How do other partners of ADHDrs manage to stay out of resentful world. I hate feeling this way and yet here I am again. With the scale being so unbalanced and as another poster put it there is no correct way to ask for help. What do you do? The example was If you ask them to pay the bills and then you remind them they get furious and tell you they are not stupid but if you don't remind them and they forget it is your fault too because you should know how forgetful they can be. I feel like every thought I have will just come across as nitpicking can't there be a partnership? I was waiting in line at the deli counter to get lunch meat for my husbands sandwiches and he asked if we needed anything else. I said yes avocados and tomatoes. His eyes glazed over and he said how tired he was feeling. Do you think he could walk 15 steps to get them?? We get to the car and the poor tired guy was able to find enough energy to dance around and pick a pretend fight with the kids throwing toilet paper back and forth. Unloading the car he disappeared and showed back up again after everything was put away. I cooked dinner which is his job and then he comes and gets me to tell me he washed our son the last 2 times in the bathtub and it was my turn. Well hell that may be true but what did he do today while I paid the bills, went through piles of mail, did all the laundry, got the kids to clean their rooms, cleaned the house. He managed to play cowboy with the boys for 5 minutes and watched tv the rest of the day. I am sure he did more but I am having a hard time finding my optimistic glass half full personality today. I hate how I sound it seems so shallow that all these little things are getting to me today. I don't always feel this way but it seems to be a re-occuring theme and I hate cycleing back here again and again. I like to fix a problem and move on not keep hitting my head agains the wall over and over again. My therapist has suggested dividing up chores but he never seems to want to sit down and make a plan. He was suppose to do a load of laundry in the morning and I would do one at night daily. That lasted 3 days when I asked what happeded he accused me of trying to start a fight. He has agreed to cook that lasted a week now we are back to eating out every meal. I am very good at orgnizing businesses why can't I figure out how to get things to flow here? Hopefully tomorrow I will feel better!

Just wanted to say that I don't think it seems shallow that these things are getting to you sometimes.

There are of course ways to explain why it may be he goes from very energized to very unenergized like that, but I don't think that's what you're after right now.

Are you married to my husband???

Seriously, those things aren't petty at all. They represent partnership. The half-and-half give-and-take part of every good relationship.

No advice here, but a lot of sympathy!

the thing is to tey think above that if you love them then you have a strgen basics to work from life is not easy we kknow most here have been were you are an cos some have not each day set galls an see whats been acoblesshed at each end ofve week to soee if porguesss is working good luck to you an hubby dorm