Our son has ocd- as we reflect onhis childhood- there were things he did that we chalked up to being a toddler. Now we know differently.

Our daughter just turned 2 years old, everything has to be HER way or she has a screaming fit. SHE has to go everything herself. I know that this is normal behavior for a toddler, but my son never went through the terrible twos. I can not help but wonder if this is a sign of ocd or am I really being paranoid here? Sometimes knowledge can be a disadvantage, am I overthinking? Is she just making up for what we missed with him?

Some two's go through it terribly, some go through terrifically. Depends on the particular child. Just sounds like different temperaments. Your daughter is more intense? Your son is more compliant, in general? Just some thoughts.......

They are total opposites! My son is very outgoing and my daughter is soooo shy! I am just so paranoid that she may develop it too= when I said she has a screaming fit- I didn't mean it mildly- she will scream and cry for an extended period of time- comparable to the meltdowns my son has experienced.

this website has some useful information about ocd: (link removed by Admin) It may just be that your daughter is experiencing the "everything revolves around me" (otherwise known as the terrible 2's) more than your son did.

OCD is really complicated and is thought to occur because of a combination of things. Learned behaviour, lack of serotonin, differences in the brain, etc. Im far from a professional but it'd seem hard to diagnose a child with OCD unless they were doing very obvious things (rituals).

Guess I am being :eek: overly paranoid!

I am OCD myself, babyboy, and am not sure I would know what to look for in a child so young! It does run in my family, and could notice it in DS when he was old enough to be able to put order in his life, like lining up his crayons so nicely when putting them away rather than just tossing 'em into the bucket, and keeping his Lego creations prestine, and putting his toy packaging together after he opened it to play with it. (Yeah, weird.) This was around age 5. I have read that OCD starts at around puberty, but I don't think so. DB Cooper had it right, when your daughter is old enough to be able to establish some rituals or habits or need for order. I'm not sure a 2-year-old is there yet, but definitely watch out. Remember to relax, yourself, as well! ;-)

Once we realized my so has OCD - looking back we were able to see the rituals from about 18 months old. At the time we thought it was just a 'toddler thing'.Now we know better.

Sounds a lot like my middle child who is now 23, very beautiful and brilliant, but still has issues maintaining relationships. She was still rolling around on the floor having temper tantrums at 17. OCD is only a small aspect of her personality. She has autistic tendencies too. The shyness you mention makes me think of that. Fortunately she has maintained a positive relationship with her apartment-mate for several years.

Does Bipolar Disorder run in the family at all?? I have seen some info claiming that severe tantrums can be a symptom of BP in toddlers, that will begin to manifest more clearly as childhood BP later on.

I cannot claim that was the case for my Kid, but time will tell if that applies to my Baby :). She has a pretty extreme reaction to the word "NO" but she has been pretty spoilt too.

No - no bipolar. My little one is just very... uh determined to have her own way