So, I just read the other thread about the 15 year old getting pregnant. It sounds like the mother was very good about teaching her son about safe sex. I wanted to add one other tidbit that my daughters Dr. told us. He said that adopted children are much more likely to have ADHD than the general population. Implying that ADHD contributes to behaviors that cause unplanned pregnancies.

Having said that. Should Sex Ed for ADHDer's be different that for other kids? What can we do (as parents) different to help prevent this?

Ummm....at the age of 15 I didn’t even have the chance to get a girl pregnant. Don’t these parents ever watch their kids these days. Were does one even get a girl pregnant at 15, you cant even have a car?

And no it shouldn’t be different, its no different then any other class.

Hey Chris, do you have kids? Where you a kid?

Kids are sneaky-no matter how hard you try to be a good parent, things happen! There is enough guilt parents put on themselves-please don't add an extra helping!

As a mom with 3 kids-and one who was really tough and did all sorts of things I probably still do not know about-I guarantee you-unless I had eyes in the back of my head and a GPS implant in my child, there is no way I could keep up with a 15 year old. My other 2 were much easier to raise!

Thanks for understanding my perspective!

RADD
PS Mgdad-kids don't pay attention in health-they have it freshman year in IL, and in my sexuality unit with seniors they couldn't even identify the parts of the reproductive organs let alone list or describe any of the STD's. That age believes it is somehow exempt from STD;s, auto deaths, AIDs, and all sorts of other stuff. ADD does not enter the pic-I have seen ADD kids on both sides of the fence on sexuality.

Don’t these parents ever watch their kids these days.Careful Chris you are talking about a good friend of mine and the sister of a moderator as well!

Careful Chris you are talking about a good friend of mine and the sister of a moderator as well! Sorry but when I was growing up, my parents knew were I was at all times up to like 17. And there was severer punishment for breaking these rules. I look around my neighborhood to see little 6 year olds playing in the street wanting to get run over by the first moron not paying attention. All I am saying is that most parents have little to no control over there kids these days, and that is the true problem.

my parents knew were I was at all times up to like 17 Did your parents ever let you ride your bike around the neighborhood? I could ride five minutes from my house and be in a perfectly secluded spot in the woods. Would your parents have followed you there? Any creative kid can evade his/her parents detection. You don't need a car or even a bicycle.

On a more serious note, I was worried about bringing up this topic, because it includes two sensitive issues Addoption and Sex Education.

I guess the main issue here is that ADHD kids "emotional" development is delayed, yet their physical development is not. It is well known that teenagers feel invincible in many ways. Especially the ways that RADD stated. I don't know where I am going with this, but it seems that extra precausions need to be done with ADHD kids and Sex Ed. Their ability to forsee the consequences of their actions seems to be delayed.

I also wonder about my Dr.'s statistic about a higher incedence of ADHD in adopted kids. It is definately a statistic that the adoption agencies would not want discussed.

Chris, I am going to be blunt here-I don't want you to hurt my friend's feelings. Statements like the one you made are very painful for the person going through the situation. You do not know that person or anything about their kid or life. Please don't say anymore. Know this-if someone made a post similar to this about you, I would say the same things to them. People are too valuable to hurt like this. OK? We have to see the people, not the situation.

The sad thing is people say things like this all the time-

A friend miscarried-there was something wrong with the baby or-you must have done something to cause it. The emotional damage that does is beyond words!

Someone gets cancer-you must have caused it by.....even if they did, they know it and it still hurts to have someone say that.

People need care and support, love and acceptance. Judgement and criticism never feel good.

RADD-the Idealist Champion, ENFP

Did your parents ever let you ride your bike around the neighborhood? I could ride five minutes from my house and be in a perfectly secluded spot in the woods. Would your parents have followed you there? Any creative kid can evade his/her parents detection. You don't need a car or even a bicycle.



The rule was simple; they have to be able to fine me at all times. If they could not, which never happened, then the cops would be called. So if I was going to a fiend’s house I had to tell them which friend and they would want to the phone number of that house and there better be a parent there. Anyways I don’t mean to offend anyone, but it’s just hard for me to understand from my point of view.

And about the sex ed classes, I always resented any kind of special class that I was put in and rarely had much respect for them, but did well in them. I always pushed to be in more advanced classes despite ADD and multiple learning disabilities. I was always told I would fail by my advisers, but I never go less than a B in any class I demanded.

He said that adopted children are much more likely to have ADHD than the general population. Implying that ADHD contributes to behaviors that cause unplanned pregnancies. Are you sure that is what your doctor was implying! I read that as meaning "Adopted children are more likely to get ADHD" not that "ADD can cause more unplanned pregnancies"!

I'm not sure that's a logical step or a proper assumption to make from what your doctor said! I personally have not read anywhere that ADD people have more unplanned pregnancies!

However, I can't completely rule it out as a possibility! Impulsivity is certainly a major problem for ADDers. But, I'm not absolutely sure that sex is an impulsive act. If I remember correctly it still takes two people to have sex, correct? LOL :D Therefore, both parties would have to have ADD to make it truly an ADD-type impulsive act!

Hopefully, one of them won't have ADD and will keep a level head! :)

Ya know, it could just as easily be true that ADD people are more immature (than their peers) and therefore may not be as likely to even have sex as their peers!

Either way, sex education is still very important regardless if they have ADD or not! And even when sex education occurs, that's still no guarantee that unplanned pregnancies won't still happen regardless if you have ADD or not.

Peace! :)

seek - i understand the implication. It rests on the fact that ADHD is genetic.

Seek,

If it is true that adopted kids are more likely to have ADHD, and you accept that ADHD is genetic. Then there are only two possible reasons for that. 1. ADHD people are more likely to have unplanned pregnancies or. 2. ADHD people are more likely to put their kids up for adoption.

I don't believe number 2, so it must be number one. No?

Again, I am not trying to start a fight, just trying to discuss an issue that might be important for ADHD parents.

Seek,

If it is true that adopted kids are more likely to have ADHD, and you accept that ADHD is genetic. Then there are only two possible reasons for that. 1. ADHD people are more likely to have unplanned pregnancies or. 2. ADHD people are more likely to put their kids up for adoption.

I don't believe number 2, so it must be number one. No?

Again, I am not trying to start a fight, just trying to discuss an issue that might be important for ADHD parents.Those are excellent points. :)

Unfortunately I have to rush out the door right now. I'll try to log on tonight to reply, ok?

Meanwhile, I'm really curious why you think ADHD people are more likely to have unplanned pregnancies. I mean what is it about ADD do you believe would cause more unplanned pregnancies! The reasons --> Impulsivity? Immaturity?

Just curious! :)

Anyway, I gotta run!

Peace! :)