My son, he is 9 years old and in the 4th grade. Every day is a challenge for him. His teacher gives me a daily report on his behavior,
(I asked her to do this because last year was so challenging that I am determined to do things different this year.)

Second day of school already talking when he shouldn't be, not staying on task, not paying attention. did I say talking? this boy can talk and talk...
sloppy handwriting, careless mistakes, rushing through homework.
I completely empathize with him because that was me when I was a kid..and it was torcher for me to sit through a day at school. I had a hard time making and keeping friends, I notice he does to, he says things that are hurtful, doesn't like to take turns, it goes on.
On the other hand this kid will focus a whole day consumed with this stadium he is trying to create, or building a tree house, and he is sooo thoughtful and intuitive, passes all his tests with flying colors,so I know he can do the work. (we study allot for those tests otherwise he wouldn't.)
Any way, I suspect ADD/ADHD and have for awhile. Tomorrow is his appointment to be evaluated. I tell him that its not normal for a kid to have to struggle so much in class just to pay attention and stay on task, I tell him I understand, and that we may be able to do something about it.
His father doesn't believe in this whole "ADD excuse" he just wants to blame everyone and every thing he can for our sons behavior, including our son.
I don't blame our son, I do hold him accountable for his actions because I love him, but I don't blame him.
know I can find support here.
thank you for reading my story.:)

Good luck with the evaluation. Next you will face the journey through treatment decisions. This forum has been a great place to learn as my daughter and I have been going through the process. My husband is not intune with much of this, it is not his area.

Good luck with everything. Hope you have a good Dr. Remember the diagnosis will require input from you and most likely his teacher too. An interview with the child is not how ADHD is diagnosed.

It is too bad about people that "don't believe in ADHD." Based on what? What they hear in the news?

Read a couple books, talk to some knowledgable people then get back to me. To write-off ADHD based on the limited knowledge that people generally have on the subject is rediculous.

If you son is diagnosed, give your husband Charles Barkley's book.

Welcome to the club! I am just one step ahead of you in this process. We are trying new meds very soon. School starts next week and I am trying to get it all evened out so she can get going on the right foot. At any rate, the things you are saying about your son seem very similar to my DD. She would ask to go to the bathroom 10 times a day, lots of unfinished work, terrible handwriting (illegible), impulsive.

I too have a husband that couldnt admit there was a problem. He wouldnt even go with me to the dr to make a decision about medications. He has finally agreed to go with meds and admits she has ADD. Its very frustrating to try and make decisions on your own.

Good Luck and let us know how it went!

Good luck with everything. Hope you have a good Dr. Remember the diagnosis will require input from you and most likely his teacher too. An interview with the child is not how ADHD is diagnosed.

It is too bad about people that "don't believe in ADHD." Based on what? What they hear in the news?

Read a couple books, talk to some knowledgable people then get back to me. To write-off ADHD based on the limited knowledge that people generally have on the subject is rediculous.

If you son is diagnosed, give your husband Charles Barkley's book.
I cant agree with you more, close minded. He isn't actually my husband, my sons father has re married, I get along with his wife well, we have talked about ADD being a possibility, she agrees. I basically am going about this on my own. Didn't even tell him. After all is said and done, I will tell him, until then i am afraid he will plant negative seeds in our sons head.
Thank you for your support