mine, ya know? I wanna have it tanned, and make this teriffic handbag...." my friends usually crack up and say "Handbags are not your thing huh?".

Crazy :cool:

I don't do boring conversations well either. Because I have a redundancy aversion I will simply hyper link to my pervious personal opinion (http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=29868&highlight=boring+conversations) should any one actually be interested enough to click it.

I'm quite repelled from small talk... I really hate it. Whenever I spend time with my family, I dread the usual "list of questions" that they ask me... Hi! How are you? Are you still working at that place? How's school going? Etc. Etc. Etc. It's like they have it all memorized, and I'm asked it each time I visit them! (family == extended family here). I don't appear to be the same species as them... and they wonder why I never come to see them. Sometimes I think they try to make me believe that tolerating their mediocrity should be my payment to them for All The Things They Have Done For Me (TM). I think they have attempted to converse with me at my level, though it does still tend to be long and drawn out, and uninteresting.

In reality, I can't stand conversations about anything other than what I am intimately interested in. It really shows in the work environment as well, being very asocial as most seem to be there to purely make money, not due to technological interest.

I also can't stand to listen to those who speak slowly, which the irony is that I often have flow control problems speaking myself (either too fast or too slow). My step-father speaks slowly, though it is willful in his case!

I tend to avoid ono to one conversations. I like small group conversation, because I can "go away" from time to time. In a one to one conversation I get immediately bored, I just can't follow what the other guy is saying. So people usually consider me very unpolite.

I wish everyone spoke like Crazy Feet (pg 2). Those are the conversations that can hold my interest. Very funny.

I wish everyone spoke like Crazy Feet (pg 2). Those are the conversations that can hold my interest. Very funny.;) thanks so much...I wish everybody thought I was amusing!

Of course you would tell me if I launched into hyper-speech-mode and ask me to slow down if I began to sound like I was no longer speaking a coherent language right?? http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y92/kzrainbow/alien006.gif

Crazy :cool: (one day I might actually remember not to post when my meds have not kicked in...but I doubt it...)

Of course you would tell me if I launched into hyper-speech-mode and ask me to slow down if I began to sound like I was no longer speaking a coherent language right??
Quite honestly, if I didn't know you had ADD, I'd just pretend to be listening and drift off into my own little world.

Quite honestly, if I didn't know you had ADD, I'd just pretend to be listening and drift off into my own little world.:foot: OK I will remember that you have ADD too then.

Crazy :cool: