:confused: Hi there. My girlfreind (partner) I got dx with ADD bipolor and anxity and ocd. My partner has a son who is ADD. Does that meen my partner has it as well. She intruppts me and has bad opions on everything she sees.If her son has it does that meen he got it from his mom. I asked her and she said no. She also sayes she had D.I.D multiple personality disorder wich she said she doesnt have it anymore cause that other part of her left a long time aqo or sumthing but she still sleep walks she sayes. I dont know if shes in deniel about add,or her sleepwalking cause im just wondewring where i got it from, maby my mom,, cause me and my sis are EXCATLY alike. So is my bro. Im confused a bit. How do i know that her hosts as she said left her form her DID . She gets mad at me alot and intrupts me when im trying to explain sumthing and then i forget the point i was trying to make,, she dosent evern want to hear it ,,she thinks she knows what im gona sya buts its so far off from what she is thinking. It fustrates me when she dosent let me speak.Im concerned that she sleepwalks as well. What should i look for. Please help,thankyou

Im writing agian. Took me forever to find out where i put my post. Had a talk with my girflreind. We dont fight anymore. We did alot in the summer. I got dx 2 years ago with add and since i found out it never sunk in till i ran into her again (my woman) it (add) never sunk in ,,im glad i ran into her again and that she has a son with ADD. Wich dont live with her anymore. She went thru hell with him. Ive been reading alot of stuff from non add site and think of what my girlfreind went thru and is going thru with me. Im not hyper ,,im just in my mind alot and im not abusive to her or call her names when things get heated, i hate fighting ,,i just want to communicate . Bp works into the add. Mind just racin. Im on resperdoal 1 mg at night and 250 of depokoe in the morning and 500 at night, 20 mg 11am 10mg at 4 pm. Its working for me for shure i think. Just kinda tired. I wake up early. ive been on my bp meds a while more than the ritalin.jus started that 2 days ago or 3 i think(bad with time)Back to my woman, when we get heated i dont want to leave her cause i know shes mad at me and i want to make things right right there on the spot. i dont like walking away , i hate it ,,me giving her space makes me feel alone. And i want to talk to her about what im learning and i do talk about past stuff wich drives her crazy cause she dont wanna live in her past and i was talking aout her past D.I.D. multiple thing and she dont want to talk about it , cause im worryd that she sleepwalks and shes like sumtimes"dam where am i getting these brusis from" grrrr,,,,,and she said one time her ex had to tie a roap around her ankle to his so she wouldent get up cause its not safe , she falls 2 she had said to me. I dont think she has add anymore, just a fleetiing thought i had. and i found a way to talk to her without her getting upset. she understands me more thank i think thats for shure. im trying to find a non multiple thingy message bord so i can ask for sum gudance to understand not only myself but her as well as she is bipolor.she is only on effexor and she sumtimes feels suicidal. i want her to get help but she thinks noone can fix her so she spends day in and day out complaining about her life it seems at times,,im just sensitve to it thats all. Im ok really. I just need to vent. what do i apect outta my non add partner?. any advice , how do you all cope

:( ive had 27 views so far,,, why no replys everyone

Well, It sounds like allot going on, you obviously care a great deal about this girl and want to help her, mostly you just want her to love you. From what you are telling us she has a negative outlook on most things, this is only going to bring you down, time and time again until you are stuck in down mode. You seem to be pretty positive and loving, there is nothing wrong with talking about the past, Talking about the past helps prevent unwanted experiences from happening again, and is also a great way to troubleshoot unwanted behaviors.

Another thing, ADD isn't a disease, you cant catch it and it doesn't go away, its a disorder and is something that we can only get better at controlling. I understand what you are saying about genetics, and you are right about the probability of ADD being passed from parent to child, I have ADD and my son has just recently been diagnosed with ADD.

The ability to understand yourself is a sign of intelligence, the fact that you are so open to understand yourself as well as your partner is a sign that you are on the right track. I wish love were simple, if it were id tell you to simply leave the girl, she is only bringing you down. You are responsible for your own well being, if she is anything less than a joy in your life then you are not doing yourself justice. I understand its not that easy, so all I can do is wish you the best through your relationship with her. I'm sorry that it took so long to get a response, I wish you all the best. Keep us posted.

i guess i just firgured out that i was reading sum stuff and a quote from what people have said all my life " your just lazy and then i saw my mothers face. You know she dinit even get help for me ,, her excuse there wasnet help back then that there is now,, im 28 for flucks sakes. i have to do all this on my own now,,i gues sim just angry ,,,and iim also glad the non adders are on here learning all they can ,,kind comfortating to me cause even my own mother wont even bother walking to a library to take out add material ,,,but she can walk to a bar whatever, anyways, im just having alot of memorys cause im learning about add.trying to remember it all. dont ever get mad at the add in your life. and they can pickon things you may not even be aware that they can . just comes later in life like a big spash,,kind the same splash in my life. Ill post my life story somere else. i have alot of respect for everyone here :) thank you :rolleyes:

sange78,

What you said about your mother not knowing... Ditto. I'm 30 and mine didn't know either. I know it's hard NOT to blame your parents but heh... such is life. What you can be happy about is that you NOW know, what is wrong with you, but that there is treatment.

There are worse outcomes... such as being born 10 years before you were. There are many people in this very forum that are a lot older than you that also got recently diagnosed. If they feel anything like I do... they feel cheated out of many years of their life.

This isn't to say that life without a diagnosis is unbearable... but more of a "thank God I found out". At least I now know that I'm not just "stupid and lazy"!, that "try harder" wouldn't have worked no matter how often my parents said it. Heh... I'm in a different boat than you atm in that I'm still not diagnosed... and I'm hoping/praying that something IS WRONG WITH ME... Because if it isn't... then I'm in for a huge letdown.

Heh... sorry for (once again) turning a post about you and yours into a post about me... (I know... it's a gift:p)

Anywhoo:D