:( :( :( Hi! All I have a few questions reguarding my teen, she is 15 and has ADHD and ODD. Well to say the least this is a very trying time. She has and in-home support team which up until today came 3 times a week to teach her how to deal with her and anger and outbursts and limiting them and how to act productive and be compliant. Well she had her cell phone taken away at school (which I have asked her not to take with her) So I have taken the phone away as well as grounded her for the weekend. While her worker was here she ranted and raved for over an hour about how I am stupid my rules are stupid and how she was in the right and I had no right to ground her after taking the phone away. This is not the first time they took it so she knew better she made the choice on her own. She would not listen she cried she screamed and could not control herself or her anger. Now after this we go up another step to intense in-home group of 3 7 days a week after school. Yes Ashley does make some pretty messed up decissions but I really don't think she can control them. She is not on meds. YET they are trying to teach other ways to vent. If she keeps on they will place her out of my home. And she knows this I don't understand how she can know this and not even try to tell me how much more that we can help her. She closes up and what she thinks at that time is pretty much it. I DON'T want her out of my home. I don't think that would help. What do you guys think that I could do to help her.

Um, why is she not on meds to begin with? I would have to know that before I proceeded.

And welcome to ADDF Aspoiled **waves over the state line** :)

Agreed, why no meds? I have seen kids like this at school and they have a terrible time learning and make everyone miserable-when they are on their meds, the difference is significant-they actually like learning, the other kids like them, and they function! Not perfectly, but at least they are not losing control completely and utterly all the time.

CHADD belives that meds along with teaching behavioral stratagies is the best. Some say that behaior cannot be treated until the impulsivity, and attention are corrected with meds. I would take her to your pedi, and ask for some meds. That is just my advise.

I totally agree on the meds. If things are so out of control, why not try them? I know there are lots of stigmas about meds but really you should give them a try. If you child had diabetes or cancer, would you not try the meds to make it better? Its amazing how much better my DD is. I can tell things are better with her as I am so much more relaxed as there is less to get worked up about.

Hugs to you.... sounds like you have a rough situation. Teenagers are difficult regardless of other issues.