My son just started 7th grade. He is frustrated quite often in school. At first he said it is because his is so disorganized that he forgets to bring homework home or forgets to turn it in. Basically, he is feeling overwhelmed and a step behind everyone else. This is not new.

However, in the last few days, he has had a few moments where he suddenly feels frustrated and has no idea why. He will just be sitting in a class and start feeing this way. He has been more tired, too. He will come home melancholy.

In the past, he has had problems socially and academically, furstration and anxiety, often over very small things, but usually he can point to something and say that was the trigger. But now he seems to not know what is going on.

Anyone else get this? Anyone else's children get this way?

Kids with mild forms of disorders (and adults too) spend a lot of time and energy dealing wiht their issues. Frankly, having to deal with a disorder when you have to perform tasks is frustrating. Disorder is persistent and affects every facet of your life. Dealing with it is exasperating and exhausting. Lots of add kids are fatigued and stressed at the end of the day and troubles with anxiety and/or depression are not uncommon.

Another thing that you need to consider is that it might not be adhd. It could be a hearing problem, a vision problem, or perhaps any of several other neuropsychological conditions that can cause learning problems.

In any case it sounds like something is going on. Perhaps it is time to consult a doctor?

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YES! Middle school (grades 6 - 8) was when my daughter really started to have difficulty with her emotions. She STILL was able to get excellent grades (she's OBSESSED with getting "all A's" - and so far, is pretty much able to). But every day when I picked her up from the end of her day she would either burst into tears or go on a major complaining tirade about the "abuse" she's had to witness and endure all day.

Just having the teacher NOT notice her hand up ONCE was enough for her to consider her life to be over. It was extremely hard to listen to. I felt so helpless to help her because she seemed inconsolable.

I tried several therapists, but she didn't like any of them. Then her school got a new (VERY YOUNG & HIP) "Adjustment Counselor" - and my daughter and her really hit it off, thank goodness!!! She also has been taking Zoloft because she was having "stomach aches" and insomnia for the longest time. After a year-and-a-half of all kinds of medical evaluations (nothing wrong was found), an antidepressant was tried - AND HELPED!!

My daughter needs to take EXTRA GOOD CARE of herself: that means, ENOUGH SLEEP, enough nutritious food and water every day, and I really am committed to making sure that my daughter's home is "her safe place to fall." (Yes - from Dr. Phil, I know. But I swear that I MADE THAT PHRASE UP!! :-)

I have heard that antidepressants can be dangerous for young teens. How old was your daughter? I know that my niece had good luck at 17 with one, but my son is only 13. I do believe anxiety is part of the problem. I myself have taken anti-depressants and found them to help, but 13?

I think it is best to try and fix any other problem before treating the anxiety or depression. Sometimes when the underlying problem is resolved, the anxiety goes away.

I have heard that antidepressants can be dangerous for young teens. How old was your daughter? I know that my niece had good luck at 17 with one, but my son is only 13. I do believe anxiety is part of the problem. I myself have taken anti-depressants and found them to help, but 13?
I've been takin anti-depressents since I was like 12 and they seem to work. I do understand how your son feels. Like the wiehgt of the entire world is on his shoulders and that he can't do it. I have alot of those problems too. I have to get homework done sinceI am in 10th grade but when I get home I am WAY too depressed to even do it, or everytime I look at it I think "What difference will it make? I suck at life anyhow" Now matter how much anyone tries to push me I just feel more down about it. I have very violent mood swings which range from hysterical manicness to a fit of unprovoked rage. Sometimes the stress of life is just WAY too much for kids to bear! It might not shound very stressful but it really is. Don't push him too do anything he does not want to but set your foot down and tel him he needs to keep moving. That he does not need too get A's but he can NOT get D's

Have you ever thought he had Rapid Cycling Mood Disorder?

I don't know how to help but if you need to ask what kids who feel like that are thinking then just PM me. I hope your son feels better

And Sue-All I have to say is "hahahahahahaha" I am the total opposite of your daughter! I like to raise my hand yeah cause I'm kinda smart but if I don't get called on it makes me frusterated but not to the point of crying! To be honest you daughter might be upset because I know for a fact that kids like her tget made fun off if you have OCD ADHD or whatever. Not too be a meany but I would make fun of her if she were in my school. Trust me, kids like that get a tough time so just tell her to stick it out and deal with it. "No one is perfect!":)

If she is bored this could cause an issue. Just a thought , does she like music, in particular does he like drums? Maybe she needs a passion to enduce motivation. school is a drag, expecially if you are above in IQ. I have found the drums to be agreat outlet and with proper tuition instills many good qualities...
just a thought for you...

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My daughter needs to take EXTRA GOOD CARE of herself: that means, ENOUGH SLEEP, enough nutritious food and water every day. :-)I think this is one of the most important aspects of managing difficulties.

It is at about the same time my bi-polar came to the forefront. Of course, puberty is terrible to go through as it is. I would suggest getting your son back in for another analysis. Also, the work load changes drastically and maybe he needs a new schedule to cope with these overwhelming factors. You couldn't pay me enough to do high school over lol! Good Luck.