What is the plan to makes success in our lives. We should all work together to develop a plan to create the life we want. I'll start.

Question 1

What would make you see yourself as what you want to see?

Queseion 2

Nest contributor take a shot at it.

I think I"d have to a strong change of perspective. I don't know how that would come about. A lot of how we see ourselves is formed in our childhood. And some of the negative ideas we get about ourselves are almost impossible to ignore. I know intellectually who I am and who I want to be, but I don't know how to believe it and make it a truth that I don't have to struggle to convince myself of all the time.

Outside World: Just to be debt free, consistent at my job, easy going. Normal steady eddie. Not making too much of a fuss about anything.

Inside my head world: Just to be able to enjoy and contain my ADD without it affecting others around me. Sometimes I feel high without being high. Ahhh, lovely ADD!

This is my Zen.

I See myself as a capable person who is struggling. I want to see myself as an adult, in the sense that I can function in a world that doesn't suit me but still be happy.

I want to keept he good thngs about myself but still get better at taking care of other things.

I want to live without constant worry.

What would make you see yourself as what you want to see?

????? I am not sure I even understand this. I read it last night and figured I was just tired but sleep did not help. Apparently I am lacking understanding here as others seem to know exactly what is being said.

If I do not like some thing in my self I am seeing I work toward changing it, my biggest struggle being time, my internal clock runs about ten minutes behind the world view however the world has yet to end because I am five or ten minutes late.

I find being on time is an issue with others as well. I am almost never the first there but rarely the last either. Now I need to see myself getting off the computer and getting ready for church. Notice the doors to most sanctuaries are in the back there is a reason for this! ;)

I see it like this. I imagine that this will sound familiar to a lot of you. I have always thought that if there was one work to describe me it would be the word "capable."

But, within that lies the problem. Being capable is great. BUT, here is the issue. Yes, I can do anything, I bet just like almost everyone here (fix somthing, figure something out, play a song on the guitar/piano, play sports, build a bookcase....or whatever). But because of my ADD.....here is how I see it.

I can DO anything.....I just cant do ANYTHING. I can go out and build a bridge but I can't go out and build a bridge. By which I mean I could figure it out but I could never get it finished. Does that make sense??? Please??? You could ask me to do anything and I KNOW I can do it and I don't care what it is. I can figure it out. I bet almost all of us could. But, I can't do it because I can't get it done. Sidetracked, loss of excitement, or whatever.

In my family life and marriage I feel like this.......I feel like that beacuse of my ADD, I don't ever get the stuff done that I need to get done, I don't remember to do the things that I need to do, and it just causes chaos and stress for my wife and family. To make an analogy to a song, I feel like all my wife sees when she looks at me is blue, gray, black and not much else because of all the stress I cause her. BUT, when I look inside myself I can see all the beautiful colors that I possess. My "true colors". And I know that is why my wife loves me is because of my true colors. I just need to find a way to let them be seen all the time. You know, Cyndi Lauper. Yes I am dating myself.

You with the sad eyes
Don't be discouraged
Oh, I realize
It's hard to take courage
In a world full of people
You can lose sight of it all
And the darkness inside you
Can make you feel so small

But I see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that's why I love you
So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors
Are beautiful like a rainbow

And I know that is why my wife loves me is because of my true colors. WhatwasIsaying: Your post was so endearing I had to quote it.

How do I see myself? --- quiet and just taking it all in when out in public (but inside my head is an entirely different world)....I'm a dreamer, someone who believes anything is possible..... a worrier (because of the endless # of outcomes I can think of for any given situation)......silly and ridiculous (this is more for myself than anyone else -- to keep me entertained {& young children appreciate it [under 5 y.o.]}

I'd like to be more interested in what is going on around me and less of a worrier. I'd like it if I could just relax (if my head wasn't keyed up all the time).

To get to where I want to be...I have to keep doing what works: exercise, meditating, focusing on my breathing, taking care of myself (ie eating right {for me, little sugar . no caffeine}).