I lived with a man (38)who had the following traits and seemed to become obsessed with me.

Hyperactivity
Extreme jealousy
Excessive attention seeking and constant need for approval from me.
Performance related anxiety
Over competative behaviour
Chronic Perfectionism
innapropriate narcisistic verbal outbursts concearning others Race , body shape
and mental disability and frustration with Tv.
Mood swings.
Delusional disorder
Conduct disorder.
Possible Attachment disorder.
Constant verbal comments.. " I want you to feel like i do" " you do not deserve what you have "

Unfortunately i am Co Dependant and allowed his Narcissistic attention seeking controlling ways to exhaust me .He tried to get me out of my own house twice with the help of others who told me he was trying to undermine me. Eventually i told him to leave my house. And i suffered from Complex post traumatic stress for two years. I realised that he only behaved badly in front of me and others dont believe he behaved as i say he did. When questioned about his behaviour he does not deny it but just says he cant remember. I have been told that he is probably suffering from dissasociation. He has convinced others that it is me who is mad after suffering from PTSD. He seems to try to attack others who have mental health issues and got a girl thrown out of the house he moved to who had mental health issues. He is very good at covering up his behaviour problems with those who do not spend a lot of time near him. I know he is not allowed to live at home with his parents as his brother is severely disabled.

Do you think this could be the reason for his hatred of others with mental health problems.(Dissasociation )? He does not seem able to see his own problems. Is this common in those with ADHD ?

I believe that i too have ADD, Asthma and food allergies due to chemical exposure as a child which sometimes affects my concentration and focus.
I think he thought he was like me but was very jealous of my confidence,
belongings and abilities.

I think your friend needs to see a doctor asap. Avoid him at all costs. He strikes me as a potentially dangerous person. Please note that it is characteristic of a bordeline disorder for the individual to blame others for his/her behavior. By now, he has it honed to a fine art and mioght be able to create considerable chaos for anyone who opposes his world view.

Also, if you are not in the care of a doctor, it might help you to work through some of the issues, as well as your possible ADHD. I have read that people who have PTSD sometimes have ADD like symptoms, maybe this is relevant, maybe not. My guess is that your doctor can help.

ME :D



I lived with a man (38)who had the following traits and seemed to become obsessed with me.

Hyperactivity
Extreme jealousy
Excessive attention seeking and constant need for approval from me.
Performance related anxiety
Over competative behaviour
Chronic Perfectionism
innapropriate narcisistic verbal outbursts concearning others Race , body shape
and mental disability and frustration with Tv.
Mood swings.
Delusional disorder
Conduct disorder.
Possible Attachment disorder.
Constant verbal comments.. " I want you to feel like i do" " you do not deserve what you have "

Unfortunately i am Co Dependant and allowed his Narcissistic attention seeking controlling ways to exhaust me .He tried to get me out of my own house twice with the help of others who told me he was trying to undermine me. Eventually i told him to leave my house. And i suffered from Complex post traumatic stress for two years. I realised that he only behaved badly in front of me and others dont believe he behaved as i say he did. When questioned about his behaviour he does not deny it but just says he cant remember. I have been told that he is probably suffering from dissasociation. He has convinced others that it is me who is mad after suffering from PTSD. He seems to try to attack others who have mental health issues and got a girl thrown out of the house he moved to who had mental health issues. He is very good at covering up his behaviour problems with those who do not spend a lot of time near him. I know he is not allowed to live at home with his parents as his brother is severely disabled.

Do you think this could be the reason for his hatred of others with mental health problems.(Dissasociation )? He does not seem able to see his own problems. Is this common in those with ADHD ?

I believe that i too have ADD, Asthma and food allergies due to chemical exposure as a child which sometimes affects my concentration and focus.
I think he thought he was like me but was very jealous of my confidence,
belongings and abilities.

As someone recovered from dissociative disorders, IMO this man does fit the criteria of any dissociative disorder I can think of offhand. He needs to see a competent psychiatrist.

I can say that most people I know who currently have or have recovered from dissociation do not bear hatred for others with mental disorders, but I am not a doctor.

Good luck OP.

Please dont take offense but it sounds like you are WAY overanalyzing and diagnosing emotional issues. I would highly suggest you seek some emotional and spiritual counseling for yourself and try to stay away from all the labels and phobias you are describing. I've made the mistake in the past of overanalyzing things to death and the only result you'll find in the end is more confusion. Keep it simple and you'll get better. Oh yeah and stay away from that person or any other relationship until you are healthy yourself.

HC1

I've heard of this happening. Hell had it happen to me. They were both addicts and abusers. Don't worry about this guy, worry about getting yourself together.No one who treats people like that is worth what they expect. Heck, their not ever worth that they get.