Under ADA Protection
For reasons that are completely stuipd.
Of ocurse my whole story is on this thread:
http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=28707
I did everything I could do, just finished filling out the Unempoyment Insurance application. Still trying to get through to the Fair Employment agency.
Anyway ad me to the list of unemployed ADD folk.
I feel like complete ****.

Movingshadow,

I'm so sorry that you are feeling so defeated. I understand how you might. However, in time I believe you may come to see the situation as the Day Your Life Changed for the Better!

Be sure to get those Unemployment papers in today. Hopefully you WILL be able to receive some $$$ to hold you over for a bit. And when you're feeling able - perhaps you can start a thread about how to get the job you WANT!!! (And a job that you WANT, is a job WITHOUT an INSANE boss!!)

Also, if you can find a low-cost or NO-COST counselor of some sort to support you through this transition time - it may be very helpful. (Often you can get lots of support at the Unemployment Agencies.)

Please keep us posted. I know how it feels. I've been in your shoes. (But NOW I am so ELATED to be out of that Hell I Was In 40hrs per week!)

Love,
Sue

another opens...and all that other hokey "feel good" stuff that at this point doesn't make you feel good at all! At least, it didn't for me, when I felt the sting of being fired going on just three weeks ago now.

Sounds to me like maybe you were a round peg trying to fit in a square peg all along? But we all do that, preferring to fit into a space we're at least familiar with rather than explore new territory.

I think you should get all your anger and disappointment and hurt out----be a crybaby for a little while. THEN, realize there are many wonderful things about you and that there are things that when you do them make your heart sing---what are those things? And how can you apply them in an income-producing way?

Best of luck to you,

Sandi

"I think you should get all your anger and disappointment and hurt out----be a crybaby for a little while. "

I agree with this statment. let yourself grieve over the loss of the job. In a way it is like losing a loved one, it is something you depended on, something that was there for you. If you dont come to terms with it then how will you be able to move on to the next one. I had to do that. Now that I am done i feel like i can better move on. good luck and let us know how things go. we are here for you and will keep you in our thoughts.

Yes thanks. I don't want to cry about it and feel the pinch at all. I am going to give my apartment 30 days notice today. I am going to get my car fixed with the vacation back pay they are going to include on my check. Yes I have already applied with the EDD and Employment fairness. I am also going to send a letter to the EOCC to see if I can file a charge to get mediation so I can get my job back. They say 90 percent of the time mediation works.

Anyways, iam going to drive to yellowstone national park where my mother is currently working and stay there for a week or so then I will come back and stay with mommy until i decide what I am going to do next. Yes I feel like a child but I have to do what I have to do. Hell in this day in age.. look at the gass prices.. kids in italy live with their parents til ther 30.

Maybe I should just think of that when im at my moms house.

They told me when i was fired that my last paycheck would be direct deposited (as it always has been) on Friday. It is friday and it has not posted since midnight when it usualy has. I have emailed HR about this. But now I am screwed because I should have gotten this last check when I was let go.

I can totally relate to where you are coming from, movingshadow. I lost my corporate job three years ago because of a mean, unsympathetic nightmare of a boss. The MAJOR low point in my life. I decided at that point that life was too short and that I needed to change my career. I took out student loans, went back to school, and got another degree. I'm now beginning to start another chapter in my life.

Perhaps this situation will mark a very positive turning point in your life, as it did with me and countless others. Have you considered changing careers?

I can totally relate to where you are coming from, movingshadow. I lost my corporate job three years ago because of a mean, unsympathetic nightmare of a boss. The MAJOR low point in my life. I decided at that point that life was too short and that I needed to change my career. I took out student loans, went back to school, and got another degree. I'm now beginning to start another chapter in my life.

Perhaps this situation will mark a very positive turning point in your life, as it did with me and countless others. Have you considered changing careers?I think I may be in the same position, the crossroads
What are you doing now?

I'm at the crossroads too, but am too paralyzed by depression and lack of funds that I couldn't choose a road if I tried.

I'm ready to give up.

It's depressing that ADD people loose their jobs like some children's clown with tourettes syndrome!

I hope you all get the book "Every employees guide to the law" I suggested. It really has made me more comfortable knowing my rights and how to protect myself on the job!

hey shadow,
Have not heard from you in a bit, how are things going? still sending good thoughts your way and hoping things are going better. Let us know.

This is probably kind of late to offer my support but I wanted to weigh in anyway.

The one time I did get fired I can pretty much guantee that it was caused by my ADD. I remember my boss asked me to do something, and I had no idea where to start. No idea. Throw into the mix that I was already self conscious about asking for help and direction.. no clear picture of what I'm supposed to do.. add some procrastination.. and voila! Fired!

Well I've since had to move out of my apartment and I have taken refuge with my mother. At 30 years old its not easy. I have no money, I have thought of taking time off by going to visit a family member out of town and trying to seek out my options on what to do. Of course right now I cannot even think about trying to get a job. I am still thrown for a loop. I have been reading the ADA law informaiton posts and a lot of it seems that it would work against me in a lawsuit. But then I read that one guys post about how he won a lawsuit from his employer. His situation is EXACTLY what happened in my work place and I couldn't belive it.

I gave my employer the solution to help me which would cost them nothing for accomodation and they did not do it. Instead they just wanted to put me on some kind of a performance plan which was bascially road to no where.

I have ideas of what I would like to do but I cannot follow through on those kinds of possibilities. I get too depressed to keep up my spirits and build up a drive for it.
I find myself playing video games on the computer which I don't want to do because I know its a quick fix. I feel like im waiting for a pot to hit me in the head to realize what is happening to me.

I came back to read this forum some more so I could gain some perspective some how. Thanks for the kind words people are throwing out.

I mean what am I suposed to do? I never in my life held a job as long as this one. All my jobs prior to this one were a few months to a year and 4 months. Try almost 5 years! How do I tell ANY employer where I was for 5 years and explain why I got fired? From a corperation that could have easily worked with me with no cost to them at all. It was a new position and a supervisor that was cold and unsupportive. After asking them to move me to another supervisor or put me back to my old position (taking a pay cut) they denied it WTF!

I honestly think that there are jobs out there that simply have nice people that dont put employees in danger of stepping into the ADD your fired hole. What do I mean by that? Probably missing small details and getting screamed at for it and anything of the like! So why should have to suffer another employer who isn't!

My routine is gone, which is probably the worst thing that can happen to someone who is ADD and under treatment.

I don't mind a turning point or this being a god sent opportunity for me. But I wanted to control WHEN that was going to happen! I had control of my life for once. More than I had ever done so and I wanted to make it! I am reluctant and angry because it feels like these people stupidly let me go.

This is MY life and when you work for a company for almost 5 years there is a god damn good freaking reason you were there for that long. I have never been fired. I don't know how to deal with this kind of thing. I don't want to say its not fair and get people saying "life isnt fair"! But **** its beyond not fair. It is a complete load of crap! I have felt as an ADD affected individual that being able to accomplish certain things ( like staying at this job for this long ) are OUTSTANDING MAJOR accomplishments!

I try to celabrate these accomplishments. I celabrate being able to find something I always loose in the same place that I know in my head I want it to be!

The last thing I wanted to do was loose this job and have it on my record that I was fired from it!