Ok, I'm posting this in Adult ADD but imagine it will be moved. Basically I have no idea if it should go here or elsewhere, and that would be why I don't moderate. :o My apologies in advance to any moderator who has to move this.

Ok to the point. I suck at scheduling. Ok, I'm ok at scheduling, I suck at sticking to it. I get sidetracked, or blow things off, or swtich things around, or get pulled of track by others, or completely forget. The list goes on.

Well, I got a lot of things I need to get under control. I've been hired to make a couple of corsets and an outfit for a concert pianist. I have a part time job. Need to start volunteering again to help me get into grad school. Have birthday and xmas presents to sew, as well as a bunch of stuff to sell at World Horror Con. And always, have to cook and clean and generally run a household. But I also need to sew and fill orders and such. But how to I get myself organized to do this?

I have learned that I need some sort of outside structure to do this. I cannot rely on myself, and I certainly cannortrely on my husband to work within any structure I create. (mostly cause he won't remember it). I have thought about hiring a coach to help me with this. Is that the kind of person who does this? Who can help me with this? I gots no clue where to go from this mess of time and responsibility. Help? Anyone know what to do, please?

Thanks and sorry for the length.

Is there any problem with motivation?

"Mess of time and responsibility"

That's a very good way to put it!

I'm in that place too now.

Sticking with plans is the difficult thing. I'm not even sure if I think sticking with plans is a good thing. I think some flexibility is good. Maybe just carrying out some plan that has to do with what all the planning was about in the first place should be what I should strive for.

I've never used a coach, but I think this is something they could help with.

If you want you could make a post in the Peer Coaching Forum. It works like you make a thread about something you want to work on, and then others provide support and suggestions.

I don't mean to say that there's anything wrong with this thread here by the above, also threads in the Peer Coaching Forum work a bit differently than other threads so it may or may not be for you. Here's a link to it anyway: http://www.addforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=103

It seems like you have some interesting things going though!

If you have important things to do dangle some good rewards infront of you. ADHDers respond well to immediate rewards and if you can get into the habit of self reward, all the better. Be prepared to lay out some cash so that you become a better person. It doesn't have to be a material reward. At work I use the computer as a reward for the mornings work. At lunch time, I allow myself 20 minutes to do "me" stuff. ADHDers severly lacking perseverance many need rewards on a much shorter interval.

If you want you could make a post in the Peer Coaching Forum. It works like you make a thread about something you want to work on, and then others provide support and suggestions.
I'll try that. I'm not that hopeful because getting on the internet is the second biggest thing that diverts my motivation. The first one is being ADHD :p



If you have important things to do dangle some good rewards infront of you.
I have tried this. It never seems to help me. It's like my brain prefers denying myself things I want. Does that have anything to do with my ADD? Or was it that I grew up poor and always felt guilty when I wanted things?