What do the female members think about the women's section of ADD Forums? Should it be for women only?

Should only women be able to post in the women's forum?

It really doesn't bother me when men post in the women's sections - as long as they have something relevant to say about the subject.

I think that is fine that men post in the women's section. I think that "women's" is probably just a convenient label for the forum under which topics exist that may be of interest to women in particlular.

Who knows, they may even have something valuable to say!;)

The best way for men to understand women is for thoughtful dialog to take place between the two sexes. And though we women have natural (!) features in common, we don't really know each other any more than we really know any of the men. We are, after all, only virtual people, aren't we?

I agree with Ace, Flakey Girl, and Ferrette. The men can post, provided it's on-topic, same as us. BEsides, every once in a while, I like to browse the men's forum - cause I like to see another perspective. Not often, just once in a while. Usually I don't bother cause it doesn't pertain to what I want at that point in time.

Well, those men have to deal with us women. As long as it is on topic, bring it on. Same goes for us posting on the mens section. The exceptions being things that are sensitive to each gender, I.E. I saw a posting about sexual dysfunction in men regarding certain meds, I understand why they would want to keep that all men on that posting.

I'm all for keeping the mix open; and like the thought than men would be interested in the women's section and women being interested in the men's section.

I often get roasted for this, but find that what sometimes seems like a women's-only issues can also pertain to men in a hidden way- like male menopause and male homonal cycles. I seriously believe in male monopause; and my dad (who I'm certain has been going through this) cannot open up to that possibility because "Men don't have menopause!!" If he would, I think it would alleviate a lot of his stress and anxiety over his current state of being and give him the knowledge to take remedies for a sudden hormonal defficiency- or at least realize that he's not just losing his mind!

Relevancy, open dialogue- she nods in agreement.

We pretty much all have same problems so as Maddonna would say, The More the Merrier! As long as it is ok wiht htem if we post in theirs....we are here to help each other reguardless of sex or lack of it.

OMG why did I just make that sex comment, I am sorry Tara it's 5 am when I wrote this and I am a goofball.

I'm all for posting in either forum; I have gotten the best advice on how to deal with marital problems and such from my male friends and I have given them advice. It's nice to see things from a male prospective sometimes; but, I do think it's important that we remember every person here has feelings and deserve's the proper amount of respect. HUGSSSSSSSSS

I personally don't think there should be any threads that are for a certain sex or other stereotype......

We're ALL ADD/ADHD (or partners of such).....so we should ALL get to participate in all threads...assuming the postings stay on topic...

Gender differences are not stereo types. Though we all share the AD/HD experiences there are issues that are gender specific to both males and females.

As it stands right now the majority of forum members do feel comfortable discussing gender specific issues with both genders.

I don't mind at all. As long as they don't mind us going in the mens section I see no problem with it.

Well, it's starting to sound like the men might gate their section off. If that happens, will women here who have as majority said that they want to keep it open feel they should change their mind? I don't think it has to be eye for an eye here, I would still want the women's section open.

If the men's section was to close, would anyone else feel like they may lose the benefit of reading from the male side?

In the next few weeks will be implementing password protected forums which people must subscribe too. I don't know if we will password protect the current men's and women's sections or add addtional ones.

http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=3378&perpage=15&pagenumber=6

When I see mens/womens I just think specific issues (like pregnancy and meds), not who actually posts em there... though they just might not have the experience in certain areas lol... i havent browsed the mens section yet hmmm.. will have to take a peek :) Besides.. a little input from the other sex can ocacasionally make you see the other side of an issue.. I think.. I think I just dont care who posts where :)

My opinion remains that anybody can post here. I don't see any harm in it. I say keep "ours" open, regardless of what they do with "theirs". I think we should give guys a chance to better understand us as a gender population. They need all the help they can get. I do not mean that sarcastically.


Gosh, they boys seem to be having a terrible time working it out. I'll admit to peeking at thier section. They make it so darned interesting. I could resist, athough I'm sure it would be difficult for me to do so, if they REALLY wanted privacy.

I think everyone needs all the help they can get with the other sex.. One min ya think ya got em figured out, the next you're clueless.. Well I am anyhow.. Don't know about the rest of you.. :)

I sooo totally agree with ya there ,brilliant. :)

I think it would be ok too.

i guess it would be okay for the guys to post in the womens area...i mean we have fought for many years to be 'equals' although that i dont think will really ever actually happen in the minds of some men but that is not the issue....sure let them post here.

Ha! What the heck are the guys talking about in there that we can't read?? Now my curiousity is piqued....I must find out!!

On to the "He-Man Woman Haters" forum!! See ya!

I don't have a problem with men reading the women's forums. I might take a peek at thiers but not feel the need to post. If I had something I felt was important to one of the members on the forum I would probably write them privately off main post.

I was on one of the woman's threads relating to monthly cycles and some young man was becoming a bit crude, and being silly. The modulators quickly deleted his replys and warned him (thanks). I am not sure if men should be able to post on topics such as how ADD effects thier menstrual cycle (vis versaa) since they don't have menses.

Maybe there should be one where women and men exchange ideas seperate from the women's only. Like men definitly can relate to how women's monthly effects others in thier lives.

I don't know I am easy....that would be easy going.. as I have learned to over look the annoying, ignorant etc.

Tammy

I don't have a problem with men posting in the women's forum. As someone said, it's all a matter of relevancy.

I think some of the male members of the forum have been just as insightful and helpful for me as the females. I would not want to limit constructive and helpful coments based on gender. There will always be someone that makes a stupid remark here and there but I don't think that will be based on gender.

Also, if the gender based boards are limited then lurkers will not be able to get anything from the boards. There are always 3 times more visitors looking at the site than there are members. Or at least that is the trend I have seen when looking to see who is online. Perhaps a separate board for sensitive issues in addition to the regular Women's board???

I think the benefits of having an open - but themed - forum outweigh the risks. Just my 2 cents

Why have women's or men's only anything at all? Sounds awful Brown vs. Board of Education to me. I remember when they were forced to open up that men's health club in Sacramento to women because a lawyer sued claiming she was losing out on business opportunities. Within 6 months, they wanted a separate "women's only" section of the gym (ogle free zone) and a separate bathroom/locker room area retrofit - HA! kind of defeats the whole argument of "mingling for business" don't it?

I think the whole point of a forum is a somewhat anonymous place to exchange ideas, and so far as I can tell, keyboards, mice and monitors don't have a gender (it ain't like we'll have to shower together when we finish typing!)

analog, this is NOT about "segregation" in that sense....

and if you stop and think about it...there are issues that women face that men do not and vice versa

BTW, how often do you seen a gynecologist? :D

one more thing....yeah, it's monitors and keyboards and mice alright, but they don't start typing information by themselves...it takes either a man or a woman sitting at them :p

1) does segregation by any other name smell just as bad?
2) any issue that faces a man (vis a vis ADD) faces the woman who he shares a life with.
3) last time my WIFE hand an APPOINTMENT and needed the SUPPORT.
4) to show what a profoundly fecund point I had, unless we are in a shower room, how can a moderator even be POSITIVE that a person claiming to be a woman isn't really a man????? So the keyboard IS gender neutral, because gender cannot be VERIFIED over 10/100 CAT-5 cable!

2) any issue that faces a man (vis a vis ADD) faces the woman who he shares a life with.
Ah, but that's also a reason why we have Non-ADD support and Men with ADD support areas. :p (unless of course, it's something DIRECTLY related to issues that a woman faces due to her gender)


3) last time my WIFE hand an APPOINTMENT and needed the SUPPORT.
I meant that you went to the gynecologist for YOURSELF. heh In other words, and as it's been said here before, men and women have different needs (whether ADD or not actually).


4) to show what a profoundly fecund point I had, unless we are in a shower room, how can a moderator even be POSITIVE that a person claiming to be a woman isn't really a man????? So the keyboard IS gender neutral, because gender cannot be VERIFIED over 10/100 CAT-5 cable!
Kind of tying into my statement above about gynecologists....I'd kinda doubt too many men coming into a forum to talk about their problems with PMS and childbirth. (Meaning their own, not their S.O.'s.....:p). i.e. I know I wouldn't post anywhere about my dealings with prostate cancer, because frankly, I don't have one. :p

Of course, I believe the same question about keeping the gender areas of the forum off limits to the opposite sex was posed in the men's area. And honestly, I don't see a real reason to keep them private. But it is important that there are separate areas for the differences to keep things organized here. Kinda like having separate areas for the different co-morbidities. Rather than lump them all into one area, they are nice and separated and organized...one who wants to read up on depression issues doesn't have to sift through a bunch of asperger's posts to find depression. heh

I just don't see any reason for anyone of either sex getting erked because we have separate forums for each.

Cheers :D

I have been to another discussion group which has separate mens and womens forums. There have never been any problems with "spies" cross gender.

However, amusingly, when chatting with a male friend in the forum, I said the women primarily talked about their real life personal problems and sometimes the younger ones asked for advice.

He said that in the mens forum, they were wondering if the women were talking about them....:D


All that being said...isn't it only the most delicate of matters that people would feel the most private about? In the other discussion group there is also an Over 18 forum, where most people discuss their personal issues where both genders can post. It gets much more use than the women's forum, and I think people do appreciate the input from both sexes.

I can't help it --->let's see shower together would be a different site some where along the Aduld friend some thing or other...<---- I believe in the organization thing as I like the way things are divided so I can go to sections I am interested in with out sifting through twenty seven other topics. This is an ADD FORUM who has the attention span to sift through adult issues mingled together just to find one on relationships, prostates or PMS??? I don't know about the forbidding to post I think that should depend on the modulators how closely they can track post on sensitive issues?? It is hard enough to talk about certain issues with people who are sensitive to your situation. Add one smart-alic having an ADD moment and it could ruin the whole thing.

Men and women are different and have different needs. Even thier brains are wired differently. Thebrainplace.com has stuff on that.....Doubt the difference ever seen a woman urinate on a fire sucessfully???/Ever had a man tell you first hand about labor or PMS????We are equal but equality doesn't mean sameness or alike it means equal!!! We are different that is what makes this planet so interesting!!!

I think it is good the way it is already structured. Men "can" post here, and women "can" post in the men's section.

The biggest plus I can see is the ability for both sexes to be able to see the differences inherent in each other with ADHD.:D

Just my 2 cents:)

Humm...I voted NO in the poll because what's the point of saying this is a women's forum if it is open to men as well? Why bother giving it a label? I kinda like the concept of a 'hen party' , no men allowed. :) If it's not just for women then maybe the forum title should be changed to 'Everybody with ADD Forum'.

I like the way it is set up now too, that both men and women can post... As long as the topics are all about ADD issues that are unique to women or even men asking the women's advice on problems with either ADD or nonADD women in their life.

And I, for one, would be happy if that something I thought was just a women's issue ended up getting responses from men saying they have the same problem - the more the merrier when it comes to sympathizing with ADD life, I say!

I'm all for allowing men to post in the women's forum, so long as they have a valid point and aren't just trying to impose their world-view on the female half of the population.

Its been my experience that most men that would first of all even bother checking out a web site like this are already a bit more in touch with their feminine side. Even if the subject is PMS, I'd hate to think there was a guy out there who's wife had found an actual solution, but he didn't think he should share the info.

Besides, I think its a good thing to have access to info from the other side!!!

What if we're transgendered? Where would we be allowed to post? Would it even be possible to apply for passwords for both forums, if they were private?

I voted before my mind said "wait"...I have nerve damage in my hands & sometimes my fingers just start "clicking" before my mind is even aware of it. I voted that only women should do the posts in the Women's Forum...that was incorrect. The one that I would have choosen wasn't there but on the other hand since I'm a "Newbie" it may already exist & I'm just not aware of it, yet. I think that there should be a "place" for "Women Only" just as their should be a place for "Men Only"..........before anyone says we "women" have equal rights....I was one of the ones that marched & protested for Equal Rights For All. But occassionally things will come up...and if it is a women only group a question or comment will be made...it does seem that this is more with younger women as oppossed to those my age, 51. And to you guys out there....it's not always about you and it's not always about sex. The one thing that a place for "women only" seems to accomplish no matter where it is or what form it is in...it that while a woman is in that place she can put herself first & concentrate on things that have to do with her. Of course those things do naturally include her family..hubby, kids, ect. But she doesn't have to worry about any guilt coming her way is she doesn't talk about that part of her life.
BlessedLady

I would prefer if the men had theirs and we had ours. There are plenty of public forums to discuss whatever........I do get "testy" when a guy tries to explain what I am feeling, or what I just said. We, by nature, communicate differently, and it would be nice to be read by and responded to by other women only. I dont think it is segregation, we are different......why not embrace it.

And by the way, just FYI, I think that if a woman wants to be on the fire dept, she should be able to pull the same weight out of a fire that a man can. And all that goes with that. I guess I just dont understand what is wrong with a mans space, and a womans space, seperate from each other. We dont spend every waking moment with someone of the opposite sex, even our spouses. I think it is good to seperate once in a while.

Ok, Im done rambling.