I have a 12 year old daughter with ADD in parochial school, 7th grade. Was diagnosed with ADD about 3 years ago. With her medication (currently on Adderall) she has been doing pretty good in school the past few years. Very nice friendly girl, no aggressiveness. Just attention and impulsivity problems.

She just started a new school this year because her old school closed down. Thought we were keeping on top of things but just found out daughter hasn't been truthful with us. She hasn't been completing schoolwork and homework. The teacher was sending home deficiency notices to be signed by parents, but daughter has been signing them herself and returning them to teacher. She also erased a phone message that one teacher had left us, before we had heard it:eek: :eek: !! I only found out about all this because homework load seemed a bit light for 7th grade, so I called her teacher to question this. Anyway, now instead of being able to get some credit for late work, she has received many zeros. Will be hard to bring grades up. We have had some problems like this in the past and we have explained to her that it is better to let us know than to hide it. If we don't know about it then we can't help her out. Just get a blank stare, very frustrating. I kind of blew up at her and now feel badly:( :( .

Also, found out that her math teacher was putting students together to work in groups and asked who wanted to work together and daughter was not picked by any group. Then teacher wrote down that she did not work in a group on her report. Feel that this was not right thing for teacher to do, especially with new kids in class that may not know many people. Daughter was crying about this when she told us. Sounds like she is developing social problems. She is small for her age and is not as developed physically or emotionally as most of the girls her age, which she already feels self conscious about. She was at her old school for 2 years and had made a few good friends. Now I feel because of her problems in school, the other kids are rejecting her. We are planning to meet with all her teachers to get her on the right track again, but not sure how to handle the social issues.

Anyone had any similar issues:confused: :confused: . I am thinking of maybe some professional counseling for all of us. Also, maybe meds need to be adjusted. We do try to get her together with friends from old school when we can. We also have noticed girls from our neighborhood that used to be friends are not coming over much anymore. Not sure why. We ask daughter, but don't think we are getting a straight answer.

Sorry for long message, but just found these boards. Very informative. Had a bad day and needed to vent.

Hi there. Thought I would reply seeing how you haven't had any responses. I can't really help you because I am pretty much in the same situation with my son (grade 7 as well) He also changed schools this year but wanting to because of bullying problems etc. He is shy so the friends are few and far between which is so sad to see. He too is small and immature for his age. I know he has a hard time with homework etc which I have to stay on top of him. I ask him daily for his school planner to see if there is homework to be done. He would put it off.
Had the problem last year with the covering up of school projects, tests, etc. He just let it get out of control and didn't know what to do, he was overwhelmed and broke down crying when I found out!! Thats why this year I have to stay on top of him.
I am also feeling so helpless and have tried the "friendship groups" last year at school with the school psych but that didn't help.

I feel your frustration and just wanted you to know your not alone. Sometimes it can help just knowing that so you can keep going. It helps me.

Good luck to you and your daughter.
mrs A