tatorbugs_mommy
12-04-03, 11:51 AM
hey everyone...its been awhile since i last posted but aot has been going on. I think the last time i posted we were deciding to take tator off meds. Well we did and at first i thought maybe this wouldent be so bad for him or us but last week i felt we really made the wrong decision. You see he had a very bad week at school and by the end of week not only did i feel i was such a bad mother but wonder if he should go back on them.
Every day i was getting phone calls the first one tator hit some one it was his best friend over a marker:eek: then tator he was swinging his hips back in forth (came from a cheer that my daughter does) he did it in frount of a little girl and they called it sexual harrasment. His teacher called me first because she knew how hard we was working with tator but she told me she was supose to turn it in to the office where the county would be call.
His teacher told me she had a little boy in her class last yr. that his dad let him watch porno and look at mag. well thats when i lost it...I DO NOT HAVE THIS STUFF AROUND MY HOUSE. she went on to say what we did was our business...and again i told her. I'm the type of parent that looks out for anything...he dosent watch nothing on t.v with sexual content ...and i sure dont look at porno. I know they want me to put him back on meds. but he dont want to be on them.
Well....that was right before thanksgiving holidays...and i half to say I was feeling like the worst mom ever..I cried, I research all I could and told my hubby (thank god he helps) that maybe we needed to try something else. Well hubby took tator to get some icecream and had a long talk with him...no yelling no raising his voice just a nice long peaceful talk and talked about the positive things tator was doing. He told tator if he started bringing home smilies (good conduct) and trying his best he would take tator for ice cream and a movie every weekend and he would let him start going back to pawpaws all he had to do is try his best.
I talked to his teacher about writing tator little notes to tell him something he did good that day..maybe letting him get up and walk around and help other kids or straighting up the book shelf to let him get rid of some of his energy. Other little things that are really simple O holding a stone in class so he can rub it when hes doing his work. I dont know which one work but this week he has been a different child. All good reports in his folder teacher writing he had wonderful day..i havent seen that one this yr.
Maybe he just needed a little more attention from his daddy or good words from the teacher or me right by his side from the time he gets home to he gets to bed..i'm not sure but whatever it is i'm glad its working. I half to say a.d.h.d. is hard rather on meds. It tries your patience and makes you wonder about your parenting skills...if you ever half to go through something like this plz dont be like me and feel your a bad parent...talk to your kids and maybe change some things you are doing i never dream that a simple ice cream and more words of encouragment would help but so far it is...it might not last we may half to try something else but i'm thankful to the good lord up above he blessed me with tatorbug and what ever gets thrown our way we will make it through with him(good lord) and good friends like you guys...sorry so long...
Tracy (tatorbugs_mommy)
Every day i was getting phone calls the first one tator hit some one it was his best friend over a marker:eek: then tator he was swinging his hips back in forth (came from a cheer that my daughter does) he did it in frount of a little girl and they called it sexual harrasment. His teacher called me first because she knew how hard we was working with tator but she told me she was supose to turn it in to the office where the county would be call.
His teacher told me she had a little boy in her class last yr. that his dad let him watch porno and look at mag. well thats when i lost it...I DO NOT HAVE THIS STUFF AROUND MY HOUSE. she went on to say what we did was our business...and again i told her. I'm the type of parent that looks out for anything...he dosent watch nothing on t.v with sexual content ...and i sure dont look at porno. I know they want me to put him back on meds. but he dont want to be on them.
Well....that was right before thanksgiving holidays...and i half to say I was feeling like the worst mom ever..I cried, I research all I could and told my hubby (thank god he helps) that maybe we needed to try something else. Well hubby took tator to get some icecream and had a long talk with him...no yelling no raising his voice just a nice long peaceful talk and talked about the positive things tator was doing. He told tator if he started bringing home smilies (good conduct) and trying his best he would take tator for ice cream and a movie every weekend and he would let him start going back to pawpaws all he had to do is try his best.
I talked to his teacher about writing tator little notes to tell him something he did good that day..maybe letting him get up and walk around and help other kids or straighting up the book shelf to let him get rid of some of his energy. Other little things that are really simple O holding a stone in class so he can rub it when hes doing his work. I dont know which one work but this week he has been a different child. All good reports in his folder teacher writing he had wonderful day..i havent seen that one this yr.
Maybe he just needed a little more attention from his daddy or good words from the teacher or me right by his side from the time he gets home to he gets to bed..i'm not sure but whatever it is i'm glad its working. I half to say a.d.h.d. is hard rather on meds. It tries your patience and makes you wonder about your parenting skills...if you ever half to go through something like this plz dont be like me and feel your a bad parent...talk to your kids and maybe change some things you are doing i never dream that a simple ice cream and more words of encouragment would help but so far it is...it might not last we may half to try something else but i'm thankful to the good lord up above he blessed me with tatorbug and what ever gets thrown our way we will make it through with him(good lord) and good friends like you guys...sorry so long...
Tracy (tatorbugs_mommy)