I am a very opinionated person. However when I am in person, I can not stand up in front a group of people and talk. And even with people I don't know well one on one. I feel like I am being judged, and I just don't want any confrontation. I don't want somebody to question me on what I am saying... so I just don't say anything.

Same thing with public speaking, etc..

What do you think this could be?

I found some interesting notes in a table that compares ADHD intentive type vs. hyperactive ADHD.

Two points interested me:

The non-hyperactive ADD'er is described as shy and fearful of others' displeasure, and desperate to succeed so will keep trying to long resulting in being overwhelmed and despairing. This tendency can lead to anger.

Also they aim to please, and may lie in order to avoid anger or disapproval.

I have always had horrible problems with confrontation or even lively discussion which includes dissention. I want everyone to "just get along."

I have seen posts on this forum where people say after they started medication they were better at working out problems on the spot and not internalizing their fear and feelings of worthlessness. Sorry I can't remember exactly where I read this, perhaps others can remind you of the details.

Good luck, thanks for sharing! :p

I found some interesting notes in a table that compares ADHD intentive type vs. hyperactive ADHD.

Two points interested me:

The non-hyperactive ADD'er is described as shy and fearful of others' displeasure, and desperate to succeed so will keep trying to long resulting in being overwhelmed and despairing. This tendency can lead to anger.

Also they aim to please, and may lie in order to avoid anger or disapproval.

I have always had horrible problems with confrontation or even lively discussion which includes dissention. I want everyone to "just get along."

I have seen posts on this forum where people say after they started medication they were better at working out problems on the spot and not internalizing their fear and feelings of worthlessness. Sorry I can't remember exactly where I read this, perhaps others can remind you of the details.

Good luck, thanks for sharing! :p
Is this the table your talking about?

http://www.ldpride.net/addsub-types.htm

Wow! Thanks to both of you for that table.

The non-hyperactive ADD explains me a lot! After reading posts here, I was beginning to worry I did not have ADD because everyone else had some very different symptoms. I will explain my symptoms by the points in the table:

1. Fear; anxiety; low brain energy leading to a capacity problem; slow cognitive thinking; daydreaming; avoidance and procrastination; mental confusion; poor memory retrieval. But the frontal processes are intact so these people rely on logic: I do rely on logic a lot... I'm said to be very logical. And I do think slower...

2. Rarely impulsive but can appear so when frustrated: I'm not impulsive at all. I hoard all my money, as said in another thread, and I will always talk myself out of buying things (Although I think this may be in part of the way I grew up) I am impulsive over my fav. band, but that's different. I always think things through, and since half the time I can't think, I just don't do it.



<FONT face=Arial>3. <FONT face=Arial size=3>This is the primary problem. They cannot sustain attention and concentration because:

Never,

All words/thoughts/ideas that anyone has ever claimed is their opinion.

It doesn't matter who they are.

You're entitled to yours as much as anyone else is.

If you feel comfortable with your opinion, you don't have to justify it, to anyone.
If you want to change it, you are entitled to do that also.

Know that some people are going to sometimes feel passionate, about their opinion, as much as you do, sometimes.

It doesn't mean anyone is really 'right or wrong'.

Its just a perspective of differing opinions.

We'll all go through life, meeting others who either share our opinions (never exactly the same way, but close enough, and that's ok), or others who have differing opinions, on any given subject.

Look at it that way.

The nifty trick, is not to get 'caught up', in always assuming that others opinions are more 'worthy' than yours. And the niftier trick, is if you're able to not do that either, with others.

State your opinions.
And allow others to state theirs...but know you don't have to agree, or even disagree, on occasion..and know that others will most likely be doing the same.

As for public speaking, that's an entirely different subject.
You can take courses in speech, that might alleviate anxiety, when speaking in front of an assembly.

very true nova i could not put it better myself if you think it say it cos its who you are dorm

Is this the table your talking about?

http://www.ldpride.net/addsub-types.htm
thank you so much for leading me there. I will print this off. This is not so much for me, but may help my wife understand a little more what i go thru. again thank you so much.

i have similar issues when it comes to restarting dexedrine for a couple of days I have the childhood history of meds and regress a bit and get an attitude about it. I also tend to get in significant legal trouble as a result of the lack of impulse control. My doctor last time threatened a court order if I did it again. But I find that rather than the fear of other's opinions it's in a way seeking reassurance for something I am not used to having (impulse control)